I have been in and out of the lifestyle for 15 years. After trying to be ok with vanilla relationships and having them fail, I finally accepted that this is a need, not a want.

I am a sub, leaning to the babygirl (though not "little") side. I enjoy some protocol, and a firm hand but I also need the kind of attention, support and cuddles that a more Daddy-type offers. I am a strong woman, and need the safe space to let someone be strong for me.

-Note:  I am not looking for an online only relationship, nor will I relocate. And while I'm happy to make friends, I do not have to ability nor time to make a long distance relationship work.

Please don't waste my or your time asking me what my top 3 fetishes are, or which are my favorite panties (yes, this was an actual PM) If you need those answers that badly, they are: 1. an intelligent and functioning brain 2. NOT being a pervy creeper 3. Respect As for the latter, my favorite panties are the ones you'll never get to see, because you're being a fucking pervy creeper.

•I believe that uber nazi feminists will be the death of REAL women AND chivalry.

•I'm a hopeFUL romantic.

•I'm a closet geek. ("Do or do not, there is no try...")

•I'm a pluviophile. (don't even act like you're not googling that shit right now)

•I win at fantasy football.

•Jameson on the rocks, thank you. (and you'll have to ask if you wanna start on my bourbon preferences)

•I'm not Willy Wonka, expect no sugar coating from me.

•I'm a wine snob, but don't know the terminology.

•I've been told I'm intimidating, more than once. (can't imagine why...)

•I've taken boys' money while playing pool, and I'm not so rusty that I can't still.

•I make a pretty damn good, from scratch, carbonara.

•I sing too much for someone who can't sing.

•I can drive a stick, change a tire, and fix a toilet.... If I need to.

•I am also comfortable enough in my womaninity (it's a fucking word, I said so) to expect a man to open my doors and kill my spiders.

•I say fuck too fucking much.