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Hey, everyone - I'm a sensual Dominant who has, more than once, been described as a Daddy. I'm very protective of, and affectionate with, my subs. I want us to grow together, and that sometimes requires an extremely firm hand. However, forgiveness can always be earned; and I'm just as likely to bestow reward as I am to punish, which I tend to do with swift severity. The About Daddy Doms essay on my Journal page (scroll down) describes pretty accurately the combination of discipline, affection, and responsibility I see as integral to my role. Just a note: I'm interested only in adult subs. However, the content found by following the above link does represent the way I choose to carry myself with respect to any sub or slave. Furthering that point: I like spirit. Just because you're a sub doesn't mean you should be a doormat. Brains, brats, and gusto are sexy. But so are obedience and an overwhelming eagerness to please. Because, although I believe that your respect should be earned, I can, and will, overpower you. Here are those stats that everyone seems to find so interesting: Dominant 96%
Switch 93%
Exhibitionist / Voyeur 86%
Experimental 79%
Sadist 75%
Masochist 64%
Bondage 39%
Degradation 25%
Submissive 25%
Vanilla 9% If ever thou be’st bound in thy scarf and beaten, thou shalt find what it is to be proud of thy bondage.
— William Shakespeare, All's Well That Ends Well

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3/16/2013 12:39:22 PM

NOTE: *I did not write this, and I don't know who wrote the original draft.... However, several different versions of this document abound.*

 

About DaddyDoms - by an unknown little

There are many misconceptions surrounding this aspect of D/s. i realize most think that it involves a father/daughter relationship. That isn't quite true, Daddy/little girl is a much different level. i do not know if i can explain what i mean so i will simply talk about what a Daddy Dom is to me. First i should say that in my relationship my Dom is not my father, he is nothing like my father, and i have no need for him to replace my father. He is however my Daddy. We do not engage in age play specifically (beyond the occasional school girl fantasy ) and our relationship is not based on any need to have sex with children. i am always all woman, and always a very independent woman. He does have the ability to make me feel like a little girl, however, a very cherished and sometimes needy little girl. It is a feeling that i revel in, it is the safest place i have ever been, and it allows me the freedom to be all that i am without fear of reprisals.

So...what makes a Daddy Dom? First and foremost he loves his little girl. She is his prized possession. His eyes light up when she walks into the room and he takes great pride in her successes. After all, he helped to create her. She holds the most tender part of his heart and has the greatest power to hurt him. Seeing her hurt however is not something a Daddy Dom wants. He sees it as his job to protect her, both from the outside world and herself. He may love to cause her great pain in a scene, but he hates to be the one to hurt her emotionally. It hurts him to have to punish her , but he knows it is sometimes necessary.

This takes great strength on his part. It takes strength to control her, and to shape her to his needs and desires. It takes strength to be her confidant, her shoulder, her anchor. It takes strength to let her out into the world when all he wants to do is hold her safe in his arms. And it takes strength to do what is necessary when she needs to be disciplined. A Daddy Dom knows the value of discipline, though at times his soft heart gets the best of him. He knows that in order for his little girl to be the best she can possibly be he must stand firm. He uses his experience in life and his knowledge of her to provide proper direction and punishment when the need arises. He knows this hurts her, and that tears at his heart, but he also knows it is for her own good.

A Daddy Dom provides something else that is very important to his submissive..acceptance. She is safe in his arms because he knows her, everything about her, and he still loves her. When she goes to him she knows that this man knows all of her dirty little secrets and it doesn't matter. To him she is beautiful. Many of you may be asking what separates a Daddy Dom from any other Dom. In most cases very little. Hopefully they all provide love, strength, protection, discipline, and acceptance. I have heard Daddy Doms described as a kinder, gentler, Dom. I like that definition though I know it won't apply to all. I guess when it really comes down to it I can't explain it. There is something infinitely magical about a Daddy Dom. Perhaps it is something only a little girl can understand.

Daddy/little girl does not refer to the ages, real or pretend, of the participants. Nor does it imply closet desires. It refers to the environment that two people have created. A Daddy Dom is so named because of the qualities he possesses and the service he provides.

So, what are these qualities? What is a Daddy Dom? A Daddy Dom wants to be the center of your universe. He wants to be able to provide for your every need and care. But more than that he wants to be able to shape and mold you to the image he thinks you should become. He sees in you someone who, in his mind, can achieve a much higher, much greater status. He believes more in you than you believe in yourself. What he wants in return is to be able to bask in his image of you, the image he has created.

How does he achieve his goals? Through love, respect, and discipline. His love for his little girl goes without saying. He accepts every part of her and works to emphasize the good while improving the bad. He loves her as much for who she is as for who she will become with his guidance. It is this love that allows him to train her. He could not invest so much of himself in someone he did not love completely. This love would not be possible without respect. A Daddy Dom needs to feel great pride in his possession. He needs to know she can hold her own in the outside world and still submit to him. He holds the greatest respect for the gift she has given him and takes great pains to increase it's value. It is extremely important to him to know she can be with any man and she chooses to be with him. He knows that this makes discipline a priority in their lives, more important than in some other D/s relationships. In order for the little girl to really trust she must know he means what he says. He must constantly deepen her respect for him. If he does not enforce discipline, this respect becomes a tenuous thing. If his submissive finds that she can manipulate him out of punishing her, she begins to lose respect and the ability to empower becomes impeded. He needs to empower her as much as he wants to possess her and it becomes increasingly difficult to be possessed by someone you do not respect. The discipline is also important when it comes to her protection, both from those outside the relationship and those within. He is the one who makes the decisions about how she will relate to the world in general and his discipline ensures that she follows these rules. I think most Doms have a bit of the Daddy in them, taking on the role of male authority figure in their submissive's life and using their power to enrich that life. Daddy/little girl verbalizes that feeling, and adds a dimension of warmth, caring, and ritual that it's participants crave.

As for me , i am now in a very vanilla world , but i still hold close and safe those feelings of being a lil girl . Its my safe place to run and hide . When the real world of which i live now becomes to frightening , i have that to hold onto ....

i have learned alot over the last few years of whom i have become too ... and most of all i have learned i am as normal as can be with what has been placed in front of me .... i will never leave the BDSM L/S completely , because its who i am , but i have become more defined in what i need , want and desire , crave and love ....

i have learned i am no doormat for anyone and i have a voice , and i can say NO , without being in fear .

i just recently learned , that because someone is angry , they shouldn't take it out on you nor anyone else , nor should that be an issue to internalize such and sit in worry and fear the worst .... being alone here in my World has its advantages but i surely miss alot of things , but till i am sure of exactly how things are supposed to be in this Nilla World , i remain alone and silent , watching , learning , craving knowledge and just having some cheeky fun without fear of punishments ...

 

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 Age: 30
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