Boszman

I’ve waited a bit to write this, because I didn’t want it to be reactionary. I needed to give this some thought as there have been some instances that have taken place over time that have gradually seemed to cause me to feel a little jaded or disillusioned. What I am referring to of course is what we have here…online. I find myself questioning how much of this is real, and how much is just smoke and mirrors. How many times have you yourself been led down the garden path only to find that you end up standing at the end of the path alone. I’m not necessarily talking about love and romance. I’m talking about everything between that…. and just ordinary relationships with others who portray themselves wanting to connect…who say that they care about you, ‘have your back”, etc. It seems to me that in this world of anonymity these things are so easy for some to offer, yet so hard to give, and just as easy to take away. “My word is my bond”, “A handshake is all I need”, those days are long gone for almost all. Is it any wonder we have so many issues with trust, loyalty, honesty?

No, I’ll not give up on these things, it’s not the kind of man I am….but I’m tired, I’m weary, and I’m going to step back and instead of offering what I have, I’ll wait for those who come looking for it.

New Year, time to reflect.

I'm growing weary of these platforms where although they do have their advantages they also carry their own issues. On the plus side I appreciate that we can be anonymous, which in my view allows us to be more open and honest about who we truly are...about how we feel, our needs, our wants, our desires, etc. On the other hand being anonymous allows the ability to paint a picture of who we are, regardless of whether it is accurate or not, which opens the door to deception and all of the other games that we've been exposed to at one time or another.

I'm reluctant to say this, but please, if you aren't going to be open and honest with me, if you're going to play games, ghost me, any of that stuff...I'd rather you just don't contact me at all. Don't tell me you want friendship, and then ignore me because you don't agree with everything about me. As I've said, don't expect perfection unless you are prepared to offer it.

My apologies if this sounds like a rant, that isn't the intention. I'm really just a big ol' teddy bear letting off a little steam, lol.

Times change, and so do profiles. My exploration here and the few real people I have talked to here lead me to believe that I am open to much more than the main profile indicates. Since I do not want the update delay you will just have to ask. You might be surprised.

I like to think that in general I am a kind and decent person. If I have taken the time to send you a compliment, or a quick note...however short, and see then that you have read it and chosen not to even show the common decency to respond with anything at all, regardless of how disinterested you may be.....well, it is a reflection of who you are. Never mind then, you weren't worth it to begin with.

06/25/22 - If you're not offering perfection, don't expect it.