10/28/2021 12:53:56 AM: “A dominant man is” A dominant man is observant. He watches, he notices, he takes in the environment. He does this not only to monitor your responses, he does this to keep you safe. In the same way a lead on the dance floor should mostly be looking at couples around them, not on their follower. A dominant man is watching the environment so you can feel safe enough to let go. He is watching you to see what you aren’t saying. He observes. A dominant man is patient. He knows that as much as you might want to open up, it takes some time for your subconscious and your nervous system to catch up. You need to relax, you need to feel safe, and he needs time. To explore, to feel you, to gauge what you like and don’t like, he needs time with your body and your mind and he is patient enough to take it. And he is patient over and over again, not just once but many times, giving you the communication that he is steady and present and he will not leave you to flounder.”  

3/13/2018 5:56:51 PM: I was asked recently on my take on a slave. My reply was simple; that a domesticated dog is better than a wild one. The domesticated one is looked after, fed, loved and cared for thus has no problems. I was then told calling a slave a dog was nonsense. My reply was simple, the devotion a slave should give is like a dogs which is unconditional. I laughed at the idea a slave has an option, after all it is her nature to be so. Those that put barriers up like location, age, ethnicity or whatever prove she has a lot to learn if she is to become a high level slave. Her options are only getting the best trainer/master she can, after all she is not after a boyfriend.

10/18/2017 8:09:26 PM: I was asked recently what my thoughts were on relocation.My reply is, if someone's needs and desires are being offered to be met it is immaterial how far away the person is. Yes confirmation is required by correspondence and meeting to ensure these offers are real but if they are should distance be a limit? I my opinion why use the internet if you are only looking in your location? Surely, it is need that drives us here and so should not limit us finding that fit. 

10/18/2017 7:42:50 PM: A PROFILE is like the tunnel entrance to someone's mind. This lets the sunlight only reveals a desire nothing more. It is a beginning when only the inkling of someones wants or needs is known and they seek to explore that need hoping someone will want to give or possess. THE MESSAGE a beginning of a journey and subsequent replies deepens and the darkness lifts as you acclimatise your sight to the recesses of the mind. As only a serious master seeks to explore and examine this.That feeling of wonder and discovery to be released from the vanilla world that even the slave or submissive may be unaware of. The exposed to sunlight and examination the submissive is afraid of. For a submissive being vulnerable,,and through time and exploration her vulnerability becomes greater. Should she hold back? Should she be manacled to the vanilla judgemental and narrow minded world. For a slave she should completely desires this, thirsts for it so that she can say she is truly owned.The greatest gift of BDSM is openness and the ability of letting go of prejudice and fixed ideas. We are here for one reason which is to find an answer to questions we have about ourselves. So we take a chance and look over the parapet to find answers to these thoughts and needs we have. Only when a submissive has the courage to take take next step and free herself or the slave can be what she needs and just let go of limiting herself can they both find their peace that they need.

5/14/2017 5:29:45 PM: BDSM WordsWhy do people use the words fetish, kink, taboo and the like?These are vanilla words to explain something THEY do not accept as being either 'normal' or 'ethical'. No one of course questions their authority or bona fides. For who is to say what is 'normal' or 'abnormal'?