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My username says a little something about me, but it's definitely not completely me. I am, in small part, a cool cuckold. Just in case you aren't familiar with the term cuckold, it refers to a man, usually a little submissive sometimes, but not always bisexual, that finds some kind of sexual gratification in seeing or knowing that his woman is sexually engaged in some way with another man. It's true that sometimes I may fantasize about that. There are components of humiliation, female dominance, voyeurism and exhibitionism, hetero-flexibility, escapism, maybe a lack of a drive to compete (against males biologically) and a general sense that it's stimulating to see your girl enjoy herself with another man and the feeling of doing something kind of socially taboo. All of these are things I'm drawn to, but being honest, I've never really been with a girl that would do anything further than fantasize about it with me--which was great, a huge turn-on, but I'm searching for a girl who will actually enjoy a relationship where this kind of activity or behavior can be explored, nurtured and enjoyed by us both--at least on rare or exceptional occasions--I'm not suggestion that it's the basis for a relationship or that it happens all the time; far from it actually.
I am looking primarily for what might in time become a long term relationship with a beautiful woman. Realistically, there are many variations of relationships that hold value and that's an important thing to keep in mind when exploring new ones. To me it doesn't much matter if a relationship is long or short, deep or casual, or whatever; what's important to me is that it is honest. In my humble opinion, when two people act honestly, responsibly and respectful towards each other and towards themselves, then good things can be borne naturally and organically. What's mean to happen will happen. It'll take on a life of its own, live, grow and eventually pass on or live on. And that's all I'm asking for. Achieving just that actually will be very satisfying for me.
You should know that I'm a young guy; single, white, 40. Never married (almost once), no kids. No real responsibilities yet (house payment, car payment, child support, alimony). I'm just responsible for me and for doing my job. I'm a manager at work and though it's not my dream job, it does allow me a small degree of financial security. So, except for taking care of me and doing my job, I've got a lot of time to focus my attention on finding a good woman and doing my best to build a healthy relationship that is fulfilling for us both. I feel good about being able to offer myself up and I hope that one day soon a good person reads this profile and understands that I'm an opportunity that shouldn't be missed.
More stats: I live alone in a house that I rent. I have a 2009 compact car. Full time work. 5'10"'s tall. Average build (though I ought to lose 25 pounds and work on that muscle tone a little more often). I'm definitely not into material things, but it's not because I can't afford them, it's just that I don't always see the value in spending a bunch of money in stuff that'll eventually end up in a landfill. I prefer to spend money on experiences; things like good company, good food, travel, art and leisure. I don't exactly know where I stand politically although I probably lean way more left than right--it just depends on the issue. I enjoy books, movies and music. I have an interest in self improvement and would love to learn more about cooking, dancing, becoming vegetarian, playing an instrument and learning another language. I also like to travel so that is something that is definitely on my itinerary much sooner than later.
Books: I used to have a real nice library that I collected at used bookstores and swap meets. Eventually I gave most of them away to friends. A list of favorites might include Kerouac, Dostoevsky, Marquez, Dickens, Steinbeck, Conrad, Hamsun, Boll and a whole heck of a lot more. I used to feel, I don't know, kind of intellectually inferior and it was through books that I tried to catch up to my peers. It was an enjoyable pursuit and I have a deep appreciation for great authors and their ability to communicate with the reader. (Wish that were happening with this profile... but lo, I don't consider myself a writer or that much of creative type... I just hope to succeed at communicating and connecting, compelling and inspiring).
Music: Shit tons! Mostly old stuff though. There is so much new music being released all of the time that I gave up trying to keep up over a decade ago... maybe around the time that grunge hit its apex. That's not to say that I don't like newer music, I do, a lot of it is great in fact, it's just that I don't keep up and am totally uniformed. I have hundreds and hundreds of albums spanning decades and genres. I wouldn't call myself a DJ, but I like to think of myself as a decent 'selector'. I can lay down funk, soul, underground hip hop, classic rock, reggae, latin, brazilian and a few african grooves that will get your butt shaking. Mostly from the 70's on upward. Basically, if it's groovy and swings then I'll probably like it. But I also enjoy lots of other sounds and I have a good appreciation for finding something to like in almost anything.
Movies: Way to many to list, but it's a list that is probably partly shared by many. I liked Amelie, Like Water For Chocolate, American History X, Blue Velvet, Reservoir Dogs, City of God, City of Lost Children, Delicatessen, Zoolander, shoot, tons more. Drama, action, comedy, noir, westerns, martial arts, indie and documentaries that aren't too boring.
Travel: My bags are packed and I'm always down for checking out someplace new. I've been to England, France, Holland, Germany, Italy, Greece, Spain, Morocco, Mexico too many times to count--real Mexico, not just TJ or Baja, Australia and some of the wester US. On my bucket list is Brazil, Eastern Europe, Asian countries, Central and South America--well, ok, everywhere that I haven't been and then I'll double up and revisit everywhere a second time. Wish I had the time and money, but I'm not going to give up without a fight.
Friends and family: as you might imagine, since I'm online dating, it's not perfect. I've still got the skills, but they haven't been used in a long time. I may have some rough edges, but I'm worth getting to know and there is a lot to appreciate in me. And since I don't have a huge social network or a lot of family obligations to keep up with, I have a lot of free time to devote to someone who will appreciate it. Lucky for them.
Sex & Romance: This is a sex site, so might as well express some of it. I'm single and am currently not dating or playing with anyone. While I do appreciate the occasional casual fling, it isn't really the kind of fulfilling relationship that I'm looking for. Romantically, I want something real, stable, honest, substantial. Yeah, it's hard to find, mold and hold together, but I can do the work especially if I feel a inspiring magic with someone. Sexually, well there is a lot there, but I hope a potential partner will be able to indulge my fantasies--at least most of them--and better yet, it's my most sincere hope that she will share and enjoy those fantasies. I hope to find someone that fits me so well that we both become partners and nurturers of each other. I want us to be sensual, hedonistic, romantic and able to shake each others minds, bodies and souls.
This profile is open to all, but I'm most interested in finding a single woman, a slim possibility of a trans-gender M2F, a couple, or the super rare single male. Relationship-wise, just a single female probably. For play, I'm a little more open to exploring interesting variants. I identify as a hetero-flexible switch and I think that's pretty accurate. I'd probably most enjoy another switch; straight or bisexual not being of too much importance. One thing that I think is important is that in a romantic relationship, a sexual relationship, intuition and attention, understanding and empathy, all of that stuff is important. I'd like to become involved with a person who understands that there is a time and a place for everything--someone who can read between the lines, who can feel the subtlety and who can sense the nuances set in time spent together. Sometimes we'll need to be friends, sometimes we'll need to be confidants, sometimes we'll need to be caregivers, sometimes we'll need to be rocks, sometimes we'll need to be shoulders to cry on, sometimes we'll need to be motivators, devils advocates, ass kickers, whatever. I'm not saying that we'll be perfect at all things all the time, that would be impossible. There are bound to be some issues. The important thing to me is finding someone who thinks these things are important too and who will try to do their best with the resources that they have. That's what I can give and I hope I can earn enough respect to deserve the same in return, but not out of a feeling of obligation, but because my partner will just want to because it feels good and right to do so.
Attraction: Yes, this may sound shallow to some, but I can't help it. Maybe it's biology, society or whatever. I think it's mostly biology and my own refined sense of aesthetics... everybody has theirs and I think its not a bad thing to acknowledge them. As I said, this profile is for everyone, so if you think you don't fit perfectly into my image, don't worry, if you feel me, then just write. Beauty comes in many shapes and forms and is often discovered in unexpected places. Plus, inner beauty usually makes people more attractive. It's like wine though, it comes more slowly after given time to breath a little. Ok, so I'm usually attracted to girls that are shorter than me and skinnier than me. I like skinny, thin, athletic and average builds mostly. Sometimes a little extra padding looks good, but that depends on how a woman carries herself and how she dresses and stuff. I usually like younger girls (I know typical guy shit, but I'm not the type to ditch my girl for a girl half my age), but I can also appreciate older women and the things that they have to offer. A, B, and C cups are great with my favorite probably being an A or B. I've had strong attractions for girls with shaved heads and with hairy legs, but generally I like long hair and tight smooth skin. The bottom line is that I love women and they come in such a wonderful variety that I don't exactly have a type, what I have is a sense of attraction and I'm going to need to see someone to gauge that accurately. And, if it's not yet clear, a persons attitude and personality carry huge weight in how attractive they are. If you look like a model, but act like a bitch, then I'm going to want to satisfy my sexual urges with you but I'll probably not like hanging out much. Likewise, you might not look very good in a conventional sense, but if you are super cool and nice and we connect on a mental level, then I'm very likely to see your inner beauty--the result of which is that It'll actually change how I view your outward appearance--if we connect mentally and emotionally, then you'll become more physically attractive to me over time. I know because it's happened before and it's an amazing phenomenon.
Getting back to the sex thing one more time, and maybe this is a mistake, but I'd rather not waste each others time to opening up just bits and pieces at a time, keeping things in for later, trying to measure how you'll react, if I'll be judged or accepted or rejected. I've walked the slow road and life is too short for that. So, things I enjoy (and things that I hope you'll enjoy as well (or if not enjoy, at least indulge me as I'd indulge you--support and nurture, tolerate and accept)): cuckold, threesomes, swinging, oral sex, vaginal and anal sex, public sex, masturbation, porn, something I call 'bisexual lite', cum, golden showers and rough sex. I've got to say that a potential sex life with a potential partner will not include all of these things all of the time. In fact, some might never happen. I just wanted to share them here out of a sense of honesty and efficiency. Most of the time a sex life between us would probably be rather normal, but it would be great in that through sex we would have a channel of communicating strong feelings for each other that we can't find words for. Sex, at its best, is a way to communicate love. So, it won't always be rough, or be kinky, or be perverted--most the time probably not. But sometimes, yes, I hope it will be.
A first date? I'd first ask what you like. But if you were to defer to me, then I'd probably suggest something easy and inexpensive like a short walk in a public place. If we were enjoying ourselves, we could have a drink or a bite to eat. I am always open to suggestions though and I love new things. So, movie, theater, hike, you name it. For casual sexers, I'm not exactly looking for that, but it's hard to turn down a good offer. Let me know what you've got in mind.
Ok, boy that's kind of a long profile. If you've made it all the way down to here, then I think you understand that you need to write me. There is something we should investigate in each other. You are a cool, smart, nurturing, fit and healthy woman who is available physically and emotionally to begin the process of getting to know someone new. You can open up and let someone in and you can try to let whatever happens happens. No pressure, no designs, no expectations, just letting things go with the flow. I'm easy. Honest. Calm. Undemanding. Girls usually say they feel safe and calm around me. I hope you will too.
***Oh, almost forgot, transgender can contact me too. I'm not opposed to exploring relationships with you. I fantasize frequently about transgender encounters. Couples should contact me too, especially if the male doesn't mind a little hand jobbing and cocksucking (I don't kiss, cuddle or do anything like that with men). I love being invited to threesomes MMF or FFM. I can always find the sweet spot weather dom or sub. And most rarely of all, single men for watching straight porn together, maybe jacking off, sucking... that's about it really--limited there, but fun sometimes nonetheless. I like circumcised penises that are clean 6 inches or bigger and pubic hair that is trimmed down.
+++I was tested for STD's in early March, clean for everything. I intend to stay that way. So I don't want to be contacted by anybody that is positive for any STD or who doesn't know/hasn't been tested. Get tested and play safe. It's good for you and it's good for everyone else. It's no big deal and it makes the world a safer more carefree place to live and play.
P.S. I'm a real person. Not a bot. Not a spammer. Not a picture collector. I'm looking for real people for real meet-ups. I desire real connections and real relationships. I have the same fears and insecurities as everyone else. I'm not flawless and I don't expect perfection in others. Knowing this in advance means that we can both get together, have our first date jitters, mess up a little, and even still have a second and third date. Getting comfortable with someone takes time. A lot of pressure is on the first date, or even first phone call, let's already agree that online dating and first dates and all that are awkward and a ripe place for anxiety, nerves and small errors. Since we know that, aren't we empowered to forget all about them. We're only human and we ought to be able to appreciate each other even when we aren't perfect.
And if you want to see a photo of me, I'd be happy to email one to you outside of CM. I kinda work in a public place, and I wouldn't be too happy if somebody connected my online persona and my work-life personality. It's no big deal, just send me a request and an email address... just write to me first so that I know you aren't just a picture collector.
And, in the event that you like what you read, but you aren't interested, please forward my profile to a friend that you think I'd be perfect for. This would be a heck of a lot easier with the help on an online matchmaker.
Interested parties should also live somewhat close to me. I'm not against a little drive for the right person, but I'm not doing an online only, long distance, or driving over an hour. One hour. Don't write me unless you live within a one hour drive of Long Beach/LA/OC. The only acceptable exception being people traveling to my area or for people who'd like to host me when I travel to their area.
Ok, I've said quite enough and I'm going to shut my trap now. Your turn.
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