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bertrandsclarke

There's no point hiding who you really are -- at least from those for whom it matters. So, I've been coming out more and more as the Dom or Master (or whatever term you care to use) at least in my personal life. I have a wife and 4 children but the fact it she's not in the lifestyle. This creates problems for both of us as you can imagine. She used to make occasional if weak efforts to get on my wavelength but that has become less and less frequent. And, at the time I guess it seemed less important to me because of all the other ways we got along which were reasonably satisfying. We planned 4 kids but once she got pregnant with the fourth (last June) the relationship between us changed. Anything intimate (physical or emotional) was at a minimum and so unpleasant that I preferred it that way. I think she did too. I don't really understand what changed. Maybe having all the kids you want changes the way a woman looks at a man. Maybe there are other issues she hasn't told me -- though I've been pretty frank with her and encouraged the same from her. Maybe it's just that now that both if us have served our our purpose to each other it's time to move on. Don't know. Anyway, now it's 11 months later and I'm getting a bit fed up with it all. I can't see us breaking up anytime soon because of the usual reasons (kids, careers, mortgage) but I can imagine a submissive woman involved with a non-Dom male or a not-Dom-enough male. (I've seen that before more than once!) So, if there were such a woman, we might find an arrangement that would work for both of us. I'm more interested in what a woman is like inside than on the outside if that's any re-assurance. I would not expect such a woman to be planning to leave her mate -- after all kids/mortgages/careers have to come before personal gratification (at least most of the time!) at least until certain milestones have been passed and I would want to make sure that both she and I had a clear understanding that neither of us messes up the rest of our lives. Yes, I've seen that happen before too. It all get's very complicated so we'd both have to work to be as decent as possible. At this point I should say something about my tastes...I like submissive women who want to please their Dom. I prefer women for what they have in common with men, physically speaking. A woman's mouth or rear is a much more profound offering than anything standard. I've enjoyed vanilla sex extensively but if that's mostly what's on offer, I'm not very interested. I have a dark, sadistic side that I keep under wraps but yearns to be expressed. I have a pair of nipple clamps that have just not been used enough and a collection of whips/crops/belts/etc that I want to use extensively. I like scenes and I want a submissive/slave who wants to please me with her submission. I want a woman -- unlike the others I have ever been involved with - who will accept my will for her in place of her own.
deeb123
 
 Age: 25
 Manchester, United Kingdom