If you are looking to discuss something or have a question, then polite e-mails that show effort will almost always be replied to when I get time to do so.
One liners and obvious trolls will simply be deleted!
And don't just send Me Friendcircle invites out of the blue. Yes I have quite a few listed here, most are people I know in real life and the few others I have spoken to at length for a year or two. If neither of those applies then the answer is NO!
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If I see something that interests Me in the way of potential addition to this household or as a playpartner then I will soon let you know. If you see something here that appeals feel free to draw My attention to the fact that there is something I may wish to consider.
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The best way to get a feel for who I am, other than meeting Me in real life at one of the Scene events around London (Such as the Croydon Munch or London Alternative Market, both of which I am a regular at) would be to read My forum posts here or elsewhere. You get a range of Me there. My thoughts on D/s, warped sense of humour, even how I am when butting heads with someone in a disagreement. For good or bad its all there. WYSIWYG.
I am a human being, I have flaws, I am not UberDom the superhero or a life support machine for a flogger. Don't build some 'image' of Me that you expect Me to live upto, if you choose to submit to Me you are submitting to the whole package, the person, the human being. Dominant certainly, but every bit HUMAN!
But to capsulate it in a 'personal ad'?
First off: Dominant, straight, I don't switch
"When you trust enough in Me, in My approach and in My duty of care, THEN you submit. Once you submit, you are Mine in mind, body and soul. If you ever loose that trust, the one and only choise that remains entirely yours is to walk away.... but it is a one way door"
I am a lifestyler, I don't play at this. Dominant isn't a hat I put on at 'playtime', it is who I am, how I am wired. I tend towards the TPE end of things, more suited to owning a slave than simply being 'Dom' to a sub. The D/s dynamic and the 'relationship' is the important bit. BDSM 'play' is an often enjoyed extra, but not 'what I am about', it is just the iceing on the cake. Likewise whilst I have somewhat an overactive libido, it isn't 'about' the sex either though in any relationship you can definatly expect there WILL be plenty of that.
I find the dynamic works better in general with an older Dom/younger sub so that is where I normally look. I generaly don't look too closely at anyone older than about 3 or 4 years below My own age. If you think you maybe an exception, that you have something to offer that I will be interested in... Fine, you may have to work that much harder to convince Me but I am not totaly closed off to the idea. I simply concentrate My efforts where I KNOW the greatest chance of finding what I seek is.
Likewise I am mainly looking for that elusive long term committed relationship, but I am not adverse to meeting for play and if someone is particularly appealing maybe more than play, but again it isn't where I am focusing My attention. If that is what you are looking for, don't expect Me to be approaching you, you will have to make sure you let ME know the option is there to be considered. I have a particular fondness for flogging a good looking girl, so I will always be easiest to persuaide for that.
I am NOT looking for a doormat. I am looking to collar a person. A girl who has thoughts, needs, wants and opinions of her own. Submission doesn't mean loosing those things, but choosing to give control to another.
Expressing those thoughts and opinions in an appropriate manner, communicating those needs and wants clearly so I have all the relevant information to base My decision on. Accepting, submitting to those decisions even when they are not what she would have decided for herself.
Honesty is paramount. Lies WILL result in dismissal. I expect truth from the start. You can't trust a liar and without trust there is no relationship worth having, D/s or otherwise. I am bluntly, some would say 'Brutally' honest. I expect the same from any girl looking to be collared by Me.
I am NOT looking for someone to move straight in with Me. Whilst I take on responsibility for a girl 24/7, I am not currently looking to share My living space on a permanent basis. If that comes it will be a result of a long term relationship where trust and training has been worked on for months or even years. As such I am particularly seeking in the London area/SE UK.
If you are going to write to Me, please, no one liners, they are not well received. If you are not willing to put in at least some effort to make a first impression then you are unlikely to put in effort in a relationship. Give Me some idea of who you are, what you are looking for and why you think we may have areas of compatibility.
SAY WHAT YOU MEAN AND MEAN WHAT YOU SAY!
