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TripleDkitty
Pan Female, 51, Olivehurst, California 
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TripleDkitty
*Warrior Princess Submissive if you arent aware, as I wasnt, it is interesting. (Unless, you dont read, in which case you wouldnt be interested in me either.) I was gratified to FINALLY be pointed in the right direction. I would say, after years of being involved in the lifestyle. My role is no longer ambiguous. My personality remains more dominant than many of those who consider themselves Dom. If you believe a woman is an appendage of you to make your life more comfortable, please, miss me with ALL of that wank elsewhere. Thank you very much. Peace. If you manage to read, to the end of this profile, the ME that started this journey is not who I am today.

Currently, Iv directed my passion into climate activism learning as much as I can about the environment, what I can do to make a difference in the days years to come. My Heroes, Christopher Hitchens, Sam Harris, Mark Blyth, Richard Dawkins continue to inspire me in ways I wasnt allowed to consider before. Taking the reigns leading the charge, are simple. These ruling tasks come easy for me, it is in the surrender that I am careful with. Taking off the make-up, giving in, submission, becoming vulnerable that is the true challenge but every Tom, Joe Harry Schmoe does not get this. It is cliche how many use it for a prop in their profile, but immediately run to kink talk. Droll. You, my dear, are a dime a ba-zillion.

At this point in life, I have to say, not giving a fuk is such a joy. PEACE good luck in your journey, wherever it takes you.
I really like some suggestions Ive found for unowned submissivesslaves, I can think of a few dominants who might like to give this a read, its quite extensive.



Unowned subs should never play or participate in any activity that is demanded of them. Unowned subs participate by request, not by demand. Only an owner has the right to demand action from a submissive. No ownership equals no demand. Even if the submissive enjoys what is being demanded, she should still refuse the demand. By obeying the demand, the submissive sets a precedent of unearned obedience. Even a single display of this can trigger predatorprey sensors of rouge dominants. It is a weakness they can exploit. Unowned subs have the right to negotiate every request made of them and refuse unwanted aspects.



Do not give this right away.

BDSM What is it that we do?

The Doctrine Of The Unowned Submissive
byBlackwhip62









Complete change of character since I started here many years ago. I have the same voice, but my entire out look has changed. I appreciate those of you who have made the trip into adulthood, worthwhile.



It continues to be an interesting journey. Thank You )
6/27/2017 6:08:57 AM: If somebody is barely literate in English, it may be a tad difficult to communicate with someone verbose, who writes a lot. A point to ponder perhaps.

10/10/2016 12:35:46 PM: What can I say, that is who I was. This is who I am. Anyone using this information, bla bla bla... legal, bla... like I am going to do jack sh!t about it *jerk off motion* because, this is the internet. Control issue much? HACK the planet. Troll the morons. Do what you do, in the end... we're left with Trump. Someone forgot to warn them, the Hampton's aren't a defensible position...grab your pitchforks & BBQ sauce. I don't know why so many 'doms' say subs & slaves do not get to, have to, 'SHOULD' not have needs, wants, express, whatever... DUDE if you are negotiating with someone, that is the TIME when you GET to figure out what your partners needs, desires, wants, etc. are & how, YOU, yes, YOU are going to fulfill them, because contrary to pop-culture & some dick-wads making this all about them, this is power-exchange, not break your toy & fu@k up everything in the playground because you are a douche bag so nobody can play with it anymore. It is SAFE.... SANE... & CONSENSUAL. IF.... after making an agreement to submit to you because THEY feel you are the best for them, you want to boss & bully, GREAT for you all!!! GO TEAM. But the throngs of clueless fizzelsticks that think 'dom' means waving a flogger around makes them the king of beasts & they get their pick of vaginas, please don't tell my wife, turn on that cam, b!tch, can fu@k the he!! off 31 ways to Sunday & I'm not saying that any nicer.  Please, go fu@k yourself? How many lifestyle subs/slaves are literally ruined by you assh@les online who know dick about the responsibility it takes to care for the needs of a partner? Do us all a favor & slide your happy lil' asses off to porn land & get out of the dungeon. That's a good wanker ~ Off with you now~ 

5/16/2014 8:55:19 AM: So.... you are 'kinky?' Really? If that is all you know about this lifestyle & how worthy of respect you are.... I laugh in your general direction! =-) 

4/11/2014 1:47:44 PM: This is some old stuff... I don't like to get rid of it completely, as I have found visiting the past can show me the way forward when I get turned around.  It shouldn't surprise me, but somehow always does, how many 'real' lifestyle participants think Power Exchange is about sex and kink...I do not. A great many individuals didn't have the same lessons I did as an infant, (If you do not have something nice to say...why would you message the person to get a false ego boost? I find it rather pathetic & birds of a feather don't interest me in the least, perhaps you will be better served... fucking off?!)  I sound really defensive and... aggressive as I reread this, not sure if it is completely inaccurate so I'll leave it for now. (update in journal)I did find something for my 'to try list' if in fact you are curious about my proclivity to sexual=physical exploration.https://.com/users/74737/posts/1443753 explained here, called the chain trick. My partner can not (& will not pretend) change for me.  (I still am not sure a submissive 'changes' for their partner, perhaps adapts is a better word?) If you want a 22 year old, perky, model, without issues or baggage, (& good luck with that!!) I am not it, I am quite often an arsehole. The only demand that I make of my partner, is that you know who you are.  A strong person doesn't hide or apologize for it, doesn't need to demean others to express themselves & develops whatever characteristic is out of balance, (I don't believe we are defective, every personality 'flaw' is there for a reason, when we discover what that is, we can grow) and has confidence (not empty blustering accompanied by ego) which stems from action.  Introspection is hot! (If you don't believe you have any flaws, you should probably pass on this profile as well!) Humor is a great tool, and humility can't be beat! I crave someone that can keep up a conversation BUT isn't a judgmental asshole who doesn't recognize that is not 'dom.'  If you are racist, hateful, ugly in nature, or just plain mean, please do us both a favor & forget me. (You probably didn't make it this far unless you were trying to think up a good 'fat' joke to send me, I have heard them all but if you are feeling froggy!! ;) I am honest about my weakness', working to discover my strengths, & embarking on a journey that (hopefully) will continue moving in a positive direction, if you believe I should have gotten there without bruising myself up, *shrugs* I am sure to disappoint you. I am  highly motivated to move forward but I need focus & direction which are NOT my strong points. I think there are salvageable aspects of my personality, but I know there are many which need recycling. I have tried & failed most of my life to do this on my own; with less than spectacular results. I admit that I have an abundance of irritating quirks, some of them I enjoy, others I would happily have carved from me. I would like to achieve physical wellness & beauty before I'm 50 but that will require a great deal of work and someone up for the challenge.  If I were better at these things, would I need you? I WANT to want you, but right now I do need serious guidance. Obviously.  I am not a house trained, no drama, obedient pet. I rarely come across sweet & demure, nor would I want to, EXCEPT to the One who has earned that from me. (Yes I said 'earned,' but it is more like chess than the Olympics ) If I never find mine, I am beginning to be at peace with that, but I do hold hope, deep within my dreamers heart, there is One I can kneel to, someday. On my own journey. In dealing with my personal recovery, I find my shameless acting abrasive rather unnecessary. For so many years I have known things intellectually but been incapable of processing them, then used the 'failure' to repeat the cycle of self loathing.  Now that I'm cognizant of it, the cost of maintaining this far outweighs the pay off. I have kept this profile, pretty much in tact because it has become a way to track my own personal growth & maturing process.  Welcome to RED'S place:If  you believe D/s is your excuse to act like a petulant child, I have all ready raised my own sons, please find a door-mat submissive who doesn't know or appreciate her own sexuality, quality & worth. Read no further if what you seek is a brainless sex doll to tryst with after dropping the kids off at school and letting the wife pat you on the arse as she lets you off her leash. I don't lie, neither should you. My leash will not tether me to an insecure boy/girl, but will let me fly higher, farther, faster, knowing that I am protected & safe because You are tenderly reining me in from my curiosity & self destructive nature.  If you are not capable of this, please do not waste our time. Negativity & spiritual bankruptcy have no power over me, unless I give in to it.  WELCUM to my (Red'z)  Profile Instead of fulfilling the promise of infinite orgasmic bliss, sex in the America of the feminine mystique is becoming a strangely joyless national compulsion, if not a contemptuous mockery.Betty Friedan (1921 - 2006)   The happiness of a man in this life does not consist in the absence but in the mastery of his passions.       Alfred Lord Tennyson (1809 - 1892)   Since I have been a profile here on CM for many years, I've had some wonderful opportunities to meet many types of individuals who have come into my life, stayed and remained, friends or acquaintances, or moved on for various reasons, which I 'pray' enriches us A/all! (http://youtu.be/bLltt5cPDOc )I CHOOSE to be blessed by each contact even when it might SEEM negative and for the most part~I try to learn from others *wEg*    Power~Exchange is a beautiful interaction and extension of that relationship! I also tend to believe that, each of us is responsible for what we 'get' out of life~either we embrace what we are walking through, run from it, or fight everything, everyone, even (mostly?) ourselves until the lesson is learned, growth happens, and the journey might progress.  I can stay stuck for as long or short a time as is right for me, I can get OFF the down~ward elevator any floor by pushing the button~I don't have to wait until it gets to the basement below the cellar! (Thank GOD hard heads make for soft...everything else?!) Update to DATE: 11/2001 I am healing, cleaning up the wreckage I have made of myself and my life AND 'stuffs gettin' better all the time!'  (trivia note! Kevin Cosner says that quote in WHAT movie!??)     ''I've known rivers:  Ancient, dusky rivers.  My soul has grown deep like the rivers.'' Langston Hughes (1902-1967), U.S. poet. The Negro Speaks of Rivers     I really need to fill E/everyone in on my “absence” and update since my untimely near demise!!! LOL I AM alive and kicking! After my move, my appendix ruptured and I thought..(Stubborn lass!) A nice bath and relaxation would help…but it didn’t! Finally, my friends made me (And I do mean MADE me!) go to ER and find out what was going on, where they ushered me into emergency surgery *yuck* took out what was left of the offending organ, cleaned out anything (hopefully) that might cause infection, and made me stay under observation for almost 2 weeks! NICE vacation…I am another few pounds lighter lol but I can’t understand why they didn’t take MORE out while I was under!!! Muhahahaha…Anywho…I am BLESSED with a reaffirmation of LIFE, love, and the pursuit of happiness…once more I get to reassess my priorities and discover what is vital TODAY! A gift is given us in every experience, if only we look at it that way…If anything, I know that NOW is the time to live…carpe diem! Okay, Okay, after I heal up a bit…hehe but I don’t want to wait TOO long because we never know how long we have!!! UPDATE!  I have just lost another 50lbs.               --towards my goal--I will not be posting new pix...as my belief still lies in the core value that D/s is in the mind, heart, soul, emotions, and then the body...I expressed what my goals were...when I do post my hot pictures in tight leather, (and lace, of course...*weg*) I believe the responses will be less than what I wish, as far as intelligence goes!  Besides...I all ready posted the 'skinny' LOL don't we all? Something about...putting your *cough* 'breast' foot forward...   not FAT    just temporarily...fluffy!! Who would like to join this enthusiastic red head freckle faced Irish lass for a walk in the park, swim at the beach, or health food picnic at the state fair?   I'm a GEMINI, I love learning and am open to trying just about anything at least once...I am happiest on the water. I love boating, swimming, fishing, and want to learn to scuba dive, sail, and kayak, not to mention Jet Ski. I don’t want to JUMP into a “relationship” overnight. I don’t believe power exchange or any other relationship works that way but I certainly won’t be able to trust someone with 41 years of obstinacy, brattiness, and SHREWISHNESS to tame, in a day or two. I have never been trained or collared and have a  strong, independent and fiery  personality. (and tell LOTS of bad jokes) While that may seem like a contradiction, it really shouldn’t be for the right One.  My hard limits are No kids, animals, scats, edge play, permanent marks, death, or breath play. I THINK that is it as far as I know. There are other things I have read about that I have serious doubts about, but I will discuss.  Life’s greatest gift is in learning to understand one another...that comes with time, friendship, and knowing yourself.  Did I mention that I tell really bad jokes, can be a bit of a geek, get caught up when reading the thesaurus, but have friends who have been loyal for over 25 years despite the eye rolling, nose holding, puns! To know me is to eventually learn to tolerate me!P.S. BAD Jokes don't always come across in chat but 99% of the time I have a Smirky Grin LOL even if I am the ONLY one in the room laughing at my own funny!!!  I do NOT ever meant to be hurtful or disrespectful so if it comes across that way PLEASE pm me and let me know I will quickly apologize and try to make amends!!!

8/13/2013 6:18:17 AM: Once more, I have found the need to block someone after not being on here for weeks. I hate to do it, but if you are both a moron & a control freak, the last thing you 'need' is a slave. Please do all real subs/slaves a favor & grow up, find your big boy panties & get a hint that you don't have any power whatsoever over the internet. >.>  That is all, have a nice day, Red~

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