Let me try to flesh out some ideas - or, are these fetishes - so you have a better understanding.

I am looking for a LTR, for a woman I love and respect, and want to be with intensely.  I don't know or much care for the official rules of a lifestyle, I must say.  And I want a sub, or a slave, so that we have a complete abandonment and openness, and accessibility for each other.  So, for our fun and pleasure...

I'd like to take a walk downtown, with a nice butt-plug in your ass. A large one, for you. I would observe your gait, and your facial expression.

I like my cock in your mouth and throat: I know only of three methods: I simply fuck your mouth.  We can either lie in bed, on our sides, or more traditionally, you kneeling in front of me, standing.  Movement is mine.
Also traditional,, you kneeling in front of me, standing, while you bob your head over my cock, it slides in as far as it can, presumably into your throat.
Less ordinary, I sit, for example, on the edge of the bed -- it's a little higher than a sofa, I think -- and you kneel before me.  I take your head, and hair, too, in my hands, and jerk off in your mouth and throat.  I find this rather nice.  You are free to make any sounds that you must, without inhibition.  

I do like bananas; bananas in your ass.  They are messy, and, depending on your ass muscles, it might take half a dozen ripe ones just to get one in. Meanwhile, they stretch your hole as well as give it a lot of lubrication.  You might like my own cock inside afterwards.  (I never thought of myself as 'big', but it is a Magnum XL.)  If you were really adventurous and in need of nutrients, you are free to eat the mess, as you please.  

I love watersports.  This is a case where giving and getting are truly equal; and, I do like to lick what I give.

I also like tits that have a life of there own, that swing, and move.  I also like to use my hands to help make them move.

When I say smart, I mean really bight, educated.