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TheDarkNTheLight
| Hetero Male, 47, Chevy Chase, Maryland
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Dom with years of experience looking for a toy. Slave experience best, but training possible. Ok, maybe we can start there.
I AM looking for a long-term relationship, strongly D/s or M/s. She must be, at least, my equal in strength, looks, intelligence and heart, but have a deep desire to serve. She must be able to handle her tasks with grace and skill, and have pride in her accomplishments. I will keep her on her toes, both figuratively and literally, pushing the bounderies of her abilities in, and out, of the playroom. I will also give a soft and safe place to fall, when needed.
I will also be giving just as much: An imbalanced relationship will always fail. By her seemingly tireless work, I will have to stay on my toes, keeping things moving and growing. At the end of the day, we will always come back to each other.
Age is not a factor, but a sense of maturity is critical. I will have to see the pieces that make, from my experience, a girl that meet these needs. I will expect and require that you do the same with me.
This is the ideal: A strong, giving girl with an equally strong dom/master; yin and yang, equal and complementary forces, The Dark and The Light, working to make the perfect whole.
That said, we can start with a simple hello.
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9/9/2013 10:06:37 AM: [Soap Box]
Each Master/slave relationship is unique, but they all seem to do have some vague binding: Enough to call it Master/slave. This is just my own musings, so let me know if you do or don't see it the same way.
In thinking on those relationships, and going beyond the obvious power exchange, that the black and white of things is very different from a master or a slave's point of view.
Slaves always have the choice of do or don't; but, that often means punishment or removal. They even have the choice to leave the relationship. But, in my experience, that is about it. It is the very black and white view of do or don't do; all-in or all-out. It is that very black-and-white simplicity that is appealling to some slaves.
Masters have a necessary view of grey, quality of work, assessments, decisions based on a number of factors. It is complex and infinite: Not whether it is done or not, but the many aspects of what would be considered done and based on the experience of the slave. Whether that slave is reprimanded or praised or both is one of the simpler results of that Grey analysis.
I have no conclusion on this, I just found it an interesting observation. Maybe it is that the master needs to provide a way for the slave to succeed, so they may stay within that black-and-white environment. A good slave-heart wants to succeed and make their master proud, and the master must provide the tools to do exactly that, or risk tainting the purity of their slave's heart.
9/6/2013 5:55:01 AM: Ok, so maybe my profile was bare. I was just tipping my foot in the water after being away for so long. I had good reason.
The toy comment was an attempt to keep things light, but I was doing that to protect my heart. Doms are supposed to be strong and unflappable, but I can tell you from experience that we can be heavily rattled from within. For some of us, our connection with our girls is equally as deep as their connection with us. We're just not allowed to show it.
Still, I think things should start emotionally light and allow it to build as the relationship dictates. Just know that I want that ideal, too.
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