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THE ULTIMATE PLEASURE IS GIVING PLEASURE I am seeking " Like minded, mature, people, with whom One can strike a like minded conversation.... & Someone who can carry the conversation... interestingly well. " Someone to add meaning to Life. I AM NOT LOOKING FOR DATES OR CASUAL PLAY AT THIS TIME. Have been in the lifestyle for over a decade now.
but not in india. want to know and explore and understand how it is here. I love bdsm, for me it's so much more than just kinky sex. I enjoy the physical aspects of a D/s relationship, but it's the mental connection and exchange of our dueling energy that I crave the most.
I jump on fet when I have a few minutes here and there. I don't always stay on long, other times I have some time to kill and will jump on and perv/play.
If you are a friend of mine that I converse with on a regular basis and I miss a message I am truly sorry. It happens...I am human. Please give me a chance to either message you or just send me another one.
I prefer the company of women above the age of 25 ,as i am 38 myself. I hate lies and mind games so if that is what your intent is i should say YOU ARE IN THE WRONG PLACE. Do not waste my time if all you want is a one night stand. As fun and exciting as that may sound, I am a person of decency and quality. A believer in MUTUAL RESPECT AND DIGNITY.
POINT TO NOTE I DON'T USUALLY GET PHYSICALLY INVOLVED WITH OUT A BONDING OR ATTACHMENT.
Always up for good company and good fun. I like to keep the evening interesting and always interested in someone like minded and open to ideas. Lets see what trouble we can create.Creativity is something I like.
MY OPINION ON WHAT A DOM SHOULD BE .......
1. cherishes his submissive, in the knowledge that the gift she gives him is the greatest of all. 2. demanding and takes full advantage of the power given to him, but knows how to share the pleasure that comes from that precious gift. 3. in control of himself first and foremost, so that he may control others. As a stern and demanding Dominant, he can cause his sub to cry real tears. As the consummate lover, he will then kiss the tears away, without ever stepping out of character. 4. In times of trouble, a Dominant will leave the roles behind, to be a supportive friend and partner, never forgetting that this is still a loving relationship between two caring individuals. He is quick to understand the differences between fantasy and reality. He would never ask a submissive to put him before her career, or family, just to satisfy his own pleasure. 5. To win his submissive's mind, body and soul, he knows he must first win her trust. He will show his submissive humor, kindness, and warmth. He must also show her that his guidance and tutoring is knowledgeable and deserving of her attention, that this is a man she can learn from, and trust his direction. 6. is romantic enough to be protective and chivalrous. When called upon, he will fight for his ladies' honor. He proves to her that he is someone she can lean on, and depend on. 7. is old-fashioned enough to be a bit of a chauvinist, yet modern enough to respect his woman. Quick to point out the differences between them, he also knows there is no inferiority in those differences. 8. When it comes time to teach his submissive her lessons of obedience, he is a strong and unyielding professor. He will accept no flaw, nothing less than perfection from his student. Never does he use discipline without good reason. When he does, it is always with a knowledgeable and careful hand. 9. a careful guide, with safety always his main concern. He knows how to use pain to extend the bounds of pleasure. He is a mentor who can bring her to the edges of her envelope, and gently show her the inner courage to reach new heights. 10. always open to communication and discussion, always ready to hear her wants and needs. He is patient, taking the time to learn her limits, and knowing that as her trust of him grows, so will they. 11. never has to demand ritual behavior by her. She responds to him out the want of pleasing him. Compliance comes from the wanting to please, not the fear of punishment. He understands the fragile nature of mind and body, and never violates the trust given to him. 12. is secure enough to laugh at himself and the absurdities of life. Courageous enough to accept assistance. Open minded enough to learn new things. Strong enough to grow. His tools are mind, body, spirit and soul with a little help from rope, paddle and blindfold. He understands that each partner gains most from pleasuring the other. And both of them know that love is the only binding that truly holds. I am sure there is so much more I could say, but this seems intrusive enough to me. ;-)
laylee
 
 Age: 40
 Madera, California