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daddyishomeslt
| Hetero Male, 40, Phila, Pennsylvania
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A bit about Daddyhomeslt as a person: I'm a caring and intelligent Master of 20 years, for me I require trust, as BDSM relationships and in any other relationships in general should be built on trust. The relationship I seek encompasses communication, not a mute; spanking as discipline; accountability and structure with passion. It is most similar to a domestic discipline relationship, with a daddy component, yet less clearly defined. I want something of a Mental Challenge, Physical Wiliness, and Spiritual Connection, a bond with you as a friend and partner. Sure, we are all seeking something different... but I think you will see I am clear on what I want.
True dominance isn't about disciplining your sub or slave; it's about earning the trust and respect of your sub so that you are the only one she wants to be disciplined by. Back to trust, I want my sub when she is in my presence to feel safe and scared, proud and humbled, totally free and completely knowing that there is a commitment both ways.
If I use the words 'I'm really disappointed in you.' This should not be a fear, but more of a way to an opening, to solving a problem.
I am not looking for casual hook-ups.
I am looking for my one that I can I throw my heart and soul into where this is meaningful, both ways. Being with someone and those are fairly precious assets to be throwing at someone just wants to be bound and have a hole used, is not what I am looking for!
I need someone with whom I have chemistry, and whose views on D/s match mine. Intelligence, a sense of humor and play, and a healthy sense of personal responsibility and accountability are all non-negotiable.
I own a full-time business and sometimes a busy life that has a vacancy for the right submissive/slave. I will not always be able to get back to you right away, but it doesn't mean anything other than... that I have a full-time business and sometimes busy life. Till you are in my life I have no commitment to you.
My fetishes are defiantly different to the standard, bind them and flog them, in this day and age. (You might agree or disagree, your choice), I do need a person who is involved and engaged, someone who does not withdraw or be moody. I am a sexual person, I love to play, I love to be held and touched too as a Dominant, affection is a requirement. I also would like the submissive/slave to have fun and enjoy life when she is with me. However, overall just be as much playful as I am.
If we become more involved and our relationship evolving at a decent pace, I will require a back-ground check to know there are no issues, legal or mental. I will be glad to share my information as well when we get to that point. I own a small business that is growing in a few states and what many people seem to forget, is when you are in a relationship your actions, past, current and future can affect the to people you are involved with, including your credit.
I am firmly convinced that submissive/slave women are much more intelligent than most other women.
A submissive woman understands how the real world operates, most especially the authentic male dynamic and if she is gay on how a woman’s dynamic. She understands it is not just about what she can achieve, it’s about the combined power of her Master and her inner strength.
I'm upfront and don't believe in beating around the bush. Ultimately, I'd like to my submissive to be my princess by day and be my slut by night.
My Fetish and then some are not listed for CollarMe:I am into very rough and physical sex, manhandling, hair pulling, gagging, drooling, sex machines, tight bondage, wax, cupping, mind fucking, hypnosis with and without Relyfe Programming also known as Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP), Saline Injection, fishing line, Body Modification (Tattooing), bondage (breast, heavy, genital, prolong, chastity), TENS, face slapping, food (too many to list), gags, humiliation, pain, Sensation Play, Orgasm Denial, body worship, hoods and toys.. this is just a glimpse of what I am into.
I need to make clear, since I seem to be to extreme to most. Well that is ok... I know who I am, and it has taken me YEARS to reach this point. I have been told that this is why a few of you have held back in replying to my email. Just remember WE ALL have started off as a newbie, some just younger than most. I was a newbie at one time too.
Allow me to teach and help you grow.
I adjust to most people, so let me say I really enjoy teaching the new lifestyler all about this lifestyle the RIGHT way. I am old school (leather) with a kick of fire (so Daddy Dom Skills) and spice with some flaming hot sauce (some Goren) too boot... A very interesting mix, but it is very nice to know when I need to draw the line.
If you are interested in learning more about me I am just a mouse click away.
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12/9/2012 2:08:03 AM: SERIOUSLY???!!??
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11/28/2012 3:30:09 AM: This site is a funny place... How the fuck can the Newest Local User button be any even close, if I travel the state.. I know where these towns are located.. There is no way that they are even close to the distance from my Zip... And I am talking WAY OFF by 125 miles is some cases.....
9/28/2011 10:11:52 AM: I just read an email today... And because I didn't list my kinks in my profile that I was giving a 'rant'. I found it to be funny since we are all individuals with different needs, why should I post just what I am into for someone say wow that way to much for me, or better yet have someone copy my profile and claim they too are into the same kink....? If you want to know more, that is what the contact button is for.
I will note that is what the mouse is for, to move on.
6/16/2007 8:19:39 AM: BDSM is a 2 way street, BUT I CAN'T READ MINDSThis page is aimed at to take the step of introducing yourself to me, much as I have introduced myself through my pages, as a preliminary step to talking about you. The large checklist in the middle of this page is not original to me, and is quite common though BDSM negotiations.There are usually several reasons behind each question asked here. Two of the most common are: I'm a very curious person and They provide background which will help me to understand you. At the point that I ask you to fill this out, I most likely know you either not at all, or very little. These questions can also be used as a benchmark to see where you started from, and are fun to compare to where you end up.As personal and detailed as these questions are, they are really just scratching the surface of getting to know you. People are deep, complex and often contradictory from the surface. As I desire to train deeply, so I must know you deeply. One can only control poorly that which they do not understand. So, please, be detailed and elaborate in your answers and share as much as you are able. That means share what you are ready to share, and come back to the rest as you are able to... Hopefully some of these questions will make you think... about yourself, or about your interests.A few basics first;1. When were you born and how old are you?2. Where are you located? (If in school where is school and where is home?)3.Are you currently involved with anyone? If so, how seriously? And how do you imagine training would fit in with it?4. Do you have any children/dependents that would have to be taken into consideration?5. What first introduced you to the idea of BDSM, and how did thatintroduction grow to the point where you are seeking training?Now, a bit more in depth about you;6.Please describe your physical appearance completely, as if you were standing nude before me, being examined by me. Also include height,weight, measurement and dimensions of everything, sizes for every article of clothing, rings, and shoes. Every detail of your appearance should be described, and you should tell me how your body will react to touch.7.How do you feel about your appearance? What do you think your best feature is? Your worst?8. Describe yourself mentally to me. What are you like? What do you like to do? What are your favorite things: color, food, movie, song, group, book do you smoke, drink, ever do drugs?9.Describe your personality to me. How would you explain yourself?10. How do you feel about your mental makeup? What are your strengths and weaknesses?11.How do you use your strengths and hide your weaknesses?12. What are your spiritual and/or religious beliefs? How do you practice them?13. What hobbies do you have?14. What is the most embarrassing thing that ever happened to you? The happiest? The saddest?15. What do you think is the biggest problem in the world today, and how would you fix it?16. What things are most important in your life?17. What things are you afraid of?18. What are some of the things you most want to do before you die?19. Who do you most look up to? Why?20. Do you believe there is other intelligent life in the universe?21. If you were able to, what would you change about your life, and why?22. What are your biggest accomplishments in your life?23. Any health problems? (allergies, high blood pressure, drug addictions etc)24. What pets would you like to have?25. If you were founding a new country on the ruins of what was once the US, what principles would you found it on? What would be in your ?26. What do you feel most passionately about or believe most strongly in?27. Are you:o Democrat or Republican:o Pro-choice or Pro-life:o Techno phobic or Technophobic:o Logical or Intuitive:o Introverted or Extroverted:28. What five items would you consider indispensable in your life, and why?Turning towards the sexual;29. Tell me now about your sexual past. Very detailed and specific. When and how did you lose your virginity? How many partners? How many M? How many F? What positions have you done? What did you like/not like? What are the best things you've tried and place you've had sex? Overall, what do you like/not like?
Everything else... I should know almost as much as you know about your sexual experiences. When was your last AIDS test? When were you last tested for any other STDs?30. What things turn you on? Both mentally - what images, thoughts, words, etc. as well as physically - where are you most sensitive, how to touch you, etc.31. What do you prefer in panties - style, material and color?32. What would you wear to seduce someone who you didn't know well but wanted to take to bed? (and please, be complete)33. What is the favorite piece of lingerie/fetish wear that you own? That you have seen? (Descriptions are good, pictures are better - urls ok, pictures of you in them would be best ;)Starting to get into the BDSM;34. What do you think slavery will be like?35. Why does it appeal to you/what do you want from it?36. What (if anything) do you fear about it?38. This list should be used as follows:- Answer YES or NO next to each item to indicate if you have ever DONE that activity.39. What things would humiliate you (Esp. in a way that arouses you)?40. What is your darkest fantasy (no holding back at all, no matter howTaboo)?
4/7/2007 7:51:13 PM: What is a Daddy in my eyes?(I found this in an open form but had to make changes to it since I disagreed with some of it and wanted to add my own wording. The rest of the credit goes to KANDRA)A Daddy Dom wants to be the center of your universe. He wants to be able to provide for your every need and care. But more than that he wants to be able to shape and mold you to the image he thinks you should become. He sees in you someone who can achieve a much higher, much greater status. He believes more in you than you believe in yourself. What he wants in return is to be able to bask in his image of you, the image he has created. To achieve these goals he relies on a combination of love, respect, and discipline.His love for his little girl goes without saying. He loves her as much for who she is as for who she will become with his guidance. She is his prized possession. His eyes light up when she walks into the room and he takes great pride in her successes. After all, he helped to create her. She holds the most tender part of his heart and has the greatest power to hurt him. This love would not be possible without respect. A Daddy Dom needs to feel pride in his little girl. He needs to know she can hold her own in the outside world and still submit to him. He holds the greatest respect for the gift she has given him and takes great pains to increase it’s value. It is extremely important to him to know she can be with any man and she chooses to be with him.He knows that this makes discipline a priority in their lives, more important than in some other D/s relationships. In order for the little girl to really trust, she must know he means what he says. If his little girl is going to be the best she can possibly be he must stand firm. He uses his experience in life and his knowledge of her to provide proper direction and punishment when the need arises. If he does not enforce discipline, this respect becomes a tenuous thing. If his submissive finds that she can manipulate him out of punishing her, she begins to lose respect and the ability to empower becomes impeded. He understands that it becomes increasingly difficult to be possessed by someone you do not respect. This takes great strength on his part. It takes strength to control her, and to shape her to his needs and desires. It takes strength to be her confidant, her shoulder, her anchor. It takes strength to let her out into the world when all he wants to do is hold her safe in his arms. And it takes strength to do what is necessary when she needs to be disciplined.A Daddy Dom provides something else that is very important to his submissive...acceptance. She is safe in his arms because he knows her, everything about her, and he still loves her. When she goes to him she knows that this man knows all of her dirty little secrets and it doesn’t matter. To him she is beautiful.Daddy Dom and sadistic Dom are by no means mutually exclusive. Many Daddy Dom's embrace their sadism while understanding and feeding their submissives masochism. This balance is necessary to many little girls because it allows all parts of her to be nourished, leading to an incredibly fulfilling relationship.I think most Dominants have a bit of the Daddy in them, taking on the role of male authority figure in the submissive’s life and using their power to enrich that life. Daddy/little girl verbalizes that feeling, and adds a dimension of warmth, caring, and ritual that it’s participants crave. There is something infinitely magical about a Daddy Dom. Perhaps it is something only a little girl can understand.
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