|
|
subforlove
| Hetero Male, 48, Panhandle, Florida
|
|
Description:
City:
State:
Relocation: Height: Weight: Age: Orientation: Ethnicity:
Last Online:
|
Male
Panhandle Florida Willing to Relocate 6' 2"
220 lbs
48
Hetero
Caucasian
04/15/24 |
|
** I am not currently looking **
If you get excited thinking about owning a bright man that cant say no, this profile may be for you.
I am successful, intelligent, tall, well educated and reasonably attractive.
What I am searching for
I seek a long term, 247 submissive relationship with an intelligent, loving female dominant. 247 means the power dynamic exists in all situations, vanilla and otherwise, be it overt or subtle. It means I spoil and pamper my partner and put her happiness above my own. It means a pedestal of power, chivalry, reverence and respect.
I seek this because thats how Im wired. I act this way when I pair bond. Its not a trade for services nor is it to achieve a relationship with unbalanced SMV. Im looking for a woman that appreciates and enjoys this dynamic. I am a bad match for a woman that wants to be dominated and controlled.
Vanilla life
In normal settings I come across as generally alpha. I am calm, likable, moral (but not religious), and tend to be the center of attention and interest in groups because Im knowledgeable about a broad selection of subjects and naturally strive to lift up and connect to those I talk to. I frequently find myself in positions of leadership, although I dont seek out such positions. This makes the sort of relationship I seek very difficult to pursue normally, as no one I know or meet would ever expect that I seek it.
I tend to make jokes quite often. As an example, if someone asks me if I like cats, Im likely to say something like I love cats! But I cant eat a whole one. (Note I like cats and have kept them as pets. Thats the joke.)
Im interested in pretty much every subject. In terms of media, I tend towards scifi, Marvel, Game of Thrones and the like, or anything deep or quickly witty. I dont watch sports, but Im not opposed to it. I read more fiction before college than most people read in a lifetime (well over 1000 books), so lately Ive been reading more non-fiction, but occasionally fiction slips back in.
I dont feel that Im more competitive than others, and I dont seek out competitions, but if I am in a competitive environment I tend to win. Socially I tend to place myself high, and bring others up to just under my position. I dont put down others and dont gossip.
What I seek in this relationship is to find the One to place above me at all times, to worship, serve, and most importantly, Love, for the rest of my life.
RelocationDating
I can live anywhere in the world, and dont consider relocation a hardship. I have flown across the country just to meet someone (and no, not for sexplay!), and I expect I will do it again. Do not feel that it is a hardship for me to travel to you - it is not, and I dont expect any additional commitment or response from doing so.
Partner Probability
There are very few people that match what I seek. Its not even that there are fewer dominants than submissives, there are few people into lifestyle Ds in absolute. Further filter this by the socially reversed nature of this relationship and the numbers are quite low. Add age - high IQ correlates with low divorce rates - and by the 40s there are simply few unattached people, before getting even slightly picky about desirable traits. Because of this I expect, at minimum, to relocate, and quite likely accept less, or do more (e.g. spend time every day in the gym). The physical aspects can be changed, but the emotional drives (dominance) and raw intelligence cant. This makes it clear where compromise is needed and where it is not.
To give you an idea how fast probabilities shrink, Im in the top 6 in height, 1 in IQ and 3 in wealth, and these are weakly correlated variables, making the percentage of the population that meets these requirements about 0.0018 - and thats divided again for lifestyle Ds (1-2?), single status, etc.
Luckily there are 318 million people in this country. Its only because our population is so high that any of us have any shot at finding what we seek.
Of course on this site theres an even bigger barrier than all of the above - will this person even show up after going through all the trouble of talking to them?
I will.
|
11/1/2017 2:34:57 PM: Possessivenesshttps://thefemdomdiary.tumblr.com/post/166719005572/softandsquishygfd-fireshadeI want an intensely close relationship; I want to be owned, by someone who loves that they own me. To be theirs, completely. Deep, unfettered love with no expiration date.
10/12/2017 11:59:55 AM: BlogsThere are lots of quality blogs out there, but for now I'll just list a couple I've been reading lately. Both are written by practicing female Dominants, and contain exceptional insight.Ms Kay's FemDom Diary (https://thefemdomdiary.tumblr.com/)Enormous, long running blog that's updated frequently with imagery and interspersed text. I find the text most interesting, which can be found here (https://thefemdomdiary.tumblr.com/archive/filter-by/text).A Lazy Domme's Guide (http://lazydomme.blogspot.com/)No longer updated, best read as a published book with chapters viewed by expanding dates on the sidebar. Plenty of useful information for any Domme that enjoys D/s play and wants to incorporate more into a relationship without requiring a great deal of work.
10/8/2017 6:23:36 PM: BDSM BitsFinally a computer language where we get to write what we're thinking: Fetlang (https://github.com/Property404/fetlang/blob/master/README.md)
9/12/2017 8:23:01 PM: RejectionSomething I read reminded me of this paragraph from an old, now defunct, Domme profile:
'Regarding my BDSM life, my primary kink is oral servitude. You should have no limits where my pussy is concerned. This means eating my pussy after I've worked out, not showered, while I am on my period and includes watersports. Also, I squirt and you'll be required to consume it and serve as a toilet (for urine). Don't worry, if you need to work up to it, that's perfectly fine.'This is hot of course, but what interests me about it is the motivation behind writing that paragraph. It seems likely at some point a partner resisted oral (intimacy) due to one or more of the above conditions. This is rejection, it's painful, and it estranges her from her partner. It's awful, but sadly, not surprising. Even if the partner isn't bothered by it, they may still resist because they feel that society expects they should. People resist all the time, for lots of reasons. Everything in life is a negotiation and the default answer is no.This core issue permeates my support for power exchange in a relationship. Rejection of intimacy reduces future intimacy and weakens the pair bond. One rejection easily leads to another, and another. Obviously the relationship failed or she wouldn't be on this site, writing a paragraph full of requirements to ensure she won't be rejected again.TPE allows intimacy to occur at any time the dominant partner wishes, with a feeling of comfortable certainty that they will not be rejected. It allows relationship dynamics that could devolve into a dead-bedroom situation to be short-circuited and overcome. The relationship makes clear who initiates and who succumbs. It writes large what otherwise is hidden and uncertain.In a vanilla relationship, if a person is rejected, they feel that perhaps they are to blame. They may feel unworthy, or unwanted. The person resisting may not feel that way at all, they were legitimately tired, or busy, or simply weren't in the mood at the same time. In that relationship, if one person rejects, unintentionally or not, the other may later reject as well to show them what it feels like. A spiral of unhappiness ensues.Note that it's not necessary for one partner to have unimpeded intimacy for a successful relationship, but it is necessary that a relationship have sufficient intimacy. TPE ensures the dominant has the capability to far exceed their needs and instead fully obtain their wants, which likely exceeds the needs of the submissive (but not necessarily their wants!).TPE eliminates all the confusion and pain that exists in modern egalitarian relationships where every day is a negotiation, and instead ensures unobstructed intimacy throughout the relationship. I believe rejection weakens love, and elimination of rejection is necessary to have the deepest possible pair bond (love). TPE isn't the only way, but it may very well be the best.
12/19/2016 6:04:17 AM: PolyamoryI like love, so the idea of more love sounds great! But when I see a profile where the dominant is poly and already has one or more partners, I often skip past. This journal entry is to try to understand why that's so.I've seen it written that a slave (there's a difference between sub and slave, but the line is different for every person) should be so submissive to their partner that they don't care about pleasing, only obeying. That they should do what they're told, with no expected self rewards. After considerable introspection, I find I'm not that kind of submissive.I want to please my partner, and almost as importantly, be appreciated for pleasing my partner. I want her to be happy with me because I pleased her. This is my wiring, and I need it. Obeying her because it makes her happy is me. Not caring if she's happy and just obeying isn't me.Keep in mind that I'm submissive because of love. I need that deep bond. I can't do casual play, it doesn't make sense to me. I can't be a part-time sub. I need deep or not at all.I would make a terrible 'property' slave because I have these needs. Specifically: I need to love my partner, I need my partner to love me, I need to please my partner, and I need my partner to be happy with me. Objectification is fun, I'm certainly up for being treated as an object at times - but that's just for play.It's because of these needs that polyamory is so difficult. Will I be set aside, a toy to be used at some time in the future if the whim arrives? That's incredibly difficult.Even so, I'm not opposed to polyamory. Like I said, more love sounds great. But my partner will be unquestionably my primary. Nobody else will come close to the place she will hold. Will I be as important to her?I will not be happy in any poly relationship where I am not my partner's primary. I want to get this out there so there are no misunderstandings, now or in the future. If my partner is polyamorous she's welcome to have other partners. I understand that there are connections made over the years, and they may have value, and they may be something she wants to keep. I'm friendly and get along with everybody. But I need to be her #1 partner, just as she is mine. I need that trust and security in the relationship.If something happens and I am no longer her primary, the responsible thing is to let me go.Note: in all cases I am monogamous with my partner.
|
|
|
