A Dom I used to play with before he went a little too far and over-stayed his welcome recently got in touch with me on a more vanilla site. Just a quick hello from him then straight into sending me dirty pictures of what he has been up to lately.

Now personally, I prefer to be asked before having photos shoved in my face - in the real world or online. I don't like dirty photos especially - I think they are classless and very tasteless. And I especially don't appreciate them now that I have a partner who isn't  in the scene and is generally looking over my shoulder when I'm on the computer (it just creates unwanted hassle between us).

I was very polite when I said I wasn't interested in his photos and he got very upset, descended into name calling and blocked me. I didn't mind being blocked - it's not like we have had contact in the past 2 years anyway, but I did mind the whole childish way he went about having the last word. As a much older man with children of his own I would have thought he could be more adult about the rejection of his bragging etc, but once again I am left disappointed with his performance.

Those pictures of Nigella being choked by her partner at the restaurant...did that turn anyone else on, or just me?

I was honest with my 10 week stand. I said I was getting feelings for him. So I didn't want to see him as much. "You don't want to be my partner, so spend less time with me so I can find someone who does."

He brooded for a day before he erupted. Fuck off and die. You aren't sexually liberated, you're just damaged.

He could have set fire to the air, my shock was so total.

I don't understand.

Door's open if you want it to be...