Being submissive doesn't mean you give up who you are.  A strong sub is able to be everything her Sir requires her to be and maintain a sense of self.  The flip side of that is a strong Dom, allows his sub to have her own interests, to pursue things she enjoys all within the boundries of their relationships.  They don't have to share every passion together...He is welcome to go skeet shooting or play golf or whatever while she practices the art of photography or dance or the fun of horseback riding.  There is a blending of interest, sure.  But to no longer watch movies in a genre you like, to quit reading classics and only read what He does ...where is your sense of self?

Is it just me who thinks this way?  i asked my Sir and He is proud that i can be independant at times and still know my place and where i belong in His world.  Are we that different??  Or are there others who feel the same?

Having fun at local events lately...most vanilla in nature but spending time with people where i can be completely myself...sit at my Sir's feet and wear my collar without feeling like i am being looked at oddly...it's really great