Very few Doms know my capabilities, especially sexually. When I say my libido is more like a man, I mean it. I think about sex a lot, I'm easily aroused, I cum fairly quickly, and I'm usually one and done.

As exciting and sexual as this sounds, when I don't have a Dominant to please, it's actually...well, just necessary. To keep my sexuality 

up and ready, to keep my libido high (use it or lose it), and to keep away some really base cravings, I have to attend to my drive as a part

of self care. Ha! Sounds sexy, but sometimes it just makes me feel lonely. 

I miss the Doms who know that part of me, and hope I can meet and become one with new potential partners who will know me that well too. 

It sure seems like there are many, many Dominants on this site that *want* to find a sub who will desire, obey, heed, do, etc. as they direct 

and tell them to do, but when I ask them, Are you worth it? they often get angry and defensive. I think instead the smart and experienced

Dominant will indeed be able to answer that question from an interested submissive with an accurate, honest, and appealing list of how they 

have taken care and managed themselves well, first and foremost. 

I stand firmly in the Do as I say Do as I do camp within a dynamic. So many men who contact me aren't Dominant at all, and the first sign

is that they cannot or have not positively Dominanted themselves to a level of respectabilty and dare I say excellence, that both enhances themselves

and attracts a potential sub to their side. Read that again! 

We all have physical issues, personality issues, baggage, etc., that we have acquired over the decades, and I can't fault anyone for 

living life, but it's ALL in what we do with said issues and baggage that makes the Dominant and makes the sub a good match. And please, have the

astuteness to know when someone is on your level or not. Think Like Attracts Like, or at least start there when contacting or considering a potential. 

Be honest with yourself and that person, and always look in the mirror before heading out! 

So many Doms who contact me here always seem to assume I'm full of all these unfulfilled fantasies about kink and a dom sub dynamic that are 

unrealized, offering their cocks, hands, and sometimes even their minds to lead me down the path into my subconscious of dark desires. 

Maybe those kind of offers entice other women on this site, ones who have had only dreams of scratching their itches, so to speak, but 

hey fellas, if you have read my profile and my journals, you would know I have a great lifetime of experience for us to begin with. 

That alone should elevate our initial conversations above the fray. 

What I'm seeking here, what I'm seeking from you, is your extra special sauce and inner sanctum of domination, control, sensuality, experiences, etc. that all impact you and bring you to this current wonderful state of being you in all your learned kink glory.

So that we may dive together into the depth that our conjoined minds and sexuality and dominance and submission can open before us when we conspire to love and serve and liberate to build a fortress of dynamic. 

So please don't ask me to tell you a dark longing I've held my tongue about, because the most sexy longing I'm desiring most is to have you 

meld your mind and body and spirit into me so I can become truly yours forever. 

One of these days...

I'll find a Dominant that sticks around, that is thoughtful, that can hold up over time, that is fit, that is educated, that can laugh, that is disciplined, that is caring, that is insightful, that gets up and moves forward after a setback, that plans ahead, that tries every single day, that is growth oriented...a Dominant JUST LIKE ME. 

For that will be the Dominant that I can respect, be loyal to, and submit to. 

And any Dom that owns a Barcalounger can just turn around now.

I'm sure you're a great guy, but I'm sorry, no. Just no.

Thanks!