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	Polite, well mannered Alpha-Male open to finding the right properly submissive female to use for my pleasure for an ongoing, long-term relationship. Do not mistake my being polite and having manners for either weakness or stupidity. You will be well used, challenged and expected to perform as desired. I am honest, fair, and very level headed. Rewards and punishment will be as required. I am not a sadist, but can be strong and demanding as necessary to train you. If I do accept you, you will feel safe, secure, cherished and completely and thoroughly owned. You should be reasonably well mannered, polite, able to hold a conversation, open to having your boundaries pushed, properly submissive (with me) and serious about eventually becoming involved in a D/s relationship over which you will have limited control (except for your always-present choice to leave). Your wants and desires will be taken into account, but ultimately this is about meeting my needs, and if you can't be serious about that, you should probably just move on. Do not waste my time if you are only interested in just pixels, pics and word-play. Do not waste my time if you are a game player, scammer, professional, etc. Regarding couples: While I am not looking for a couple, but might consider the right cuckolding situation. Proceed at your own risk. *** Interesting .. It had been quite some time since I've looked at this. I definitely come off much harder than I present myself in day-to-day life. But thinking about it, I had re-written this after dealing with several people on here who seemed mostly just interested in wasting pixels and other peoples (my) time. I do like to exchange emails and answer questions even without expectations, but if you say you want to pursue something more serious with me, the first part of this profile does apply.

1/20/2015 9:47:02 AM

I want to start off by saying that most fo the people I have communicated with on this site have been great. Unfortunately there have been exceptions.

Trying to have a conversation with a few of the people on this site can be quite the experience. Some of them seem to be so wrapped up in their own drama that normal communication seems impossible. Recently I had another such experience.

And so (because I bothered to write this and you gave it the deleted unread treatment):

Well Dinah, I guess we're at an impasse until one of us gives a bit.

If you remember, I started all of this off with an offer of conversation. You seemed interested and we talked a bit. Then you suggested the idea of possibly inviting me into your your life in a sexual manner. This suggestion was yours, but something I didn't immediately object to. I did have concerns, especially since your profile listed you as having a Dom, and I'm not big on jumping into other people's drama.

My query for a bit more information about the basics of your situation way answered with a demand for a picture and a very defensive attitude. I had always maintained a polite and conversational attitude, and you were the one to shift into a defensive and confrontational attitude when I didn't immediately give you what you asked for. You also flat out refused to provide me with any background on your situation.

So the cliff notes is .. we chat, you suggest we may want to fuck and demand a pic .. I say hold on, I need to know more about you and your situation before going any farther .. and then you get upset because I'm not doing what you want.

Certainly not what I had expected from my initial offer for conversation. And if you pull that kind of BS with your daddy dom and he falls for it .. well .. I guess you belong together, lol.

11/15/2014 8:21:40 PM

Wow, just re-read my last entry .. quite the attitude, lol. A bit over the top, but the ideas presented are valid.

Moving on.

It never ceases to amaze me with how many (would be) subs just want to complain about all the things they don't like in their lives, but not really change them. And at the same time expect that by some miracle an outside force (or Dom .. or Daddy) will auto-magically fix their lives. All without need for them to use any personal effort or make any changes or get rid of any destructive habits. And when challenged directly about their fears or reluctance to change they run and hide.

Simply put, if you don't have the strength to look honestly at yourself in a mirror and strip away all the bullshit we tend to surround ourselves with, then you don't have the strength needed for real submission. And real change. Until you are ready to let go of your own bullshit, you will never be ready to be truly submissive. It will never truly be about your Dom until it stops being about you. That doesn't need to mean submission without limits, but it does need to mean openness, honesty and a willingness to learn and grow.

6/11/2014 11:40:11 AM

I recently sent a message to someone who seemed to have a very unrealistic set of expectations and demands, but was seeking her version of "the perfect Dom". As expected, she didn't even bother to read what I'd written, but I figured I'd save a copy and post it up here. There's so much of this on this site, and I continually find it humorous.

To .. Deleted Unread ..,

First, I have no interest in fucking you so please try not to project any of that bullshit into how you think about my response to your profile & journal. What I am offering is a chance for you to think critically about how you are presenting yourself here, and perhaps about your expectations from this site. And perhaps the lifestyle. (Yeah, I know sentence fragment .. get over it)

On one hand, your profile reads like you're looking exclusively for "the one", but he must have years of experience and a loving and caring personality. And also not be currently in a relationship of any kind, not have any children, etc., etc., etc.

Seriously?!? Good luck .. And happy unicorn hunting.

Most experienced Doms who really know what they are doing don't need this site. And most also probably don't "need" to put up with someone who sounds high maintenance, has a long laundry list of "must have" check-boxes, and also wants a loving, monogamous relationship expected to end in marriage. With a large side-helping of vanilla relationship expectations & demands. I'm pretty sure that is not exactly the dream lifestyle for most serious and successful Doms. I can definitely offer that I'm unwilling to even remotely consider such a situation.

There are possibly Doms who may be willing to consider the situation you are proposing, but even then many probably wouldn't want to feel limited in many of the ways you seem to be interesteded in trying to restrict their' lifestyle. Also, for an actual quality Dom, it's not particularly hard to find willing subs (and/or slaves) who are willing accept sharing their Master, don't bring a long laundry list of demands, and still appreciate the time he chooses to spend with them and use he gives them.

Please also consider that those journal entries of yours belittling others who either don't share your exact desires in this lifestyle, or who have different expectations in their ideal BDSM relationship are essentially just a form of sexual bigotry. You are just exposing your own private prejudices and showing your own intolerance of other people's interests in different aspects of this lifestyle. I'm willing to bet you are probably not considered the ultimate authority on all things related to every aspect of the whole range of possible BDSM lifestyles. Get over yourself .. learn some tolerance.

An additional consideration is the eternal problem of "the grass always appearing to be greener somewhere else". It is a well documented phenomena that people who tend to make heavy use of internet sites as a primary dating resource tend to try to date people whom they would have essentially no chance of pursuing in real life.

Typically this is because of social, cultural and/or behavioral issues. Good examples include someone who lives effectively in poverty, has few social skills, no advanced education, etc. looking to find the well-off, well educated and very polished partner of their dreams, or the slovenly, unkempt, overweight and not very appearance conscious person looking to pursue someone who's very self and image conscious, a gym junkie and and a neatness freak. Just two stereotypical examples, but I'm sure you get the idea. While success in these scenarios is statistically possible, the reality is that finding actual success is quite a long-shot.

So my question to you: Are you being a realist, or just wasting yours and everyone else's time with your improbable dreams?

One final note:

This site does seem to have become more noise than signal. While I've met a few good people here, I've met more people (who are compatible as subs) by going out and doing things in real life. The subs whom I've found long-term compatibility with have all been people I first met in real life, not online. I've also met a couple real "problem children" on here (and other sites); people who were screwed up enough that I'm usually not all that interested in meeting people from these kinds of sites any more.