With a previous long-term boyfriend we tried some bondage (both him & me) to spice it up, and I discovered I really enjoyed tying him up and teasing him, bringing him to the edge over and over before letting him finish. Since then, I've tried with other partners, but they haven't been into it, just humoring me.

I love the feeling of power and control, watching a man's hands strain against his bonds, knowing that no matter how much I make him want it, he has no choice but to wait until I let him. And I like to make him wait a good long while, bringing him right to the edge over and over, stopping or slowing down a second too soon and enjoying the sight of his back arching, hips bouncing as he desperately struggles for relief. And when I finally take pity (or get the timing wrong - I am still learning), the finish seems much more intense than if we're not playing that way. I'm also more likely to cross the finish line too, since I can slow him down and make sure he's not too far ahead of me.

All the guys I dated before finding this site have been very vanilla, so that's as far as they've ever been willing to go. I have read other things that sounded like something I'd like to explore: pain, whipping, CBT, other sensation play, predicament bondage, roleplaying, and especially chastity. Being a keyholder and knowing I had complete control over his release, not just for one session, but over a longer period of time is really a turn on.

With a recent partner, I also had the chance to experiment with electro play, and I have to say that it's one of my new favorite things. I discovered I really enjoy being sadistic if my partner is into it too.

Mostly, whatever we would do, the turn on for me is the effect it has on him, how much he likes it. So when I try this stuff with partners that aren't really into it, it's not as fun as when the guy likes me to make him ache or make him suffer.

I'm not interested in humiliation or feminization. I like having a real man at my mercy. I would want someone I could have a normal relationship with outside the bedroom. Someone who could carry on an intelligent conversation, share interests and activities. I want a guy with a mind of his own, not just a spineless drone to grovel at my feet.

Outside the bedroom, I'm a pretty old-fashioned traditional sort of girl in relationships, and I am looking for a long term relationship leading to marriage and kids. So I'm not looking for a 24/7 submissive guy for a female-led relationship. I don't want lifestyle D/s, only bedroom D/s. I actually prefer a more dominant personality that enjoys letting me dominate him in the bedroom. I've tried the vanilla sites, but ideally want someone who can satisfy both sides.

I love ballroom dancing, so that's a plus if anyone likes dancing. It's like a slow sensual tease that lasts all night long and gets your blood pumping before retiring to the bedroom.

I haven't included a photo, because I need to be a little discreet, I am well-known in my field. I'm blonde, blue-eyed, curvy, size 10. If you write me and we click online, we can exchange pics and take it from there, maybe meet somewhere public.

Not looking for money, not interested in online webcams, not interested in casual sessions. I want to develop a real relationship with someone I can connect with both in and out of the bedroom. Write me if you'd like to know more. Prefer people local enough where meeting might eventually be possible, even if it is a bit of a drive.

• Non-smokers only.
• Straight only (not bi, not bi-curious, not "forced" bi).
• Also note that cuckholding is on my list of hard limits.
• NO MARRIED MEN!!!
• NO CASUAL SESSIONS!!!

I am looking for a long term relationship with the potential for marriage and kids. I want to DATE someone, not just hook up with them.

If your profile is practically empty and your message to me is a one-liner, don't expect a reply. If you were motivated to contact me by something I wrote, then I want to be equally motivated to answer you by something you wrote. Don't expect me to play the lame "ask me anything you want to know" game. Don't give me the stupid "I haven't had time to fill out my profile" excuse. Compose an articulate message to me.