Update! 3/2022

*** I don't bother to respond to "Hi" "How are you" and similar one liners. I get too many to bother.

I'm currently open to and - if not actively - perhaps somewhat lazily (as in waiting for one to fall into My lap) seeking a great second male submissive. I'm open to the RIGHT person and situation. I don't check this site frequently though as I'm busy and it's frankly easier for me to wait for mail to accumulate.

I have previously been in and enjoy an mFm hinge type triad and I've had 2 live-in submissives in a relationship. One moved / things happened, what can you do?

I like to let relationships develop naturally into whatever they are meant to be, so I'm not saying I'm looking for live-in just that it once worked out well and was a dynamic that suited Me / us.

Now, WAIT WAIT WAIT - Don't start writing yet. 

In the interest of full disclosure - I already have a collared boy. (Who is NOT bisexual so, there will be no forced bi in my household). He's just not going anywhere. SO! You must be poly or open to exploring poly. I am not the jealous type and I expect that to be true of you as well. If that's not going to work for you and you're looking for long term monogamy - I am NOT the Lady for you.

YOU MUST BE:

LOCAL or WILLING TO RELOCATE. Sometimes it can work if you're able to travel frequently, and air travel obviously shrinks distances, so this isn't a 'hard limit' ;)

ATTRACTIVE & FIT (as in, no stranger to the gym, you know what olympic lifting is, and maybe you even like the occasional crossfit workout. You appreciate words like 'vascularity' and 'striations' and you know how to make a mean protein shake.

Brainy AND Brawny - we can figure out the fetish connection and likes/dislikes IF we actually connect on any other level. I don't JUST want to beat the snot out of you, I want to like you, find you intriguing, engaging and attractive...and THEN beat the snot out of you. Just kidding...mostly.
 
POLY or OPEN to the IDEA of being poly.
 
You are a stable, rational adult who just happens to crave more than a vanilla relationship can give you...but you are capable of managing your own life and pursuits...and at the end of the day, you would love to lay all that control at the right Woman's feet.
 
You HAVE A PICTURE. Let's be honest, this will never work without attraction, so...
 
Just a HINT - you will do WAY better with Me if you put a little bit of effort into your reply, 'I'm interested' or similar one liners don't exactly endear you to Me. Asking if I'm interested in X when I've clearly stated in My profile that I am (or am not) - grrr. If you're far away you'd better be telling me about your family who lives nearby, plans and ability to visit, or remote work capability - otherwise WHY are you writing from WAY OVER THERE?

Tell Me what you're ultimately looking for or have failed to find and what you think you can offer in a relationship to a Woman (that is NOT code for money, you cynic) - what do you see your ideal situation and future looking like - what would make you so content - so happy? What future seems out of reach now but would be just what you would be afraid to hope for if you could have it? Have you ever connected with a Dominant Woman via Kink AND outside that arena?

Everyone criticizes CM but I like this site. 

I've heard people complain that there are no genuine lifestyle dominants.

I've had waaaay more success making real time connections on CM than on any other site.  I've met several awesome lifestyle male dom/sub couples and other female dominants (with a couple that I know personally who are LOCAL non-pro and looking for personal relationships).  These are folks we hang out with regularly who are terrific people in addition to being lifestyle. I also communicate with a small number of non-pro Ladies in other cities.

I've also met a few local quality male subs who are genuine submissive gentlemen and who fit my very stringent requirements for distance and fitness level. I've played with a few as well and even when it didn't necessarily become a "relationship" I've maintained a friendship with them and invite them to events or gatherings.  I've even visited a couple of them and stayed in their homes when I was in their area for events such as Tampa's Fetcon.

Yes, I have to weed out the morons looking to wank just like anyone. I also communicate with a few out-of-town boys who have cam verified and talk about making a visit to my area. We'll see.

So, why is everyone so down on CM?  While I imagine that the experience is very different for a male sub, but is it THAT bad?  Are there other sites that have been so much better for you? 

I met my current sub via ALT years ago...which I'm no longer active on, too commercialized.  I met the other boy that I've been training since August 2011 via CM. It DOES happen.

 

Stable, sensible FEMALE subs or switches welcome - because you are rare, like unicorns.  I enjoy women, on occasion, and friendships growing from that would be welcome.  

MALE SUBS, well....

Ok, I have 2 collared boys now. So... I'm good. Awash in attentive testosterone. No new boys needed. Boy levels are at Maximum. Except - 

I mean, the two of them think that they are funny and give Me a hard time and say that new applicants are welcome if they want to split up more of the housework & chores, but...I'm pretty sure that they are kidding.... pretty sure. 

Aaaaaanyway. Service subs... maaaaaybe....for beatings and training and service. And pool cleaning and also beatings. And laundry and yard work... massaging and carpentry... and also sous-chef-ing... accompanied by beatings and/or electrified testicles (aka - Butler / summoning device from the other room). 

Beware the Domina with an off-kilter sense of humor - our punishments are curious and unpredictable. 

Don't be frightened by beatings - one of the boys is a HUGE wuss (you know who you are) and can only take level 3 beatings - mockery ensues - but that is all that seems necessary to dissuade him from bad behavior.  

Here's the thing though - guys keep writing and saying - I can clean! I can rub your feet... yeah, that's not really necessary. They do that. If you have specialized skills... you're a carpenter or you are next-level - you can say... help me build bondage furniture I've designed on paper but can't translate to real-life and then you'd like to help Me test it out - THEN we can talk.  The boys have skills - but woodwork and construction - that's not in their bailiwick. 

Mind you, friendly additional boys might make good scenery at parties or good extra guest foot-rub-ers. Or tables... footrests... etc.  But if you're trying to just get Me to introduce you to anyone else I know or to tell you when we next intend to go to a Munch or local event... your one liner "I'm available!" isn't going to do it. Who are you? How are you different or interesting? Don't tell Me about what your penis likes.  Beyond some outliers - it's probably NOT that different.  So, you know what is different? You have a vanilla personality - tell Me about it. Sometimes, if I feel like it, I may tell you why your approach sucks and you're not getting any replies. Unless it is so zero effort that I can't be bothered. 

I am even ok with cut and paste introductory messages as long as they are GOOD cut and paste introductory messages. Try not to make it so obvious, you're killing Me. 

One more thing. If you send Me a one liner giving Me no info beyond stating your availability or if you ask Me if I do Cam or phone training or if I will session or if I like any of the things that I have explicitly stated that I don't like in My profile - I know you didn't read it (which likely means you haven't read this) and I feel no qualms about deleting such messages. 

If you've ever sent such a message to anyone and wondered why it was deleted... there you go. 

I am polyamorous and dominant.

I've got a collared boy and I'm also being served by another boy. He's new... we'll say he's "in training" and "owned" but not "collared"... eh, semantics.  If you're awesome and you'd like to accompany Me/us & some of our friends to a local event or munch, hey, I'll consider it - reach out and say something polite & sensible AFTER reading the bulk of My profile, if you please. 

I'm NOT A PRO DOMME. This is a meritocracy, baby.

If you want training or a position with Me as an additional sub, houseboy, etc...with an opportunity to move up in the ranks and earn a collar - and I'm LOOKING for a second boy to COLLAR, then you're going to have to be smart, funny, attractive, and willing to work well with others. 

Read a couple of journal entries down for basic requirements. 

I also sometimes know other Ladies who are looking and sometimes you may not be the right one for ME but... you might be juuuuust right for someone else. 

;-)

Fetcon is around the corner!

I'm getting excited! Less than 2 weeks until Fetcon!  I'll be at the in-hotel play parties on both Friday & Saturday nights.

 

I've already earmarked a couple of interesting-sounding demos and workshops.  I am torn between the "Full Contact Resistance Take-down" demo and the violet wand demo, both on Friday at the same time.  Hmmm.  I'll probably attend the Lew Rubens demo ('cause, hey, it's Lew Rubens), I am also interested in the photography/video demos, among other things.

 

See you all there!