Just to be clear, I have no interest in D/s, power exchange, TPE or whatever else you want to call the mind games. Right now, I'm actually seeking a Disciplinarian rather than a Dominant. The only reason it says I'm seeking Dominants in my profile is that this website, like many others, uses Dominant and Submissive as umbrella terms for a wide range of BDSM activity.

The terms Dominant, Top and Disciplinarian are often used interchangeably despite them being not quite the same thing. The same sort of conflation often occurs between Submissive and Bottom.

The term BDSM is an amalgamation of three distinct traditions (Bondage & Discipline, Domination & Submission, Sadism & Masochism). For many people, those three terms are interchangeable and that is absolutely fine if it works for them. But for some of us, including myself, the nuances of meaning matter. The fact that I am currently seeking Discipline, to help me meet specific agreed goals, does not in any way mean that I am seeking someone who intends to control me or make me submit to their will. I am simply not wired that way.

Thank you for attending my TED talk. :)

P.S. Please take note of what I'm NOT looking for in my profile, as I use the mail controls on here. If I don't explicitly say in my profile that I'm looking for your gender or role, then you can safely assume that you'll end up in Bulk Mail. I do glance through it occasionally but, to put it bluntly, you are not a priority for me if you're in there.