Females, STOP messaging me! I have zero interest in you as friends or otherwise. I am straight and into men only. Females who message will be put on blast then blocked, I have zero tolerance for disrespectful behavior of any kind and if I wanted friends I would have said it on my profile. 

Sorry to say but I'm not going to respond to a message that just says "hi" or "hello" I would prefer something a little more than that in your first message for example "hi, how are you? " and maybe a little something about yourself. I will also NOT accept messages from someone not in my state sorry but that's just my preference. Also if you have to send me a rude message like "are you behaving" you are clearly not worth my time and energy because it is not something a complete stranger needs to know. 

Sorry to say but no I do not have things like kik, Skype, hangouts or anything similar and no I am not giving out my email address. Messages asking for these or giving me your info will just be ignored. 

 I also do not consent to being sent phone numbers, I'm not stupid enough to call random strangers 

If you are NO WHERE near or in North Carolina then don't bother messaging me, I'm not interested and it clearly says so in my profile but I know so many can't read. 

I swear the fakes are running rampant on here, giving out phone numbers without being asked, not reading profiles then getting mad because you call them out on it. It's pathetic, and the predators are even worse. 

I do not consent to being sent pictures in the first message. If I don't ask for them then I do not want to see them. 

I will also NOT send you pictures at any point unless I am very comfortable with you. I have privacy issues that ned to be respected. 

Yep this place really is a joke. 

Is it really that hard to read over an interest and limits list? How can you say you are interested in someone yet you give them "ideas" that are already on the hard limits list, you don't even ask if that person is okay with it you just assume and give an idea. Then when you keep shooting those "ideas" down and tell them you are uncomfortable they want to just give up and part ways. Yeah those are red flags to me and I feel stupid for even wasting my time. Is it really SO HARD to find someone who RESPaspects that I am nonsexual and will not do lots of things? Not everything in this lifestyle is about sex. This shit is exactly why I stopped looking for a Dom for so long, no one respaspects limits or boundaries anymore. 

I have absolutely no time for trolls. If you want to take time out of your day just to message me saying "good luck you have way too many limits. " Then just screw off, that just means you don't care about the thoughts and opinions and safety of others along with clearly having no life. I could give a fuck less if you think I have way too many limits, that just means I know what I like and don't. 

Please, please, please take the time to read my profile and interests. I am getting way too many messages from people who clearly haven't. Yes I will look at your profile before messaging you back. 

 If I am uncomfortable with your profile or just don't feel like talking then more than likely I won't message back, if I do not respond then it more than likely means I am not interested so no need to constantly message me asking if I want to talk or not. If you already have a sub then I more than likely won't be interested, I'm not into sharing a Dom. If you're profile is outdated then please tell me in your first message otherwise I will have to assume that some things are still relevant. 

Do not message me with your first words "hey sub" and expect me to be nice to you. To me that is EXTREMELY disrespectful. I have a name so use it, it can either be snow or cat. But do not be disrespectful and take it out on me when I call you out on it especially if your profile gives off tons of red flags. Don't come to me saying you want a connection when that is your opening line, any real Dom knows that kind of crap is just BS and actually takes the time to address you properly. 

You wanna claim you hate fake people but you act fake yourself is you just being a hypocrite and a waste of time. 

I swear the disrespect is unreal around here. You put something veyr specific in your profile and yet people still wanna disrespect you about it. Yes I'm married and looking for a dynamic outside of my marriage, it's not that uncommon so GET OVER IT! I have my reasons for not liking certain things so no need to be disrespectful when asking about it. Can't get over the fact that I have a preference of NOT talking to women or CD's? Then don't bother messaging me you'll just get blocked. 

Here's another note.

My bodily fluids are off limits so if you want to control them and not even negotiate it then you may as well say goodbye. Also telling me you want me to give up complete control right away when I walk into a room is just a huge red flag to me. I don't care if you have pictures of you doing this kind of thing to others it's not for me and sometimes those pictures make me hugely uncomfortable. Please for the love of go READ MY PROFILE!!!!

Do not just skim through it and my interests/limits if you really want to potentially be my Dom you have to read the whole thing, I will certainly know by your questions if you don't. 

Please do not bother messaging me if you are a Sadist and can't respect my limits. Yes I have lots of limits but that just means I know what I do not like. Do not try to argue with me about them or say that I should consent to them. I will not, there is a story behind many of them so no I don't have to share my reasoning behind it. I do not care if you have trained married women before, that doesn't mean that every single married woman is going to consent to your so called training especially if you blow off their limits like its nothing.

What gets me though is telling me that flogging is all about sadism and pain, its really not and if you are a real Dom you would know that. There are many types of flogging impliments and many are not painful at all, I prefer thuddy impliments because they don't hurt yet will still get a reaction out of me. Just like you can't tell me that loosing feeling in part of your body while in bondage is just "part of the experience." No it is not, if you start to loose feeling that means something might be going wrong, I know this because a so called rope Dom told me it was "part of the experience" when I said my hands had gone numb, but a real rope Dom had told me that wasn't true so yes I know quite a few things don't bother trying to test me I will call you out on your bs. 

Here are a few things that I should have added to my profile but didn't and I don't wanna wait forever for it to be approved again.

1. Do not message me if you are not in my state, it clearly says in my profile I am looking for a Dom in or around my area. This means in North Carolina only (maybe as far as SC but I am not willing to travel).

2. Do not contact me if you are a sub or slave male asking me if I want to own you and you be my so called puppy. I am NOT into pet play and I have a real life dog that is already challenging enough, I don't need a human wannabe dog. I am also NOT a Domme, my name clearly says that I am sub and my profile clearly points that out. 

3. No I will not do online with you, my life is very busy as is and sending me a message that says "when are you available" as your first one as well as you having no profile except that you wanna be please orally then yeah you're not getting a response from me. 

4. If you think that all subs should be sexual to be in a dynamic move on, I know plenty who are in nonsexual D/s dynamics and they have been going strong for years. 

5. Do not tell me that you want to mentor me yet want to play with me. A mentor never plays with who they are mentoring, the person being mentored is looking to that person for advice. If you think differently then don't bother contacting me. 

6. Yes I am married, yes he knows I am in the lifestyle and yes he does approve. I have written this in my profile but it seems like it goes ignored. Just because I am married is not the only reason why I am nonsexual, I have other reasons as well. 

7. Please stop asking if I have kids. Just because I'm married doesn't mean I do and the answer is no I do not and never want them. If your first message to me is "what's your availability" and you have a virtually blank profile then you will more than likely be ignored.