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bjBear

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I am the switch in a poly household of 3. My Dom is TrainerBear here in collarme. My sub/wife is dorothyBear in cm. We also have a group account called TrnrBearsHouse. I am changing to a new profile since I have not been on the old one in ages. Forgot my password and can't retrieve it. Besides, so much has changed since I signed up last time. Where to start... my old account is cumrag42 in cm. W/we do not cheat... everything is in the open... so don't go asking me to leave my family and come be your sub off in Texas or somewhere... I love my family and have no desire to leave. W/we are just on cm and other sites in the hopes of meeting new friends, play partners, and ideally one or two usefull additions to the family. We are far from rich, so don't bother if you are looking for a sugar Dom or Domme. W/we expect all additions to the Family to contribute. Ideal additions to the Family will have some hobby or trade skill that can add to the household, as well as sexual compatibility. For instance, skills in gardening, home maintenance, photography, sewing, and household finance would be valued. Sexually, I'd be interested in play partners who can be polite and still get their point across. Calling me a names and the like will get you blocked. Demanding that I stop a cam show to serve you will be ignored. I work in healthcare... so don't remind me of work when I'm trying to play. For ex: no scat, piss, needles, medical fantasies. I do the real thing for a living and it ain't sexy. What I would like is someone who knows his or her way around Dom Depot and can get creative with restraints and rope. A basic understanding of physics helps. You are not going to suspend this body from my tits at my current size, no matter how hot you make it sound. And for subs... know what you want and be up front about it. And please do not tell me you have no limits. You are not indestructable, there are limits to every body and every mind. Think about what those might be in your case before you go meeting someone online for real life play. Just a safety tip, I don't want to damage or kill anyone, not even my ex. Oh, and guys, while size does not strictly matter much, if you can't fill my holes with at least average size meat, have some skills to compensate at least. Now as to what I bring to the table... I'm told by multiple sources I'm a fairly good cock sucker, still need to work on cunt licking. I'm straight at heart so it takes some motivation to practice. I love to take a guy in all 3 holes, 3 at once is better. I'm latex sensitive... so I bring my own condoms. No bare back stuff till I see some kind of proof you're safe. I prefer anal without lube, unless you're hung like a horse, then just enough to avoid tearing. My tits are more pendulous than perky, and great for bondage. I am on the heavy side, so if you like curves I'm your girl. I'm fairly good at bondage myself, in that I can get the job done without leaving marks. I wield a fairly effective paddle. I tend to be a bit gentle with new people... so if you need to go slow that's ok. If you want fisting, I have perfect little hands to start you off with. I am encouraged to play with others... but Bear has to at least meet new people before leaving me alone with them. Besides... He's a good photographer, and most people like some pics to remember the day by. I work full time, so taking off for a long weekend somewhere doesn't happen on short notice. I can play every other weekend. the problem is O/our location... we're in the middle of nowhere. Lots of privacy out in the country... but not many people to play with. So that's me in a nutshell, although looking at what I wrote, it's more like a coconut than an almond. If you've read this far... hope you found something you liked... and shoot me a message so we can get to know eachother.
5/3/2012 7:50:50 AM

Just a hint how to get my attention... say something that indicates you have actually read my profile. Do not start off insulting me, I like humiliation, but just because I sub to Bear, do not assume I want to be Your sub. I am a switch, so I do not expect to be approached with disrespect. The best Doms are polite while beating and degrading you. Besides, everybody deserves basic human dignity. Subs are offering the Dom power over their sexuallity, at the very least. This gift deserves to be treated as valuable. On the flip side, subs please do not try to "top from the bottom". Everyone has specific fantasies, but if you cannot handle any deviation from what you've worked out in your head, even to accomodate reality, then I'm not the Domme for you. I do want to know what your fantasies are, but as guidelines, not a script. If you require things to be done exactly as you pictured, hire a professional. There are people who Domme for a living, I am not one of them. Some subs will offer to bring a tribute to a session, all I will ask is that you provide whatever you like to drink, as I do not keep much alcohol in the house. And for the love of god and goddess, if you do anything illegal do not bring it to my house!!! I have to pee in a bottle at random for work. And no matter how great a Dom or sub you are, no sex is worth loosing everything over. Ok, I'm getting off my soapbox now. Pet peeves sufficiently vented. If you read this rant and still want to chat, I'd love to.

2/24/2012 11:06:14 AM

Please write something in your profile... a little hint of what you're into is all we want. Blank profiles are suspicious looking... makes us think scam from the start.

2/20/2012 8:35:45 AM

Apperently demanding people contribute to the House they want to live in makes us pimps.

 

wow.