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Hetero Male Dominant, 47,  Mostly Londonish, United Kingdom
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notniceman

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This is not the profile of SensualOrgasmDom69. Please look elsewhere for that kind of thing Fuck, I hate that this thing needs me to update my age Lets get straight to the point. (and I added stuff!) (twice now) (scratch that, 3rd edit) I am not a nice person. I am not here to find the love of my life.Least I don't think so, never say never. I am not a ropes and floggers, leather and latex kind of person. This is not some bit of bedroom fun, but just who I am. Controlling, demanding, sadistic and generally uncaring when it suits me. I like to explore where others dare not, both with the body and mind. What I am here to find is whatever takes my fancy. It could be easier to say what will not take my fancy. Demanding, princess types are certainly out, as are those who require a massive romance aspect. Sure I can offer affection when it suits me, but overall its not something that should be expected in bulk. Just something I can understand can be required much as a car requires an oil change every now and then. Heck, sometimes even I need that kind of downtime. I am the kind that gives kink a bad name. I would happily take on one with poor self-esteem, not to "fix" them, but as a way of controlling them. Someone who will lower themselves to the level I desire, someone who can live without rights. I find interest in things normally unacceptable. I'm not that bothered about looks and such, I just want someone who will put up with whatever I throw at them. I think D could be my favourite letter for what I want, downtrodden, dejected, dependant, desperate, doormat, perhaps even damaged. Even if you are not these, but want to be, or will be these at times, there could be opportunity. I know what I seek is difficult to find, especially on a long-term basis, so I would perhaps consider other arrangements, chat only, occasionals, part-time and so on, although my preference is for something regular, on-going, something where there is time to build deeper trust, explore hidden alleyways of the minds, to actually learn each other. I'm not likely to be on here much, it is very much a case of nothing ventured, nothing gained. However I do get mail notifications, so anyone who does decide to message me will be read soon after. Totally single, can travel, can accommodate

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 notniceman

 Dominant Male

 Mostly Londonish 

 United Kingdom

 Willing to Relocate

 47

 Hetero

 Caucasian

 11/04/13

 

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Journal Entries:
1/23/2023 4:30:36 PM

Been pondering lots recently, wants, needs, likes, and how different each can be. How they can even be contradictions. 

 

There are rarely simple answers to such pondering, I need to get some work done on the car, but I don't want to, its too bloody cold. Likewise clearing the yard, fixing the stable roof etc. Worst is when my needs/wants/likes means relying on others who can't help by doing their part.

 

So tomorrow, I'm going to just tidy my desk, await the delivery of new printer, and move so.e of the crap of other people clutteringthe conservatory so I can refill it with my junk


3/1/2018 5:22:34 PM
Part of me wants to really go do something truly reckless, irresponsible, to switch off that part of my mind that figures consequences

10/5/2017 4:22:59 PM
Its getting close. The time of year with more free weekends, but shorter days and colder weather.

7/23/2017 11:18:56 AM
The more things change, actually they rarely do around here, different name, different pics, same . Wonder if they get paid per click by asos

3/15/2017 5:44:24 AM
A little rant today about some profile aspects that make no sense.

"Won't do anything illegal". Time to go home then, much of BDSM is illegal in my country. Even to the extent of viewing some profile pictures having the potential for jail and time on the sex offenders register.

"understanding of a true D/s relationship". True to whom? Gor? "Old guard"? Mrs. Grundy? There is no true relationship laid out somewhere, only your variety of true, and if you don't explain your idea of truth, don't be surprised if you get lots of incompatible replies, or miss out on some that may be perfect.

"Must be local". Two problems, if you only say UK, that is no help at all. Even if you do narrow it down, local is still a matter of opinion. The same town? County? An hours drive? Stupidly I can drive to great swathes of the area known as "the midlands" quicker and cheaper than I can drive across my own city. 

"look at my list" So often I see that, and the list is blank. Not very helpful. 

3/13/2017 12:39:18 PM
I hate end of financial year. It's like nursery school, all the bickering, squabbling and demanding. Luckily I have a slot of leave booked for when it's all over. I may even go visiting. 

10/19/2016 5:51:34 PM
I need a holiday. Just a couple of days

8/14/2016 4:38:01 PM
Jeez, this site is down more than a tart's knickers lately.

3/27/2016 5:40:27 AM
Here is an interesting fact, sadists don't need big toybags, they are just accessories and tools. 

3/23/2016 5:54:43 PM
Sensual Sadism?

Isn't all physical sadism about senses, primarily touch? Sounds like tautology to me, like free gift, all gifts are free by definition. 

Perhaps sensual sadism is service topping with a different wrapper on it?

1/2/2016 5:46:12 PM
Road trip?

9/26/2015 2:24:58 AM
A night of loitering round London. A combination of interesting and boring

9/22/2015 5:19:12 AM
So, a couple of busy weeks dealing with life and the curveballs it can throw. Time to relax a bit I think

8/28/2015 2:56:49 PM
Oh no! Not another run of 19yo "broken dommes".

2/18/2015 1:00:02 PM

Time off is driving me slowly madder


2/13/2015 12:53:02 PM
Much time off next week. Perhaps a little road trip, some time out to travel

2/3/2015 3:17:53 PM
Snow+night shift, could be very busy, or very boring

1/17/2015 4:58:34 PM
Road trip, or walk in the woods for my sunday afternoon off?

1/14/2015 1:11:59 PM
Bad weather = sat on standby bored out of what is left of my mind!

1/12/2015 10:39:20 AM

Snow forecast? Could make for a busier end to the week :)


1/6/2015 8:23:28 AM
Slavery, its not just about sex, but for me is all encompassing. "Sex slaves" are ten a penny, but people who will take that to all aspects of their existence are far rarer.

12/31/2014 6:14:25 PM
New year, no new expectations. The hope however of more travel, less work.

9/17/2014 3:50:00 AM
I often see profiles that seem a great match, they are almost always deleted within hours.

6/10/2014 10:43:26 AM
Almost time for my retreat. This time I want it to be different , to mix sadism with apathy, to use someone I can treat as disposable. Just a few days to let myself be free

4/14/2014 7:41:48 AM
The coast beckons, that shall be my easter

4/7/2014 6:30:07 PM
I have an inexplicable desire to do something reckless, impulsive.

3/11/2014 5:15:37 PM

Today I consider myself lucky.


2/21/2014 12:58:44 PM

A hot bath and streaming movies are a good combination.

 


12/7/2013 8:46:29 AM

So, all those demands for honesty.

 

Amusing given that I am perfectly honest and clear about stuff, and get the same kind of insults as those who are less clear about their intentions.

 

And girls wonder why so many men put on act, when the concept is clearly "honest about what I want to hear" :)

 

The amusment factor round here is fairly constant,


11/6/2013 3:37:07 AM

I notice logging in by phone that the people shown to me are very different. I wonder what may be missed when I do that.


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