Time for a rewrite. Here's a little about me and what I'm looking for. Me vanilla: I'm 36, 240 lbs, work the normal work week, have a house, pay my own bills (basically I keep my stuff taken care of.) I golf, I play pool, I hang out with friends when I can. Me non-vanilla: Love to please, especially with my tongue, follow orders well, very open-minded, and I worry more about making sure I please who I'm with than whether or not I get mine. To be perfectly honest I don't really care if I get mine, it's never been all that important to me. I do have some experience, but compared to a lot of people I'm still new to this, meaning I WILL NEED TRAINING. What am I looking for? Someone that understands that while 24/7 would be nice, it's not realistic. Someone that understands I'm still kind of new to this. Someone who understands that its not that you say you are dominant that gives you the power over me, it's that I give up control to you that gives you that power.