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ShadowChangeling

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Submissive person seeks a Long Term Relationship with a Dominant Lady.

I am interested in being a sissy maid to a Lady and serving Her with my whole heart. I wish to be of use to a Superior.

I identify as non-binary, but present as masculine most of the time. I should say that I am exploring my gender identity and know the changes I want to make, but I'm not certain if I'm likely to transition (hence going with biology rather than gender here as unfortunately CS doesn't seem to have adapted to non-binary identities). I'm also demi-sexual, in therapy, and exploring if I'm autistic.

If those things haven't sent you rushing for the back button, let me tell you more about what I'm able to offer. I'm able to cook, clean, do laundry, provide foot and back massages, and make a decent cup of tea. I love to serve and make my Superior happy, and have some experience of serving tea at Ladies' events (specifically at the Devotion event held at Xstasia in the West Midlands - before I relocated to Bournemouth). I'm also willing and happy to learn, and take direction. In addition, I can provide references.

I believe that I am kind, compassionate, loving, a good listener, and naturally obedient. I'm also creative, honest, a hard worker, and always determined to make positive changes in the world if I can.

In the rest of my life, I work in Higher Education. I'm a writer, I play RPGs like Dungeons and Dragons (though not actually that game), like comics and books, and enjoy rock, goth, and punk music. I'm nerdy enough to be interested in folklore, myth, and the origins of words and place names, but not nerdy enough to necessarily talk about them for hours (though again, I might be autistic).

If any of this interests You, please contact me.

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3/3/2024 12:26:04 PM

Had a lovely day going up to the Cartoon Museum in London. They have a Wrong Trousers exhibition on at the moment, but I was really there for the main exhibit of political cartoons dating back to the 18th Century. It was fantastic! Such lovely pieces of satire, lovingly preserved and shoing why a well turned cartoon can have power. 


2/25/2024 12:41:38 AM

It's been a busy, tiring, week and I've been sleeping a lot after work because of that. 

Mulling over what I want and if I'm looking in the right places, and how I've reached a point where I'm probably complicated - though that may wrongly suggest I wasn't complicated before. I don't know. The part of me that wants to submit wars with the part that wants to be free and focus on art and writing. The desire to serve feels like a stark contrast to the part that wants solitude and enjoys living alone. I guess that's something else for therapy - this desire for connection but not too much. Perhaps I'm not as healed from old relationships as I thought I was. 

The good thing,I suppose, is that I would have time to grow if I met a Domme willing to take me on (which feels like a Bob Hope and no hope situation at present). 


2/18/2024 2:21:43 AM

Speaking with a "Domme" on another site - she asked me if I'd had much experience in the lifestyle, so I told her I'd been in an FLR, then asked if she had much experience and followed it up with a question about the link on her profle that goes to a dead page. 

Her response: "do you want to serve or ask shitty questions?" 

Let's just say there are more red flags waving than a Communist rally right now. I was already getting scammer vibes off her and this puts them into Spinal Tap territory. 


2/11/2024 9:29:38 AM

Think I'm done with this site, to be honest. 


2/4/2024 7:33:46 AM

If you're interested in me please:

Be seeking therapy for any trauma you have. 

Be creative or an artist.

Be exploring yourself.

Be neurodivergent in some way

Be a well rounded human being with a sense of humour, likes and dislikes beyond kink

Be an animal lover.

Be kind as well as kinky. 

 


2/2/2024 10:14:28 AM

What a week, its been knackering! 

I'm feeling a bit low, someone I liked has turned out not to like me back (I mean in a relationship sort of way) and I feel very much like I don't know what I'm doing, to be honest. 

Part of me wants to throw in the towel but that's not going to get me anywhere. I guess I'd better gird my loins and keep going, hoping that a Hypothetical Miss X is out there who'll find me adorable and fun and want to do terrible, wonderful things with me as well as building a life together. 


1/28/2024 5:31:19 AM

How being on an online dating site affaspects me. 

 

1) Someone in the group I'm looking for messages me out of the blue. My heart races, I lean in to see what they've said. 

 

2) I read the message and start wondeirng if they're a scammer. 

 

3) I check out their profile, trying to find reasons for them to contact me. 

 

4) I reply anyway and then worry that I'm just feeding into a narrative that leads to "give me lots of money for <insert reasons>

 

I know that women, Womyn, Goddesses, Ladies, and Mistresses (in whatever way they choose to define themselves) receive way more messages than I do and I'm in no way claliming my situation is unique. This is just my experience.


1/26/2024 12:07:12 PM

What does the crown thing mean on several of the Feminine Domme profiles? There doesn't seem to be an equivalent for anyone else (as far as i can see) and while I fully support my Superiors having something nice on their profiles, I don't see why some have it and others don't. 


1/20/2024 1:53:34 AM

This weekend is one for writing, I'm trying to finish a fiction submission for a magazine.

After it's finished I'll be trying on my new chastity to see if its something I can wear long-term (it's metal so that's slightly heartening - I've had problems with plastic and silicone cages in the past). 

I also need to do the usual things - laundry, housework, and so on, to keep my flat nice. It should be a nice weekend. 


1/16/2024 12:55:59 PM

I'm not sure my profile communicates that I want laughter, love, fun, and connection as much as I want to be somene's servant. Being loved and cherished is as important to me as the structure of a D/s relationship. 


1/16/2024 12:35:09 PM

Sigh, when you see someone who looks amazing but has a fetish you're really not into. 


1/10/2024 11:04:21 AM

Third post... does anyone know any good resources for writing to Dommes? I want to do it right. 


1/10/2024 10:15:04 AM

It strikes me as odd how most of the people who've looked at my profile have been men. 

Does women/Womyn/Women find that most of the people who look at their profiles are other L/ladies? 


1/7/2024 11:59:45 AM

One thing I just realised is how much I dislike Harley Quinn. I know that doesn't connect to anything else - it's just a random thing but it just hit me how bored I am of that character. 


1/6/2024 3:44:51 AM

It's funny how quickly the kink world moves. I purchased a copy of Elise Sutton's Female Domination and looked at the resources at the back before I started reading. The vast majority of the groups and websites she mentions no longer exist and even Sutton herself no longer seems to be active within this world. 


1/2/2024 1:05:36 PM

I want to try to start journalling semi-regularly. Obviously this won't go into everything (it'd be pretty daft to talk about some things openly, after all. 

All the same, there are some things I do feel I can say here. Like, I ordered a new chastity and am looking forward to locking myself up. I realise that devices are really just a symbol - you can get out of most of them if you set your mind to it - and the honour system is more reliable, but I like the idea of a barrier between me and the thing between my legs.

I dug one of my hoods out to sleep in last night and it felt really nice to have it on. 

I'm thinking about signing up to an online slave training programme but don't know if it would be self defeating, what do you think? 


1/1/2024 4:08:35 AM

Happy New Year, may 2024 bring you lots of happiness and fulfillment. xxx


12/31/2023 12:10:37 PM

So, I quit this site only to come crawling back. 

I'm hoping to find a "forever relationship" with a Dominant Woman and am keeping my fingers crossed that I find someone. 


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