I'm really here to chat with the friends I've made and for the forums.
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But if you're looking for some bdsm fun then that would be wonderful; and if we met and it turned into a lifelong partnership, that's great. That's really truly wonderfully great.
And if it didn't, at least we'd have tried and we'd have had some fun along the way. And probably both of us will have learned a little too, about bdsm and about relationships. So that's good. And there's a good chance we'd end up friends, and that's good too.
But if I've got to fall in love with you and your detailed life goals and perfect partner parameters before we've even met, do please sod off.
And if I have to be a sad bastard with no other relationships in my world, do please sod off too.
Otherwise, submissive or slave, pain-averse or painslut, I'm open minded; I do so like bdsm people and I do so find bdsm exciting and fun. And I find it wonderfully exciting and satisfying helping a sub explore this delightful arena.
I'm older than many wannabes, which is great for girls with a taste for older men (and a bummer for girls who want boys).
And I'm cautious in looking to meet people to explore bdsm fun.
Cautious in the sense that I'd prefer having relaxed, casual contact which might turn into something lasting, rather than a first contact being in effect an interview for my becoming your perfect lifelong partner.
And girls, this doesn't mean that we blokes are all shallow and simply looking for one-night-stands. It just means men approach commitment differently.
And if we meet - as casual fun - and find that the chemistry just isn't there then it's easier to disengage without either of us having a broken heart. (Yes, blokes have hearts too and they're equally fragile).
The rest is obvious, otherwise I wouldn't be here. Whether you're sub or slave, hate pain or you're a painslut, if you're into bdsm you're marvellous and I like you already. And if you're bright, intelligent and good fun then I like you even more and I'd love to chat with you.
After that it's down to our ability to communicate and the mysteries of personal chemistry.
As for me, I've been into bdsm for ages and love it. Because I run a business I'm used to being in control and it means I understand it's not all about shouting a lot (or, in places like this, telling bitches to kneel). It's perfectly possible to reduce someone to tears gently and politely.
I'm older than most which, thankfully, is not a problem for some young ladies (and for me a young lady is anything between about twenty-something and forty-something). And I'm apolitical and I smoke and when I'm not working hard I sail offshore or, in the winter, entertain charming subs/slaves as guests in my villa in the sun for a few days (now if you've ever wanted to live out a fantasy, safely and privately, there's an opportunity!).