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Connections I’m seeking:

1) A D/s Relationship

A Position As A Service Sub

Having a regular arrangement as a submissive in service to a Dominant woman, even if not romantic or sexual, would be very desirable. You may wonder, "What do you consider to be a regular service sub arrangement?" It's a situation where the submissive gets together with a Dominant anywhere from weekly to monthly to a few times per quarter, and serves her as she sees fit. The Dominant would exercise some sort of control over me as her sub, whether it is just during the service event or also at other times outside of when she is being served. A keyholder would be lovely, as I long to surrender control of my orgasms! There also may or may not be kinky and/or sadomasochistic play involved, depending on what the Dominant wants.
I can provide some non-kink-related services, such as basic cooking, cleaning, laundry, and some home repair.

A Disciplinarian

I do okay with managing my life, but I do better when I have someone to hold me accountable. If you’re a woman who enjoys providing discipline in the form of regular check-ins with corporal punishment as a penalty for non-compliance, we definitely should talk!

Sexual Servicing

I have a fetish about power imbalance, and providing non-reciprocal oral sex to a woman helps to satisfy that, since the woman gets sensual stimulation and orgasm while I do not. I get the sense that oral servicing is not the most popular desire among women, but I’m putting it out there to the universe in case there is mutual interest.

2) Play Partners, For Deeper Experiences In Current Interests And Exploration Of New Interests

Impact Play

I have some experience with spanking/paddling/flogging/caning, and would like to do more of this with a Female Top or Dominant. I’m not a masochist, but I’m interested in learning to push past my current levels of tolerance, in raising my pain threshold. Within a D/s dynamic, I’m also attracted to the idea of the acceptance of pain as a form of service that a submissive can provide to his Dominant.

Bondage, Especially Rope Bondage

I have limited experience with bondage in leather cuffs. I’d be up for exploring more of this. I’m particularly interested in learning to become a male rope bunny, and I’d love to meet a Female Rope Top who could use a male rope bottom regularly either for practice or for play.

Other forms of play

Other activities that I’d be willing to do or to try are listed in my Interest List below. I’m also open to suggestions for other activities that I may not have listed.

A partner with whom to attend BDSM Events

Other than attending the Fetish Fair Flea once or twice, I’ve never been active in the community. It would be nice to have a female companion with whom to attend demos/workshops. I’d especially like to attend FemDom focused events. I’m especially open to events that are a bit outside of the Boston area. Truth be told, I prefer to keep my vanilla and fetish personas separate, and I’m always a bit nervous that I’ll run into a friend/relative/co-worker at a local event.

3) A Long Term Romantic Relationship

In a perfect world, I’d love to meet a Dominant Woman with whom I share several vanilla and kinky interests, someone with whom to enjoy the rest of life. The BDSM aspects don’t have to be 24/7, although I am open to that if she is; however, I crave some sort of dynamic that includes Dominance and submisison, and I won’t be happy and satisfied without that. To give you an idea of what I look like, I’m white, 5’ 9” tall and ~175 lbs in weight--a dad bod, but gradually getting fitter. I’m pretty much bald and usually keep what’s left of my hair in a crew cut, and I wear eyeglasses. My style of dress tends to be casual and ranges from preppy to Belichick-esque. Think jeans and a t-shirt or khakis and a polo shirt or button down shirt. I don’t have facial hair, tattoos, piercings, or brandings. While I am in no way a jock or gym rat, I do have a regular work-out routine. Spirituality is also an important part of my life: I practice meditation and enjoy reading about spiritual traditions, such as Gurdjieff, Buddhism, Advaita Vedanta, and Judeo-Christian mystics. Thanks for reading my profile. Stay safe and enjoy your kinks! :-)

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2/11/2024 4:16:30 PM

I read about a woman who daydreamed about a dynamic with a gay male submissive that was her gay bff and an amazing domestic sub whom she occasionally pegged to meet his sexual needs and who called her Daddy. I'm not gay; I'm straight, with asexual tendencies. But I think I could be happy in that sort of dynamic. Maybe minus pegging and plus enforced chastity. Or maybe with both. Or neither. 


12/16/2023 11:09:36 AM

 

Seeking Smart, Dominant F

Hi, I'm a submissive guy in my early 50s, south of Boston, and I'm seeking a smart Dominant woman to develop a mutually satisfying D/s relationship.
In particular, I'm looking for a woman with the following characteristics:

  • Enjoys reading and discussing books
  • Is informed about current events
  • Writes with good grammar and appreciates others who do so
  • Is able and willing to communicate her expectations clearly, without being passive-aggressive
  • Is free from addictions
  • Has some sort of spiritual practice that helps her stay centered
  • Has a career
  • Enjoys structure, orderliness, and rules
  • Has time to get together at least a couple of weekends per month

 

If these things describe you, and you're looking to be the leader in a D/s relationship, please contact me. (Or if you know a woman who fits this description who may be seeking a male sub, please send her my way.) Thanks!


9/3/2023 4:15:27 PM
sub m seeking relationship with Dom F

51 year old single subby male south of Boston seeks single Dominant Female for a relationship with long-term potential: friendship, and potentially romance, with an element of D/s, incorporating service (as defined as what YOU find useful/of service) and, ideally, kinky fun.


8/2/2023 8:04:48 PM

Seeking a local female to be my chastity keyholder for Locktober (and perhaps beyond!).

Yes, it's a couple of months away, but we'll need time to get to know each other--I'm sure most of you don't want to be treated like a fetish dispenser, holding a key for a total stranger {#emotions_dlg.laughing}


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