12/6/2009 4:55:44 AM: i have recently changed my catagory to 'submissive' from 'slave'. i have done this since while i self identify as a slave and want very much to submit, it has to be in a love relationship and to a man that i have found i can admire and respect.i find it is a too common theme here to be approached as a slave expected to fill a certain role immediately, before the getting to know you process is even started. i find this troubling, and felt perhaps a high percentage of the people searching on the 'slave' catagory have expectations and needs that differ considerably from my own.so, let us see if being under a new catagory helps at all!