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Hetero Female Dominant, 57,   , Texas
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DrkJourney

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Just keeping this profile for the friends I've made over the years so they can find me. Have another profile with more details.

RECAP of what I'm looking for

Lifestyle dominant: I don't take clients, people passing through, etc. Just because you email doesn't mean I "have" to take you. I have the right to choose who I take as my family just like you do.

24/7 live in ONLY. This means you have to live here and be ready to move into the home when the time is right

Not going to jump on phone or IM with you until "I'm" ready so don't ask

I am looking forTwobi/bi curious males (companion and beta) whose motivation is real need instead of just occasional play. Serious family style based poly relationship.

Will be a D/s relationship that is woven into an everyday vanilla relationship

If you want to be considered send me a pic along with your introductory email containing a brief history of the vanilla you, (no lifestyle)

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 DrkJourney

 Dominant Female

   

 Texas

 5' 9"

 57

 Hetero

 Not Listed

 05/06/07

 

Actively Seeking:

Submissive Male

Friends Only

Roommates

A Poly Household

 Lives For:

 Lifestyle BDSM

 Hates:

 Gas Masks

 Hoods

 Masks (On Partner)

 Masks (Wearing)

 Hard Limits:

 Crossdressing

 Diapers

 Enemas

 Fire Play

 Knife Play

 Needle Play

 Pony/Puppy Roleplay

 Sensory Deprivation

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Journal Entries:
11/28/2021 4:03:09 PM

I'm curious.    Why do people take offense when I ask them for a simple "hello" before they send me their "do me" mail?   LOL

A simple "hello", "how are you" goes a long way.   THEN  I can tell you I'm not intersted in do me submissives    LOL


11/24/2021 3:28:08 PM

Why did I bother writing a profile when people don't bother to read it?   lol

I take the time to state what I am looking for, and that's the first question people ask me?   (what are you looking for?, online?, are you looking for in person slaves?)

I must be missing something   LOL{#emotions_dlg.domme}


10/30/2021 6:33:52 PM

WOW!  Didn't know journals were back!   YAY!!!!!!


4/14/2018 7:50:15 PM
For all of you that are confused about how to speak to a dominant or anyone for that matter:

fetlife.com/groups/42/group_posts/12350184

4/14/2018 4:47:44 PM
omg...seems it's *sshole night...lol   Luckly I'm in a real conversation with a nice person.....lol

3/23/2018 6:44:36 PM
big babies...if you can't take real talk and not some fantasy crap so you can type with one hand....just pass me by....no need even saying hello

3/10/2018 2:58:58 PM
Lazy weekend.....finally....lol

1/26/2018 5:52:40 PM
aaaaaarrrrrrggggg!!!!!!!!!

taking a break from unpacking...with the sad emails I'm getting I think I'll go back to the boxes....LOL

1/14/2018 5:15:25 PM
14 freakin' seconds....are you kidding me??????

1/14/2018 3:46:11 PM
GO SAINTS!!!!

1/2/2018 4:24:55 PM
wow...already have my first lying user for the year....I hope this is not the shape of things to come for 2018

1/1/2018 7:53:34 AM
What's say we start this new year off right.....READ PROFILES BEFORE YOU EMAIL...then be respectful of that person!

12/31/2017 11:55:32 PM
Well so much for the quiet new year, my friends made me leave my comfy couch....LOL   now gonna clear some emails until I get sleepy...lol

HAPPY NEW YEAR EVERYONE!

12/31/2017 5:35:36 PM
HAPPY NEW YEAR EVERYONE!!!!

Too cold to go out and icy...so I'm just going to stay in, have a few spirits and go through emails...I'm so far behind...lol

12/31/2017 5:05:00 PM
wow the last cyber knuckle draggers of 2017 all seem to be piling on....LOL  Help me Lord!....lol

12/31/2017 1:29:36 PM
GO SAINTS!!!!

12/25/2017 7:46:23 PM
Merry Christmas!!!!!

12/15/2017 9:08:37 PM
omg I guess there are no lifestyle slaves any more.....only "online players"  what a shame

Guess instead of having my family started for the holidays it's will be just me and Ben Robson....oh well....he's a good substitute....LOL

12/3/2017 1:42:43 PM
GO SAINTS!!!!!!!

12/2/2017 11:35:02 PM
Can't these jerk offs remember who they spam?....lol

9/23/2017 10:02:12 AM
Now it's Paul Johansson AND Jason Lewis....my dynamic duo....yum....lol

8/19/2017 5:36:46 PM
Finally....had a restful day...first day in forever....lol   Got to look at my shows that have my sweetie Paul Johansson in them....yummy day.....lol

7/5/2017 1:54:05 PM
I have a new love!!!!  Paul Johansson.....sorry Bobby Carlyle....have to move you to number two now.....LOL

4/15/2017 9:00:15 AM
I guess to make it online you have to lie to people and lead them on...oh and ask for money.   If you are honest and try to be polite you get nothing but static.....goodness

where is it written that says a dominant has to take a person just because they deemed to send you some spam?   Since when do dominants not have a choice?   Since when can we not politely decline?

This site seems to be a dead end...I think I'll just keep conversing with my buds and only look to munches for what I seek.

4/15/2017 7:31:06 AM
What kind of person are you, that calls people fake and other assorted names just because I, and politely I might add, said that I wasn't interested in you?  And then you are such a "man" you spew your venom and block...what a pathetic person

That is one reason I had this profile hidden for so long...out in less that 24 hours and this is my greeting......geez...things never change...unfortunately

10/12/2016 5:07:18 PM
Weekend coming .....time to have some fun....finally!!!!....lol

9/26/2016 6:12:20 PM
ok, don't make me come over there....

GO SAINTS!!!!

9/18/2016 10:24:45 AM
I actually get to see the games now!


GO SAINTS!!!!!

9/11/2016 10:40:50 AM
I am ready for some football!!!!!


GO SAINTS!!!!!!!

9/11/2016 10:33:31 AM
I am ready for some football!!!!!


GO SAINTS!!!!!!!

9/11/2016 10:30:12 AM
I am ready for some football!!!!!


GO SAINTS!!!!!!!

9/11/2016 10:22:30 AM
I am ready for some football!!!!!


GO SAINTS!!!!!!!

9/11/2016 10:17:43 AM
I am ready for some football!!!!!


GO SAINTS!!!!!!!

9/11/2016 10:15:32 AM
I am ready for some football!!!!!


GO SAINTS!!!!!!!

9/5/2016 8:46:09 AM
I officially give up!   All that seems to be here are guys what want to use you as a prostitute, or pussy's that talk all big and when it comes to meeting, here come the excuses, all of a sudden "it doesn't seem right" or some bullshit like that.....tired of getting canceled on....so from now on i'm just here for my buds, so no need to waste your time or mine any more....if you contact me just to play your internet romance games don't even bother.

I'll just go to the local events here and fine real and serious men, so find someone else to jerk off on

Here try this site, seems to be all you want any way:  onesubmissiveact.com
saw this on another wanker's profile....lol

9/2/2016 2:24:46 PM
Whoooo hooooo it's not only the weekend but a LOOOOOONG weekend!!!!

So let's all have fun with family and friends, but PLEASE don't contact me trying to "hook up"  I am "so" not interested in that.   It's ok if that's your thing, but don't blast people who are here for something more.

(pssstttt)  This site is not just for hookups, some people actually come here to exchange ideas, get educated, keep up with old friends, and make LASTING relationships.   So let's have fun everyone and be respectful of the person you are emailing and their wishes.

HAPPY LABOR DAY WEEKEND EVERYONE!!!!

8/13/2016 8:15:52 PM
Before you contact me, know what you want and be sure of yourself and most of all be ready.   I'm not into online romance, I think it's a colossal waste of time.  There are plenty online that want this so why bother someone who is not into that, get off your lazy ass and find those that want what you want.  So tired of wankers pretending they want this stringing me along.

I'm getting a little tired of clicking with someone, or thinking that I did, and when it comes to meeting all of a sudden it's all too fast for them, did you not come here to start this new life? Fast is the last thing I am...I don't agree to meet until "both" are comfortable and it's not overnight.  So that's a crock. 

 How many times have I heard, well I didn't think I'd find someone so fast.  Um you should be ready before you contact someone....why contact if you are not ready?.....just confuses the hell out of me.

Or, they agree to meet, and just before the day I get some excuse as to why they can't be there.  How much money have a wasted getting ready for a date then they back out.  I've heard crap from mental issues, parents being racists, to their "friends" don't approve.   Come on now....lol   But at least these wankers come up with "something", most just disappear.   And don't get me started on all the "I can relocate" people....geez.

It's so weird, you either get what I listed above or the wankers that want to meet on their very first email, in other words you're just a prostitute to them.   I don't have to take you just because you email, I do have a choice, just like you do.  Yes I am a real person, a human, so I have to click with someone and yes, I have to be attracted to them.   They get that luxury, guess what?  so do I.

Good Lord, what happened to this site?   Are there no serious lifestyler's left? Is it all just online gamers now?
 




8/11/2016 4:37:12 PM
Kick off!!!!!!!! yaaaaaaaay

8/11/2016 4:17:13 PM
YAY....IT'S SAINTS NIGHT!!!!!!!!   PRESEASON RULES!!!!

GO SAINTS!!!!

8/9/2016 6:23:51 PM
OMG OMG preseason game Thurs night...Saints v Patriots!!!!   It's like Christmas.....so excited!!!!!!!

8/5/2016 8:56:54 PM
OMG, how is it that they "never" pick the right house on House Hunters????

LOL

8/4/2016 3:28:33 PM
ALMOST FOOTBALL TIME!!!!!   YAY!!!!!!!

7/14/2016 4:45:42 PM
wow, isn't it strange.      

FYI the first thing I do when I walk in the door is turn on my laptop.  Then I go about the usual things that I do after I arrive home.  CS is one of the tabs on my homepage, if it shows I'm "online" doesn't mean I'm actively on this site.

I have a lot of emails, as I"m sure a lot of you do.   I pick a quiet time and I answer as many as I can in that time period before I have to go and do something else.  I am not some porn bot that sits in front of the computer day in/ day out, I am a human, and I have a life just like you do.

Come on people, you can tell if I've opened your email or not....so that should tell you to be patient, I just haven't opened yours yet.  There is no need to get nasty, use your brain.  OR, sometimes I might get bored at lunch and open some emails, using my phone,  but wish to wait to respond until after I get home and on a decent keyboard...or maybe I just want to think of an appropriate response....can I not have at least 24 hours before you get your panties in a wad?

On the other hand, I want to thank you for being nasty for no reason.  "You" didn't even give me a chance to open the emails, I was opening them in order, and you did seem like a very nice man....goes to show how people present themselves when they are trying to get whatever it is they want, and it's obviously not their real selves....just tells me that I avoided something that I didn't need in my life....so, thanks for showing your true colors up front, and saving me "tons" of time.

6/19/2016 12:49:33 AM
so let me get this straight...if I don't give you stories to help you jerk off I'm the bad guy, even though I say in my profile I'm not going to do this, not to mention you can't hold a conversation just ask a bunch of questions and I seem to catch in in lie after lie in just a few emails .....how sad  and funny how these guys seem to be from the same part of the world...go figure

6/18/2016 6:47:59 PM
haven't been on here on Saturday night in a long time.....wow...boring...LOL

6/18/2016 6:01:00 PM
Finally Saturday night....I finally get to relax and cool off.....so hot out...that's Texas fer ya....lol

5/29/2016 3:18:35 PM
You can view my profile every day....I am "not" going to contact you.   If you want to speak to me then do it, I"m not going to do the work for you.

I say this because I have people viewing on a daily basis, then after a while they contact me all pissed off saying things like I didn't respond to their "hello"   That is not a hello any more than someone that I have never spoken to in my life can add me as a "friend"....do you not know what these words mean?

5/23/2016 7:29:56 PM
If you can't hold a (regular) conversation, you remember, the ones that "aren't about D/s?....then we are not looking for the same thing so you might as well go to the next profile.

5/2/2016 3:35:51 PM
If you're not "ready" and local, or can show proof that you will relocate, then do NOT contact me

5/2/2016 3:34:35 PM
Isn't there anyone that tells the truth any more?   Is it all just lies to get attention?   Wow, what a sad life you must have.   

1/24/2016 5:14:54 PM
Sure are a lot of "do me's" on lately....hard to find someone that states that they can bring to the table...it's all about what they want done to them......lot of hook ups and people that want to cheat.....sad

1/9/2016 1:42:45 PM
Let's start the new year off right:   

READ FREAKIN' PROFILES BEFORE YOU EMAIL!!!!!!

I get so tired of these "wonderful" people getting pissed at me because I am not what they seek when it's clearly stated in my email what I'm looking form not to mention the ones that ask me; "so what are you looking for?"  Can you not read or are you just too lazy?....come on people!!!!!

11/30/2015 10:56:58 AM
If you approach me like I'm some Domme-bot or a prostitute, don't expect me to get all gushy and want to talk and/or slap a collar on you.

I am human.  First, how about greeting me?   Then how about sending at least a paragraph instead of a sentence that just contains four or five words.  And make it in the form of a conversation, I don't care about your experience at this point, I don't know you and I don't take applications.

I am not fishing for compliments, nor do they do anything for me, so those that constantly send them, and that's all they send, all it tells me is one, you can't start or hold a conversation, and two, you're awfully superficial.

Just because you sent one of the above one sentence emails four months ago does not constitute that "we talked before"....no, we didn't.  And also don't expect me to remember who you are.

All most Dommes on here want is you to approach us with respect.  If you walked up to someone in a store, a coffee shop...how would you approach them?   If you want to get more technical, say you were at a munch or at one of the in person play sites....just because they were in the lifestyle, wouldn't you still approach them like they were that person at the coffee shop?

Just think people....how would you want someone coming up to you?



11/21/2015 9:15:05 AM
So why is it when you have in your profile there is something that you do NOT want discussed that is all guys can put in their emails.  Either means you are not for me because you can't follow instruction or it means that you are doing it to be rude, so still not for me.

10/4/2015 8:43:10 PM
That's what I"m talking about!!!!

Way to go Saints!!!!

#WhoDatNation!!!!

10/4/2015 3:17:44 PM
ok Saints.....don't make me come over there....lol   If you win just one game this year it had better be this one

GO SAINTS!!!!

10/3/2015 2:59:00 PM
WTF has happened to this site?????

9/28/2015 1:10:44 PM
Been away for a wee bit, and right off the bat....maj idiot....lol   I guess some things stay the same...lol

8/26/2015 6:39:22 PM
so happy I have my alpha ....great start to this poly household

8/9/2015 5:24:41 PM
FOOTBALL!!!!!

8/2/2015 3:13:51 PM
Had a sweetie point this old journal entry out to me, and due to the "wonderful" emails that I've been getting lately, thought maybe it was time to dust it off and print it again:
Ok, I think this needs to be said. I have talked to a lot of my Domme/Dom friends and also my sub/slave friends and we all seem to be falling into the same situation.  When you have the so called "true dominants and submissives" that had a bad experience, like we all have, and now spend precious time attempting to make the current dominant or submissive "prove" themselves.

As in life you meet people that can be the best and those that can be the worst, but you have to give the new person a clean slate and not project what someone else has done to you on to this new person, it's just not fair.  I'm not saying jump in with both feet, of course be cautious, but don't take up where you left off with the last person.  

A lot of times, and I'm talking on both sides, Dominant and submissive, your approach may be why you are getting the responses that you get. Some people are new to this lifestyle, really want to get started, and will say things that they think you want to hear, because that is how you presented yourself, then when they think about it, they know it's not for them and a lot just disappear or a lot won't even respond to your email because of what you emailed them and/or they read your profile first and decided that what you seem to be seeking, is a far cry from what they are looking for.  Chances are you didn't mean it that way at all. You know what they say about first impressions.

I see so many that spend precious time complaining about all the "fakes" on this site, why use the energy?  why give them free rent in your head? And what I've found a lot of the time, is that the Dom/Domme simply was not interested and the sub/slave is "butt hurt" because they were not chosen, which in turn makes the Domme/Dom a "fake". That's like the old joke of trying to pick up a woman at a bar and just because she turns you down you feel the need to say that she must be a lesbian....sad.  You get a small amount of space to make a good impression and to let people know how you are as a person, why waste that space ranting and raving about someone that doesn't deserve the time of "your" day?

As long as that Dominant was open and honest in not being interested, there is nothing fake about them, and yes they should always tell the other person and not just disappear, but that goes for the hundreds of sub/slaves that I have spoken to as well, where it seems a good idea to want to belong to someone in the middle of the night or a lonely weekend, but in the clear light of day they change their minds, and just disappear instead of being honest and tell you what is going on with them.

Honestly, when I see those profiles complaining about "fakes" it's a major turn off, and I pass them by.  I'm not going to spend precious time trying to prove I am the Domme for you, that's just not my job.  My job is to be myself as it is your job to be yourself, so that we can get an honest assessment of our compatibility.  Yes as Dominants we do train submissives to suit our tastes, but the basis has to be there, you can't and shouldn't try to change a person's core just to suit what you want.

I am human, which means I'm far from perfect and every now and then I find myself thinking along those lines, "hey so and so did this very same thing, this one must be just like him", but I stop myself, It's usually a thought in my head before I act, so it's easy just to stop it.  On the few times that I have actually reacted in that negative manner, I have apologized....Dominant or not, wrong is wrong.

Fall is my favorite time of year, like many of you know...lol   So to me, this is the first of the year...and I want to spend it in a positive way....I hope more follow me and let's start fresh.  If you are truly serious, Dominant or submissive you don't want to miss out on "your" true match by being bitter, you are just letting that person that screwed you over win, and we can have that....we must be the winners.....like THE SAINTS! (you knew I had to go there...lol)

Who's with me?

7/27/2015 10:12:58 AM
ALMOST SAINTS TIME AGAIN!!!!!!!!

7/20/2015 6:37:25 PM
OMG what the hell had happened to this site????   Is everyone just out for themselves?   So many porn sites that you can go to so you can jerk off...why do you have to bother people that you know are not interested?   Loads of online people that will "play" with you....why not just go to them????   Leave the rest of us the hell alone.  

I have a pretty detailed profile about what I want, and what I don't want, but you insist on trying to push your own agenda on me, and when I call you on it, you have the nerve to get pissy?   seriously?.....LOL

7/14/2015 8:19:25 AM
Thanks to all of my "little buddies" here helping me through a tough time.  When you get to those times where you can't even breathe it great to know there is someone to help you through it...You have no idea how much I appreciate it :)

On that note, I decided have some fun.....so I decided to play "dress up"....LOL   Don't worry I'm not keeping them up long, no need to keep grossing people out.....LOL

7/13/2015 5:22:52 PM
ok, just an FYI:

Saying that you've always wanted a black domme or you been fantasizing about a black domme, etc. is not really cool.   Although this might seem like some kind of compliment, it isn’t. It sounds like you have some sort of "fetish" and it's for Black women and want to use me for some fantasy that you have in your mind. Statements like this are an immediate turn off for me. Sorry, but I have no desire to fulfill your sudden thirst for a Black woman!

7/13/2015 6:31:35 AM
yes I was bored....LOL   Some of this I do not agree with, but eh, it's just something to do...lol

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94% Sadist
88% Voyeur
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73% Brat tamer
55% Experimentalist
50% Daddy/Mommy
40% Exhibitionist
38% Non-monogamist
20% Ageplayer
17% Vanilla
13% Switch
9% Masochist
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7/8/2015 9:19:55 PM
ok...from now on if you have a history of popping in, barely talking then leaving the conversation without even a good bye I will no longer be responding to you.  

6/9/2015 11:54:48 PM
I am the proud owner of an AWESOME Alpha......all I need is the beta to complete my family!

6/2/2015 6:31:24 PM
what has happened to this site?....lol   If you're going to talk to me, then talk to me....don't talk to like ten others at the same time....lol   The response time sucks and I have better things to do than wait until you get back around to me.....and it's totally rude.  Not saying you have to be exclusive but just try having one conversation at a time?

5/25/2015 1:45:46 PM
Just got back home from long weekend.  Got some big storms in the area, just made it here ahead of them...I hope no one gets hurt...but I LOVE this weather!!!!

5/16/2015 8:42:29 PM
man, unpacking is kicking my buttocks....LOL

5/4/2015 4:15:05 PM
Saw The Avenger's today...it was soooo good, had lot of funny parts.....can't wait to add it to my collection

5/1/2015 11:01:28 AM
aaaahhhh....my last weekend here....bitter sweet...I do love S.A.
I'll see the Avenger's on Monday for a good bye gift to me :)    Man,  I am pooped packing.....lol     

Thor, here I come....lol

4/26/2015 10:48:31 PM
If you are in another state or country, please don't contact me until you are living permanently in my city

3/19/2015 1:21:16 PM
Put the deposit down on the new place today!   So excited can't wait and dread to move...lol

2/5/2015 9:21:37 PM
What happened to this site?  

1/15/2015 10:15:06 AM
Due to the "wonderful" people that have been emailing me I've decided to take a little break from looking....maybe permanently.   Not saying this for the poor pitiful me aspect, just letting you know so you won't waste your time, not that profiles or journals are read any way....lol

Just hear to keep talking to my old friends I've made through the years.



1/14/2015 2:15:14 AM
well the new year is starting out....had my first "you're a fake" email....idiot didn't have a profile, couldn't even say "hello", and it's all because I wouldn't except money to tie him to a tree so mosquitoes could get him.....LOL  oh this is going to be a great year with this kind of entertainment.....LOL

1/9/2015 8:20:53 PM
Brrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr

I love this weather!!!! 

1/1/2015 1:54:55 PM
FIRST OF ALL:  "hello"  I'm a human being!   This means when you email me a greeting would be nice.  If we agree to meet online at a certain time and you can't be here, leave me a message so I won't be waiting around...and last but not least, if we are in a back and forth conversation either here in emails or on yahoo and you have to leave....could you let me know so I won't be waiting for a response?  I am not a robot I have a life too and I don't want to spend it waiting in front of a computer.  And just so you know...whether you are the alpha or the beta if you can't have a regular conversation with me, it will not work.   I go through the trouble of talking to you in IM and all I get are one word or one sentence responses from you....you are gone!  I hope I have made myself clear.

1/1/2015 1:49:13 PM
Brand new year, first time waster of the year....well things are just right on schedule....LOL

1/1/2015 1:24:30 PM
ok, just ate a spoonful of those nasty a** blackeyed peas.....geez it's hard to be southern....LOL

HAPPY NEW YEAR EVERYONE!!!!

12/27/2014 11:10:54 AM
Finally back home....had a great Christmas, every one basically behaved...lol  Hope all of your Christmas' went well : )


12/23/2014 9:14:24 PM
Hey guys, I know some of you don't have social skills but it's the holidays, can you wait to be a jackass until January?  

12/23/2014 6:05:14 AM
MERRY CHRISTMAS EVERYONE!!!!!

12/4/2014 4:02:23 PM
Gonna bundle up and make it a Robert Carlyle night!  :>

11/26/2014 2:54:00 PM
omg...xbox one is so cool....I feel like a witch....LOL

11/21/2014 1:32:49 PM
OMG I swear, if I can't find anyone to put in place by Christmas I'm going to give up on my search and just stay to use the forums and keep up with my friends that I've made over the years.   I'm so tired of these trolls....and if I do find someone that would work, they are so far away it's not even funny and of course neither of us can relocate........sorry folks, bad troll day...have to blow off steam....will probably delete this by the end of the day.....LOL

10/14/2014 2:20:10 AM
If you are a "do me" slave/sub that has this laundry list of things that you want done to you and you want them done on a "visit"  then you need a pro domme.   If you want to have things done to you online, again...you will probably need a pro domme.

I don't understand you guys that fill lifestyle dommes email with these request then bitch about pro dommes on your profile.  

Is it just that you are too cheap to pay for it?  and you think lifestyle dommes are so desperate that we will fulfill your fantasies for free?   Come on now....lol

A BIG THANK YOU TO THE GUYS THAT ARE SERIOUS AND ACTUALLY CONTACT ME WITH "LIKE" INTEREST.....not hard guys

8/16/2014 1:05:08 PM
Ok, I think this needs to be said. I have talked to a lot of my Domme/Dom friends and also my sub/slave friends and we all seem to be falling into the same situation.  When you have the so called "true dominants and submissives" that had a bad experience, like we all have, and now spend precious time attempting to make the current dominant or submissive "prove" themselves.

As in life you meet people that can be the best and those that can be the worst, but you have to give the new person a clean slate and not project what someone else has done to you on to this new person, it's just not fair.  I'm not saying jump in with both feet, of course be cautious, but don't take up where you left off with the last person.  

A lot of times, and I'm talking on both sides, Dominant and submissive, your approach may be why you are getting the responses that you get. Some people are new to this lifestyle, really want to get started, and will say things that they think you want to hear, because that is how you presented yourself, then when they think about it, they know it's not for them and a lot just disappear or a lot won't even respond to your email because of what you emailed them and/or they read your profile first and decided that what you seem to be seeking, is a far cry from what they are looking for.  Chances are you didn't mean it that way at all. You know what they say about first impressions.

I see so many that spend precious time complaining about all the "fakes" on this site, why use the energy?  why give them free rent in your head? And what I've found a lot of the time, is that the Dom/Domme simply was not interested and the sub/slave is "butt hurt" because they were not chosen, which in turn makes the Domme/Dom a "fake". That's like the old joke of trying to pick up a woman at a bar and just because she turns you down you feel the need to say that she must be a lesbian....sad.  You get a small amount of space to make a good impression and to let people know how you are as a person, why waste that space ranting and raving about someone that doesn't deserve the time of "your" day?

As long as that Dominant was open and honest in not being interested, there is nothing fake about them, and yes they should always tell the other person and not just disappear, but that goes for the hundreds of sub/slaves that I have spoken to as well, where it seems a good idea to want to belong to someone in the middle of the night or a lonely weekend, but in the clear light of day they change their minds, and just disappear instead of being honest and tell you what is going on with them.

Honestly, when I see those profiles complaining about "fakes" it's a major turn off, and I pass them by.  I'm not going to spend precious time trying to prove I am the Domme for you, that's just not my job.  My job is to be myself as it is your job to be yourself, so that we can get an honest assessment of our compatibility.  Yes as Dominants we do train submissives to suit our tastes, but the basis has to be there, you can't and shouldn't try to change a person's core just to suit what you want.

I am human, which means I'm far from perfect and every now and then I find myself thinking along those lines, "hey so and so did this very same thing, this one must be just like him", but I stop myself, It's usually a thought in my head before I act, so it's easy just to stop it.  On the few times that I have actually reacted in that negative manner, I have apologized....Dominant or not, wrong is wrong.

Fall is my favorite time of year, like many of you know...lol   So to me, this is the first of the year...and I want to spend it in a positive way....I hope more follow me and let's start fresh.  If you are truly serious, Dominant or submissive you don't want to miss out on "your" true match by being bitter, you are just letting that person that screwed you over win, and we can have that....we must be the winners.....like THE SAINTS! (you knew I had to go there...lol)

Who's with me?

8/15/2014 11:27:30 PM
SAINTS preseason win #2!!!!

GO SAINTS!!!!

8/12/2014 5:34:17 PM
Going to be moving to the DFW area soon....can't wait to get back!

8/8/2014 5:46:14 PM
Whooo hooooo....Football is baaaaaack!!!!

SAINTS pre-season tonight!

GO SAINTS!!!!

8/3/2014 6:50:35 PM
new crush....Robert Carlyle!   yummmmmm

7/5/2014 3:32:49 PM
Just had someone get "miffed" at me because "I" didn't contact them when I saw that they had viewed me.   People view profiles all the time, just means that they looked, not that they are interested.  Also profiles can be clicked by accident, I've done it a lot of times.  I don't have a crystal ball and I can't read your mind, if you want contact I suggest you grow a pair and make it, that's about the only way it's going to happen.  I don't have a "code book" nor is the "who's viewing me?" button a Bat signal

6/22/2014 6:02:11 PM
TRUE BLOOD TIME!!!!!!!

6/21/2014 9:15:12 PM
True Blood tomorrow!!!!!

6/17/2014 6:59:10 PM
Almost time for True Blood to start again....can't wait to see Eric....yummmm

6/17/2014 6:57:44 PM
Hey guys,, if you are going to lie, and pretend to be a female to "trick" me into chat....at least learn to lie better....LOL

6/15/2014 4:58:55 PM
Found the new site this weekend.....Thank goodness....some may have issues with this site, but there is nothing like it out there, and believe me I've looked. Rock on Collar(whatever).....LOL

5/8/2014 4:13:33 PM

Getting closer to the last season of True Blood....can't wait to hear Bill's southern drawl again...not to mention "my" Eric....lol  Wonder if I could put Bill's southern drawl in Eric...I would be in heaven!!!!!   lol

oh leave me alone I'm on vacation...lol


5/8/2014 4:02:24 PM

Finally read a profile of someone that actually understands!  I applaud you, you know who you are. And he is a southern gentleman, go figure...LOL   I wish you all the luck in the world!  


4/29/2014 6:22:42 PM

OMG! I'm finally getting rid of the next to the last reminder of what's his name....that stupid job!   Finally been blessed with a career.   One more last thing left, just waiting on the judge, then never have to think about that loser again!!!!  whoooooo hoooooooooooooo


4/2/2014 6:23:39 PM

OK,  my new crush is Alexander Skarsgard!!!!!!   yummmmm

 


3/21/2014 6:34:51 PM

What's up with all the guys wanting to be financial slaves?   Was there a massive lottery win I don't know about.....LOL


2/14/2014 6:39:12 PM

HAPPY VALENTINES DAY EVERYONE!!!!


2/6/2014 4:43:25 PM

Can't beat a southern gentleman :)


2/2/2014 7:23:32 PM

WTF was that???????


1/18/2014 2:14:59 PM

It's been an AWESOME day!!!!!!!!

 

HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO MEEEEEEEEEEEEE!!!!!!!!


1/11/2014 3:25:04 PM

Having a bad day.....sigh


1/11/2014 2:05:33 PM

I can' breathe.....

 

GO SAINTS!!!!


1/4/2014 8:48:23 PM

After a couple of asthma attacks....they won!

 

WAY TO GO SAINTS!!!!


1/4/2014 5:15:39 PM

So starts SAINTS Saturday....

 

GO SAINTS!!!!


12/31/2013 5:29:10 PM

HAVE A HAPPY AND SAFE NEW YEAR EVERYONE!!!!


12/29/2013 8:30:18 PM

The one time I needed the stupid cowboys to win they blow it....per usual....sigh


12/29/2013 8:28:10 PM

WAY TO GO SAINTS!!!!


12/29/2013 1:24:29 PM

Ok, yet again can't see my boys, so I'll have to keep up with a twitter feed

 

GO SAINTS!!!!


12/22/2013 1:13:33 PM

ooooookaaaaay   ...Mistress is OFFICIALLY in a bad mood 


12/22/2013 12:41:09 PM

OMG they're killin' meeeeeeeee


12/22/2013 10:26:05 AM

ok, another SAINTS Sunday, wish I could see it, stuck with the stupid cowboys game....sigh........GO SAINTS!!!!


12/15/2013 4:07:18 PM

Looks like I'm gonna have to take a little trip to NO tomorrow


12/8/2013 8:35:36 PM

WHODAT?!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


12/8/2013 5:35:30 PM

Gonna be a SAINTS Sunday night!

 

GO SAINTS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


11/24/2013 12:37:43 PM

It was SAINTS day on Thursday....they won, so today is just a free day to relax and keep warm under these two quilts...lol    I'm so loving the weather and loving life.....hope you all have a great Sunday as well!


11/17/2013 6:38:04 PM

Someone just asked me if loving football is a requirement in my new slave to be.   No you don't have to like football, but it wouldn't hurt....double points if you're a Saints fan....LOL


11/17/2013 4:42:58 PM

Woof that was a close one....

 

WAY TO GO SAINTS!!!!


11/17/2013 11:20:10 AM

Another Saints Sunday!

 

GO SAINTS!!!!!!


11/10/2013 8:52:46 PM

WHO DAT??????????   WAY TO GO SAINTS!!!!!!


11/10/2013 12:14:13 PM

IT'S GONNA BE A SAINTS NIGHT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


10/13/2013 4:40:45 PM

ooooooooooooooooh I don't feel good


10/13/2013 2:49:17 PM

It's SAINT'S Day!!!!!!

 

GO SAINTS!!!!


10/6/2013 1:08:53 PM

5 - 0

WHODAT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


10/6/2013 9:58:49 AM

Proud member of the WhoDatNation!

 

GO SAINTS!!!!!!!


9/29/2013 11:59:05 AM

Got to wait another day before SAINTS day.....sigh


9/15/2013 5:49:44 PM

Whoooooo hooooooo  SAINTS win again........WHooooooooooDAT!!!!!!


9/15/2013 10:45:38 AM

another SAINTS day!!!!!!!!!


9/8/2013 1:05:52 PM

WHODAT???????????


9/8/2013 10:51:32 AM

SAINTS!


8/18/2013 12:10:31 PM

I didn't get crap done this weekend...aaaaaaarrrrrggggghhhhh


7/26/2013 9:11:08 PM

A friend of mine and I are playing the "skin a max" game.....we watch the movies and have to take a drink for each fake boob you see.....LOL


7/26/2013 6:03:59 PM

Friday night!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


7/14/2013 6:55:20 PM

Trying to learn second city without a mouse sucks....lol


7/12/2013 6:58:21 PM

The weekend......finally!     lol


7/7/2013 8:55:12 PM

Robin Thicke's new song and video Blurred Lines....yummmmm

 I so liked the funny version he did with Jimmy Kimmel, found it by accident on youtube, I had to download and put it on my phone....hilarious


6/30/2013 5:49:23 PM

I hate reality shows, but flipping through the channels I ran across wife swap, it caught my eye because it was Roddy Piper and Rick Flair....I haven't laughed so hard in a long time....lol


6/30/2013 12:08:35 PM

Lazy Sunday.....finally....lol


6/16/2013 12:30:18 PM

Happy Father's Day to all you poppy's....lol


6/9/2013 7:05:06 PM

Seriously, any one out there realistic any more?  Not real...realistic


5/25/2013 8:57:12 PM

Iron Man/Avengers/Thor/Hulk/Cap America junkie!!!!!   LOL


5/25/2013 8:03:38 PM

We are finally getting some rain!!!!  Praise the Lord!


5/24/2013 11:24:00 AM

Please don't write to me with all the Domme/slave jargon:  I slave's job is to do this and that and I will do this and that for my Domme.  And a Domme's job is, and how it's all about me, yadda yadda yadda.

 

We already know what our positions entail.  All this shows me is that you either are playing net games, or that you don't know how to communicate and/or you are sending this spam to everyone that your write to, because you can't bother writing a personal email, and that you are just looking at pics and not looking for a situation the same as I seek.   Just talk, plain language.  You don't have to do the upper case Domme and lower case slave thing or refer to yourself in third person, just let me see your personality.  As you can see what I seek within my profile, then you know why the approach of being yourself is very important to me.

 

Love

DJ


5/18/2013 1:37:32 PM

Just saw Iron Man III.  Saw it in 3D, IMAX, DBOX.....awesome!!!!!!


5/3/2013 5:26:07 PM

IT'S THE WEEKEND!!!!! yippeeee skippeeeee....lol


5/1/2013 5:35:21 PM

I will not answer spam emails.  If you are so lazy you can only copy and paste, don't expect me to put fourth any energy to respond to it.


4/20/2013 9:04:33 PM

ooooooooowwwwwww....been moving boxes here and there all day....EVERYTHING HURTS!!!!!


4/20/2013 3:12:25 PM

OMG want to talk about nerve racking?   That's when the movers are moving your "special" tub, you know the one with all the toys????  At one point I heard one of them say, look over there, it's about to open...talk about my heart stopping!!!!!   LOL


4/19/2013 8:43:23 PM

First night in my new place.  just took a nice bath in my new jetted tub....aaaahhhhh

 

Hopefully the moving company will pull their head out and move my furniture tomorrow...lol   Oh well, since I had cable people coming they bought me a 32 inch tv and giving me $500 dollars because they messed up...I can live with that...lol


4/19/2013 6:53:22 PM

Can't anyone say hello any more before they start going on about what they want and like?.....geez


3/9/2013 7:26:28 PM

Friend made me hard frozen lemonade....soooo goooooood....lol


2/25/2013 8:07:48 PM

Woof!   the wind was kickin' today!   It was batting my car around like a cat toy....LOL


2/14/2013 3:55:25 PM

Happy Valentines Day my lovelies!  : >  


2/3/2013 4:19:44 PM

ok, guys, April is coming up, so I've gotta start making some decisions soon, and, no, I'm not going to just settle.  So I apologize in advance for those who do not meet basic needs, I probably won't be responding back to you.  I've got a lot to do before the move, and not a lot of time to do it in, with meeting, making sure personalities and needs are aligned and picking the right house for the right dungeon needs.  And it goes without saying, I don't have time to "chase" any one, so know what you are looking for, know that you are ready for it, and now, and "then" contact me and be serious about it. You don't keep up with responses then I have to move on, as I said, I don't have time.


2/3/2013 12:49:01 PM

Man, I hate Sunday email catch up day....feels like I'm doing homework....lol


1/27/2013 12:04:00 PM

Hmmmmm....finally getting some serious inquires, might have that slave in place by April yet....LOL


1/26/2013 11:29:14 AM

Had a few ask me about my "tick tick tick" entry.  That was kind of a reminder for me, that I would like to have someone in place, or at least on the road to being in place before April since that is when I will be moving to a new place.  That way I can pick a place suited for the both of us.  By that I mean each slave that I have was different and I trained them in a different way, so the home and the "chamber" will reflect that.  Also would answer the question house or duplex...lol    Not desperate or in a hurry, if it happens it happens, just saying it would be nice to have him before the move.  Hope I made some since...lol


1/20/2013 3:02:25 PM

Hello everyone, not saying this to be mean, but talking to other Dommes/Doms on here, maybe this will give you that leg up that you need:

 

I think it goes without saying that no matter what your preference is on this site, we are all "people", we are not machines or your employees.  With that said, when you approach someone, how about a greeting?  Also, how about an email actually sent to them and not some obvious copy and paste?  I get emails sent to me months apart that say the "exact" same thing.  I usually don't respond to those, hey they are mass mailing they don't remember they sent it any away.  Conversational speaking is a key, with me any way.  If you send an application I'm going to treat it as such.  First email is nothing but a bunch of things you would put on an app, I didn't even ask you anything yet.  Take time, what's the hurry?

 

And if I take the time to respond and you either don't answer me back, or it takes hours to respond, also says a lot.  You didn't read my profile and feel that there could be a connection, you're mass mailing and have no idea who you even sent emails to.

 

Also, considering the kind of situation I am looking for, if your first sentence is "can I serve you?" or "are you interested in me?" not really going to take you seriously.  

 

Whether a Dom/Dommes says yes or no to you at first but offers you friendship, I would suggest you take it.   If they say they are interested and you don't want to take the time for friendship it says a lot.  And if they say they are not interested in that way, but offers friendship any way, will also benefit you.  Since you don't know someone, they may come off a little rough, rude, a**hole, etc.  and after getting to know them, wasn't the case, but if they hadn't take my offer of friendship I would've never known.  Besides, with what I am looking for, the alpha slave position is based on friendship and companionship, so if you are not interested in getting to know me, then you should find a poly where this position is already filled.

 

I am ready here and now, as other Dommes/Doms are, if you aren't, then let's not waste each other's time.  Take the time to read profiles and not just look at pics, find a true match.  Might cut down on those thinking that people are "fake" when actually they just think one Domme/Dom, fits all and it's so not the case

 

Let's have a good new year and have fun!


1/18/2013 1:22:28 PM

HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO MEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE!!!!!!!!!!!

 

It's been a great day!


12/31/2012 3:17:07 PM

HAPPY NEW YEAR EVERYONE!!!!

 

I know I am "so" ready for this year to be over and done.   High hopes for the new year.   Hoping that the new year is kind to everyone.

 

Stay safe tonight!


12/26/2012 1:02:52 PM

ok, so just hooked up my new tv, moved the tv there to the bedroom, moved the one there (the old style heavy ass one)(I got muscles ya'll)..lol,  into the second bedroom.  They are all hooked up and happy....and I'm pooped...lol

 

 


12/25/2012 7:44:53 PM

Hope everyone had a Merry Christmas!

 

Santa brought me some new toys.....LOL


12/19/2012 5:55:01 PM

OMG!!!!!  80 something degrees today!   WTF?????


12/16/2012 4:41:26 PM

I have read a lot in my time as a Domme, I can't believe I have never ready The Marketplace, always meant to, guess just never got around to it.   I believe it's a "must" read for all those that claim that want to be lifestyle.  Excellent is dividing lifestyle fact from fiction.


12/16/2012 11:07:08 AM

Lazy Sunday.  No TV, just the radio and reading, checking emails now and then.....awesome!


12/11/2012 6:26:31 PM

Trying out bdsmfriendbook.   Not too bad so far....


12/9/2012 7:22:25 PM

Christmas party was so cool, had a lot of fun, stayed in hotel in the area afterwards with fellow co-workers, and met some other nice people and nice "potential" friends...lol....great weekend!


12/8/2012 12:40:27 PM

CHRISTMAS PARTY TONIGHT!!!!!!!


12/5/2012 7:05:33 PM

First Christmas party of the year Saturday, should be fun!   Already got my hotel room....lol


12/1/2012 12:16:21 PM

tick tick tick


11/21/2012 8:31:51 PM

Happy Thanksgiving everyone!!!!  


9/8/2012 12:44:37 AM

Extra points if you can build furniture for me....lol


9/2/2012 1:16:07 PM

Been on what's left of the river...I am not extra crispy....lol


8/31/2012 7:41:51 PM

Just discovered Bud Light Lime a rita.......awwwwesommmmmme.....lol

Probably the last readible thing I type tonight....lol   got my bud to hold me up, a person not just the can....lol   man am I a cheap date or what?????.....lol


8/31/2012 4:56:15 PM

Goin' toobin' this weekend!!!!!!

 

HAPPY LABOR DAY WEEKEND EVERYONE!!!!!!


8/30/2012 4:17:00 PM

Woooooo hooooooo   state fair is coming up.....CAN NOT WAIT!!!!!


6/29/2012 6:19:37 PM

Can you believe it???..Talking to an actual General, in real,....geez can not get away from the military....LOL


6/22/2012 8:04:09 PM

Oh, how I had waited for you. We became one no longer, we were then two. As soon as we made that transition I knew it was the right decision.

 The distant look revealed in your eyes made me work harder to keep you in my life. Time after time we argued and fight. You know of me I’m not that type. So in love with you I lost myself I couldn’t see that I was all by myself. One night it dawned on me, while I watched you sleep, your body is here but your minds away from me. At that moment I turned away I saw the truth I didn’t want to face. Our time is up its not meant to be. There is no more you and me. So caught up in my wedding ring, I ignored the energy.

 The friction, the passion, has died I can't wake up again at your side. So as you slept I packed my bags I didn’t feel happy only sad. I saw a rose that was fading away I placed it along with the keys to our place; I’m walking away to seek my identity.

 

by soforreal26


6/22/2012 7:44:23 PM

I now know that you don't love, but I loved hard. Sometimes I ask myself, could I have been a little smarter. The so called love you had, you don't have any more. I can tell too, that's why my heart's so sore. I seen the signs but I ignored them. Thinking you where just going through a phase of boredom. So yes the signs were there, when I left, you didn't even care.

I'm sick of your lies and letting you watch me cry, so I'm drying up my eyes and washing my face. It's time for me to start on a brand new day. I been too good to you for to damn long, now it's time for me to move the hell on, because you're wrong. I thank you for all the lessons that you taught. You can have everything that I bought. So now that you know that I'm fed up, I'm walking off with my head held up.

 

 

Closure by 1984jrock


6/21/2012 6:45:37 PM

You gotta wonder what kind of sad life some people have when they have to contact people they don't even know and just be plain nasty.  They can comment on my life and be rude, when they obviously don't have one...lol

 

Guess you just gotta pray for those types.


6/17/2012 8:21:13 PM

Used my military ID today, while I still can,  to do a little shopping.  Changing all of my Navy stuff to Air Force stuff...lol


5/6/2012 6:44:08 PM

You guys do know the difference between some fantasy and the real world right?    Trust me, it will be beneficial to you to get to know a person before you just jump in and want to meet or worse jump into lifestyle with them.   Check out the news sometime.

 

It's a dangerous world out there, be careful.


5/2/2012 5:16:40 PM

Don't cha just hate it when you innocently go to your home page here and there's a big c*ck in yer face....LOLYell


5/2/2012 12:59:32 PM

Suggestions to the newbies, and those who can't seem to connect:

 Take the time to find someone that actually have the same likes and dislikes that you do. 

 Some look at pics, don't bother to even read profiles and lie claiming that they want and is into the same things that poster wants.  They think that they can live with "settling" with what the poster wants, or they think they can change that person to be what they actually want later on down the line. 

 Your life will be miserable, and it will not work.

 Be honest, be truthful, be patient, and you will get what you seek.

 Just some things I've learned on my "dark journey's"

 

 


5/2/2012 12:12:05 PM

Should be on daily again, plowing through the emails, so please be patient.

 

 

I guess this is the time you when you say.....Do over!.....lolCool


4/2/2010 10:45:10 PM
MORE COWBELL

2/7/2010 6:57:52 PM
WHO DAT??????

1/24/2010 7:25:51 PM

SAINTS!!!!!!!


1/9/2010 8:21:22 PM
OMG! (again)...what in the hell made "me" think I could construct a bondage bench????   I must be outta my ever lovin' mind!!!!!!

1/8/2010 9:05:28 PM
OMG it's a lot of hard work trying to put together a chamber by yourself..lol   Just takin' a break while the drill charges

oh well, it'll all be worth it when he gets home

1/7/2010 10:20:14 AM
Been getting a lot of cool..um...presents for my slave/hubby.  Been ordering for about two months...he's going to have a nice chamber to come home to....I think I'll put a big old bow on the door...lol

12/31/2009 8:29:39 PM
HAPPY NEW YEAR EVERYONE!

Hope everyone has a great 2010!

and I hope all the troops hurry and get home....especially mine

12/24/2009 7:53:42 PM
MERRY CHRISTMAS EVERYONE!!!!

Especially to my special one that I can't be with this year.  I miss you and we will definitely make up for it next year (wink wink)

I love you!

5/19/2009 6:06:02 PM
I GOT MARRIED TODAY!!!!!  I now have the slave husband I've been searching for all of my life

whoooo hoooooo

5/16/2009 10:42:14 AM
Got the marriage license Wednesday....whooo hooo!!!!!

4/13/2009 6:16:49 PM
Found my southern man....Life is wonderful and so is he

Weird how you can be looking for years and being scammed time and time again on here, and it turns out that you knew "the one" all along..... for years.   lol

2/15/2009 3:38:17 PM

ok, move over Australia....my new love...... Christian Kane!!!! yum....

    Texas rules again!....lol


     I've talked to a lot of people from all parts of the world, but bottom line my favorite is a nice southern gentleman with a sexy southern drawl....double yummmm


12/18/2008 4:26:01 PM
ok, that does it....  Australia has just "got" to move next door to Texas...lol

   The men there have to be grown in a lab somewhere....sweetest gentlemen I talk to....and did I mention....HOT!!!....LOL

sigh

11/24/2008 5:29:45 PM
HUGH JACKMAN THE SEXIEST MAN ALIVE!!!!   well....duh!!!!!!   LOL


   I swear I've just got to move to that country...lol   Although I'd probably go into "hotness" overload.....LOL

11/16/2008 11:51:10 AM
You know about Alex O'Loughlin and then there are both LaPagila's and Julian McMahon

and now...., new on my drool list....
    Hugh Jackman!!!

well actually he's an old one I revived....lol  

  what is it with me and Australia?...LOL

11/11/2008 8:55:47 PM
ok...my sweeties are back!!!!  whoo hooooooooo   was starting to worry there for a minute....lol 

   Aussies and Canadians rule!!!!   LOL

6/14/2008 1:12:19 PM
I read this on another dominant's profile...I was going to change the words to make it my own, but it's said perfectly:



    Why do I not initially come across as particularly dominant? (So many on here do, and sometimes in a rather crass way.) The answer is simple.



   Consent.



   Before you have negotiated, before you have decided to play, before you have begun a scene or relationship, there is not yet consent for anything D/s. So dominant behavior would be inappropriate at that point.



  Later on, though, once the parameters of play have been agreed and consent has been given, I can and do let loose my inner dominant...



  And for me this means, in person, face to face....NOTHING online.  Until I physically place my collar around your neck, we are just two people......talking

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