Collarspace

Submission is about much more than pain play, or being put in a corner, or talked down to. Submission is a gift that is earned. It requires an energy exchange and trust. Without trust a submissive wont open themselves to you. Without that, no matter how dominant one thinks he or she is, heshe cant capture their mind and touch them deeply. Without that there is no Ds, its just a kinky game.

I am afraid that women appreciate cruelty, downright cruelty, more than anything else. They have wonderfully primitive instincts. We have emancipated them, but they remain slaves looking for their masters, all the same. They love being dominated.

Oscar Wilde, The Picture of Dorian Gray

Me? As I grow, I have found a unique and unreplicatible sense of joy in touching someone while they hurt and feeling their pain and how the pain cleans their spirit. I also like watching someone cry. I enjoy seeing that moment when they break and the real person is right there, unabashed and weeping and for a few seconds...free. Free from the restraints of society and free from being a civilized human.