I am a Dominant man. I am looking for a mature submissive woman - age and race unimportant. I am married to vanilla and that relationship will not be changing. If that’s not for you, I understand and good luck!
A D/s relationship begins with a respectful, intellectual relationship. I will be very interested in my potential sub. We will learn about each other at every level before we commit anything to each other. Without an emotional, intellectual connection, a physical connection will be meaningless. I learned long ago that I get more pleasure from giving pleasure as I do from receiving it. In a D/s relationship, both the Dom and the sub must have pleasure - you can't achieve that if you don't know each other and understand each others needs and desires.
I love a challenge and that in essence is why so many submissives find disillusion in the vanilla world - most men do not seek challenge in sensuality, they fear it. I believe that submissive women are the most challenging of lovers for they have great fantasies and their fantasies often require a man to move far outside the "norm," requiring both skill and creativity.
I will be very cautious in selecting a sub because I know she will have great desires, hopes, and dreams, and it is me, her Dom, that has to live up to them. Above all things I will wish to be good for her.