Note: It's been brought to my attention that my photo has been stolen and is being used else where. To prove it's mine, I have the full photo without the border and including the face. You might want to ask the others if they can produce the same.

Yeah, it’s longish, but will save us both oh so much time in the long run.

After lots of introspection, much conversing with others and some interaction with one, I figure it's long past time to update this thing a little. Here goes.....

What I Am NOT Looking For:
One-night stands, fuck buddies, play partners, cyber sex or phone sex.

No married or otherwise attached men.

I can totally respect open and poly relationships. It’s just not a relationship dynamic that is right for me.

What I cannot respect are the dishonest.

A long distance relationship (LDR).

If you identify as “slave,” “master” or “oral servant,” I am not the one for you.

If you are looking for or consider yourself a “true” anything, I am not the one for you.

If you "fantasize" about being with a "black woman," I am not the one for you." I'm not into racial fetishists

If you cannot participate in a relationship without being told what to do, or telling your partner what to do, I am not the one for you.

I cannot take seriously the profile of a man that includes only cock shots or pictures of him screwing another woman. A cock covered by a speedo or thong or anything else, fine. Doesn't count.

What I Am Looking For:
I am not looking to get married on our second date. But I am also not interested in being your fuck buddy or booty call. That which lies in between is open for discussion and negotiation.

Whether I’m top, bottom or switch depends on the dynamic I have with my partner. I do not expect that partner “to switch” roles if he doesn’t have the desire to do so.

I would like to meet someone with whom I can hang out regularly and consistently (ie, gasp, date!). So long distance relationships don't really fit that description. And if all you can offer is once or twice a month as the norm, we're not going to be a match.

Now with that out of the way...

What I Am
I am a Switch. Not a Domme. Not a Submissive. A Switch.

Do not mistake independence, self-possession and level-headedness (and good writing skills) as a desire to dominate. Nor courteousness, thoughtfulness or shyness with a desire to submit.

At best, being a Switch means that sometimes I enjoy being on top. Other times, on bottom.

Outside of a predetermined, fixed situation or period of time, I have no interest in having decisions, relationship or otherwise, made for me. Nor do I have an interest in making them for someone else. I believe in self-responsibility, cooperative decision-making and mutual accountability.

Personality-wise, being a Switch means I'm just as laid back, patient and flirtatious as the next gal, however, I do not deal well with bullshit games nor suffer fools for very long.

That said...Needs, wants and choices are distinctly individual things.

Just because I identify as a Switch does not mean I need to both top and bottom in a relationship.

Just because I identify as bisexual does not mean I need to be with both men and women.

Who I Am
Type A. INTJ. Bit of an overachiever. Ivy-educated and world-traveled; sometimes intense, sometimes silly; open-minded and experimental; able to discuss anything from the depths of philosophy to the newest designer pumps. For most, I'm the confidante and the caretaker. The one who will fix things or get them done. In reality, I'm a geek wrapped in the trappings of an intellectual.

I can seem the traditional conservative (those that do not know me) or the strangest person (my friends) you've ever run into.

I'm a girly girl who's also a Tomboy.
I hate chick flicks and prefer those full of guns, knives and a hero who can kickass with just his little finger.

I'm a creature of habit, but I bore easily.

I've been described as the sweetest person one could ever meet and an opinionated bitch.

I can be fiercely loyal and coldly indifferent.

I can follow and I can lead. But I mostly choose not to do either. I do what works for me.

Who I am looking for
In short – A Partner. Someone I can count on. A man of his word.

Someone within my own age group. (Say 33-45)

Someone capable of being a friend, lover and confidante.

Someone who’s not afraid of my independence and strength nor my weakness and vulnerabilities.

Someone as comfortable with my deepest darkest fantasies as he is with my hopes, dreams and fears.

Someone not afraid of weaving those “strings” that many fear and avoid. As with anything, the weave may not hold, but at least be willing to work at one.