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I have not been on here very long and I have already noticed an upsetting trend...it appears that just about every Domme is fed up with fakes, flakes, pretenders, wanna-bes, liars, and in general terrible so called subs. The thing that bothers me most about this is it makes the rest of us genuine, sincere and honest ones look bad and ruins it for those of us that are real and looking for a real connection.
I guess I am writing this to try to distance myself from the rest of those who are only interested in serving their own selfish desires and getting themselves off, trying to call themselves sub. When talking to someone new I do not like really talking about the things that turn me on, because that does not matter as much as the things that turn you on...for me, the bigger turn on is your arousal, excitement, and amusement. If I know you are getting off on our interaction (whether that be physical or psychological) that is what gets me off, and in the same respect, if you are not enjoying yourself I cannot. As someone who considers themselves submissive, I have learned to attach my pleasure to yours...like independent and dependent variables :)
So to any Domme reading this, I would like to formally apologize for all of the frustration, irritation and discouragement you may have experienced in dealing with subs (males it seems in particular are the worst offenders, big surprise), and although it seems like the majority of those out there are not worth your time, there are some of us out there that are not like that, and truly get it....please do not give up on all of us, bad apples spoiling the whole bunch and what not. |
