10/4/2011 12:49:13 AM: I'm planning on being in St Louis in July 2012.  I may be interested in meeting people there and possibly playing.  Let Me know if you'd like to be in contact to see if that may work for you.

9/11/2010 4:14:42 PM: Some thoughts about respect, Money Dommes, and safety...as I also shared on another site.  As a Lifestyler, I am very active in the BDsM community.  I spend a good deal of time taking classes, making connections at munches and watching and participating in  teaching demonstrations.  I take what I learn there, from online, from conversations with subs and Dom/mes,  from reading, into my relationships with subs and My play times.  A HUGE concern I have deals with safety.  There are countless Dommes, of all sorts, and subs who do not put in the learning time and practice time that  others do.  They basically hear about something, want to try it, and do it.  This is heart wrenching to see during online/cam play ..ie, doing breath play for the first time alone online with no emergency plan, eating scat without knowing that it can literally kill you, and doing anal acts with objects that can cut or seriously injure, are a few examples.     We should all be lifelong learners and keep educating ourselves.  subs should NEVER feel forced to participate in acts that they do not want to do just because they paid for it ( to a money domme) and may feel like they may not get there money's worth or a second chance if they refuse.   I should not go without saying that subs have  the responsibility, as well as Dommes, to be knowledgeable about BDsM and to not just accept orders from the first willing Domme.    A key point to BDsM is RESPECT!  This is NOT a one way street.  NO matter what a Dommes view of men/subs etc, they still deserve respect unless they give that up to you.  As members of this site, we are a community where everyone deserves respect.  The subs have all the power unless that power is given to You.  I'm often told by subs how poorly they are treated and disrespected by total strangers.  (Granted, some get off on this, but You should still have knowledge or permission to treat them as such...yes, I said permission! )  What happens is, they may leave or pass up so many great opportunities because they think We are all alike.  Unfortunately there can be a geat lack of respect among the Ladies too...which is far worse in My eye.  We all have different protocol levels, but we should at least share respect!   There are a lot of women on here looking for money.  I believe that should be done, if it's done at all, after a sub has inquired, and I also believe that anyone who WILL ask for money tribute should be upfront about that.  subs get attached quickly and also get upset easily or angry or even vindictive when the Domme they were connecting with for a good amount of time, all of a sudden goes YIM with them and THEN tells them to pay up or piss off.  We expect subs to do their research and read profiles; We expect them to be honest on theirs', then We aren't.    An important credo of Mine is to Always expect from Myself, at least what I expect from others...in ALL of life.   I'll wrap this up with one last thought, and please forgive any ranting   I believe in radical inclusivity.  Your kinks may not be Mine, and Mine may not be yours.  We may not agree on many things, but that's ok.  I'll respect you as a person and expect to be treated likewise.

11/15/2009 11:26:27 PM: Now interviewing for live in service slave. he  will work hard in and out of the household and submit all to Me.  female may be considered, but a male will be needed as well.

12/11/2008 6:54:07 PM: Today I thought I'd share some thoughts that I gave to a new submissive minded man who has found nothing but Dommes who seem to only want to drive him away and not take an opportunity to help someone new to engage in the lifestlye.There are not too many real Dommes out there who are willing to put time into a new sub to nurture him into being what he is meant to be..only want him to be what she demands him to be.  I do not believe in that.  I believe a sub will serve best and with heart when he is also enjoying himself and what he's doing.  he must know who he is and what his true nature is.  This can not be told to him, he must be nurtured and guided on a path of discovery, not a path to being a cookie-cutter version of what someone expects him and every other sub to be.

8/23/2008 11:17:38 AM: I thought I'd take a moment to share that I am a member of a few local kink/BDsM groups.  If you are in the Oshkosh, Appleton, Green Bay, Wausau etc general area and are looking for groups to meet with, network with and learn with, send a message and we can discuss how to get you hooked up.