Intelligent Black Domme whose experience has shaped firm ideas of what she doesn't want. 

Stupidity is most unwelcome.  BDSM is centered around the largest erogenous zone we possess, our brains. Being intelligent, articulate, and able to think for yourself are all pluses.  Anything else is unacceptable.

Bad hygiene is also high on my list of things I find less than desirable(there is nothing more repellent than bad breath, body odor, and/or just being plain filthy).  If you don't brush your teeth multiple times a day and people have kindly pulled you aside to mention that you smell on more than one occasion, take some of the time you're cruising sites like this to baptize yourself in a new religion.  It's called soap and water (toothpaste is not optional).  If you aren't sure about whether or not your hygiene is good enough, please err on the side of caution and follow the above instructions. For the same reason, smokers need not contact me unless they plan on quitting immediately and permanently.

A couple of clues that you might be dirty include not having been to a dentist in years or having roaches crawling along your walls.  If moving a piece of furniture reveals mounds of dust bunnies or dirt piles, if there is mold growing in your bathroom or you haven't cleaned said bathroom in weeks or months... or years, then you can be assured you are dirty (and not in a good way).  If you are hesitant to invite people over because of how you live or an odor hits you every time you cross the threshold when you come home,  you need to stop reading now and get to cleaning, hire a cleaning service, or get new, dirtier friends who appreciate you just the way you are. 


Being an Adonis is unnecessary, but taking care of yourself is.  Not being able to climb stairs without being out of breath makes for poor service.  Having a stroke in the middle of play can be kind of a buzz kill.  If you can't look down and see your feet, it's just not healthy.  If you have "let yourself go" and are one cheeseburger away from a heart attack, join a gym and serve the treadmill for a while.  Your future Dominant will appreciate it and you all the more.  How can you "take care" of your Dominant if you can't take care of yourself? 

Pathological or recreational liars can stop reading now.  Being able to submit involves being able to be open, honest, and vulnerable.  BDSM isn't for you, please consider LARPs  or RPGs. If you have enough emotional baggage to start your own railway, focus your energies on removing the excess, so that one day you might be truly able to serve someone well.  Drama Queens and Kings can hold court elsewhere;  life is just naturally complicated enough without adding more confusion and distress.  Perhaps sneaking around on a spouse or significant other makes sense to you, but it constitutes dishonesty as well.  I have no patience for deceit. 

Being inexperienced is not a negative, but vacillation is.  If you aren't sure of who you are or are torn with indecision about whether this lifestyle is for you, remove yourself from the playing field until you make up your mind.  There is nothing wrong with not being sure, just be honest about it. 

I am sure that cyber and long distance play can be fulfilling, but isn't something I desire.  If you can't meet in person, you aren't for me. 

Last, but definitely not least.  One's disposition is very important.  Having a terrible personality is terribly unbecoming.  That can manifest itself in so many ways.  Being egotistical, overbearing, demanding, temperamental... the list goes on and it doesn't make for the best Ds dynamic.  Tied into that would be one's emotional and mental health.  If you are diagnosed with some mental illness, please be sure to state so.  Some things are workable, others aren't.  Once again, honesty is the key.

If you have read this far and I haven't hit a nerve, then welcome!  Let me tell you more about me.  I am attractive, spirited, creative, passionate, and extremely kinky.  My enthusiastic nature and my chronic curiosity has shaped my abilities nicely.  There isn't much I haven't tried and not much I don't enjoy (lots of negatives for such a positive statement).  I am not good at being a stern and forbidding Mistress, my sense of humor is more cutting than my tongue.  I like having fun and pretending to be something I'm not constitutes role playing.  I'm more wicked when I am in high spirits.  People have learned to beware the twinkle in my eyes.  If you want to know more, write me and let me know you read my ENTIRE profile.