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Male

Straight (or hetroflexible?)

Poly

Sub

First about my basic interest. Dom female. Lifestyle. I see myself being able to enjoy pet play to a degree. As well as being a sub to another sub or sharing a dom with another sub (or pet/slave). I'm somewhat kinky but a person first and foremost just like you. I take the bad with the good but first and foremost I need to know and trust you before that. 50 shades of grey is on the table but I need good stuff to balance things out. That's something I'm willing to get into, not exactly a need of sorts. Yes it's complicated. No I won't explain why until we get to talking to each other. Suffice to say I accept the bad and look past it in others which is why things ended good.

Warning: Detailed text ahead. I write a lot about me but I'll also want to get to know you.

Ok, so I'm poly. Did you walk away from this ad after a glance? If so I ask myself if I wasn't even looked at for being different. The logic is simple. Who matters to you matters to you even if I don't like them. The logic works both ways. The way I see it it's ALWAYS a bond between two people alone as well, because there's only one of everyone. No one else is me and no one else is you. No one else will ever be "us" either. I'm here for everyone I care for to the best of my ability. 100% at all times. No one gets ditched. I'm never ever there for anyone less, even if that also means not being there more. I can't be there "more" because I'm already there to the best of my ability. Except when I get to know people. Trust me and I'll trust you. Accept my ways and I accept yours. Accept who else I'm with and I accept your company, even if you don't accept mine. I have been through too much pain and sorrow with being there more and less and people making me choose for this to be any different for me. People in my past got hurt and even died because of this. I will not put YOU in danger. Nor will I put myself in danger by playing favorites. That's not to say mono is dangerous around me, only that if you expect me to choose you over anyone then it's going to be an issue. because I sure as hell wont say to you "Leave those you know and care for in the dust and never talk to them again". That happened to me once. I did it once. Never again. Not everyone puts mates over friends. I love a lot of people, I am not sexually attracted to all of them. I am nevertheless here in "one" shared way with each and every one of them. I love easily because I've loved hard. It's only a problem if it's not accepted. For that to happen I need to be accepted as me. I will accept you even if I don't love you. I will likely love you if you just accept me. I know what like is. I can like someone that doesn't try to be there for me. I can respect them. Just "be here" and there's a good chance I'll love you for it.

I'm also a lifestyle sub. And I'm looking for a female dom. One that will talk and listen about my wants and needs as I would talk to them about such a thing. Girls get roughed up all the time. I want that, I want a female dom to do that with me. To accept that part of me, to put me at my worst as well as my best. To give a hard yank on the leash before caressing my cheek and such. I don't do consent. Ever. Think that makes me a danger? NEWSFLASH! Doms are people too. If I think someone is a danger around me I don't let them near me. I simply talk about things and trust in the other to know what will affect me. If a mistake is ever made I do not hold a grudge and I do not blame. I also enjoy being forced into things and used but I'm also a human being with thoughts and feelings and want someone to care for me. You're probably the same. I want someone to be here for me in my way as I do my best to be here for others in the ways that they too enjoy. I want a our way. To do things for each other. It's a two way street. So get in touch with me and let's have a conversation about all that. It's not called compatibility, it's called getting to know each other and seeing if we care enough to do things for each other. Unless we suck at it, then that's compatibility.

I may or may not be sexually attracted to you. I want a sexually attractive dom when to comes to "forced". I need to "feel it". If you are not sexually attractive then it means my sex needs might not be met (the body isn't the only thing that makes things sexy). You might even have a sexy body yet not be able to "be sexy". It's NOT your fault if that doesn't happen. I will not think less of you. You're a human being. I can't control my libido. I will still want to know you as a person. But what I'm LOOKING for is in the interest of my needs. I have many but so do you. Which ones are met are up to you if it's possible. If it's not then that's ok. I might not be able to meet ALL of you needs either. That too is ok. Maybe we can work around that somehow. We can still be here for each other.

I'll still keep trying for others even if I suck though. And I don't avoid others just because they're different. If I suck at something, like soft, cuddly things (I don't mind cuddles but don't drown me in it) then I can help find someone to fulfill needs I can't meet or something. I like helping, I like being helpful and I like others helping out. And I like you helping me too. We all win out.

Also I put morality over law. Law is never an excuse. It's actually illegal to even spoon someone when they're asleep. But that's only an issue if the other takes you to court. It can still be wanted and needed. I'm into some taboo things myself and I never ever judge. I ask for the same treatment in kind. Or you can piss on that and act like law knows better. Do that and I'm pushing you away for my mental health. No, really, I'm not joking. Someone once did that with me. They're on block for a reason. Acting like you know better for others is why people get depressed. Do it unintended and there's no blame. KEEP doing it with me and I'm sure as hell saying you're responsible after you've been well informed and that I stated I have my own wants/needs and that even law doesn't know better there. If I had to live within the law all the time I'd likely be depressed 24/7. Which is the healthier option?

Also people can assume much of me. Please don't do that and talk to me about things if there's a misunderstanding. I will with you and I'll never assume myself. That alone will make me feel like you care for me. A simple conversation about things. Not a lot to ask for.

Also I'm on Furcadia, Secondlife and other things. Even if you're across the street I need you to accept the online me as well. It's going to be where we get to know each other. And a IRL visit can actually be a slower thing to do then being an online mate. I will never ever toy with the heart. I know the damage that can do. That said I don't do "Online only forever". If you trust someone on the net then why fear them to be a part of your RL? That's how I see it. And to love for me is to be there in OUR ways. To just accept each other as we are. Not just mine or yours alone. That's not to say things should be rushed there of course.