9/16/2012 10:48:00 AM: I am going to put this in writing so that I can remember it and possibly subs, slaves, and switches, will read it as well. When I first contact you sometimes, not always, but sometimes I can come across as being hugely pompous.  I am trying to let you know this upfront.  I tend to be this way in my business dealings and as such sometimes ruffle feathers even in my professional dealings but the bottom line is that I try not to be.  I am normally a very well liked individual in both personal and professional dealings, but sometimes I have to get things done in a hurry and thusly can be rather aggressive in my demeanor.  All I can do is ask forgiveness up front.  NO I am not doing this just to be abusive or arrogant, I just know me and how I am.  Unfortunately I do not know if this will change because being honest, a person's core does not change.  All I can ask is that you tell me if I am coming across that way and let me know... gently... that I am being a pompous jackass and I will know to tone it down.  I have another journal entry that will tell you right up front that I do make mistakes.  I do know this and am willingly acknowledging it, but I also know that I will do my best to keep it under control.  Just bare with me.... VPD

9/11/2012 8:11:52 PM: Something very strange happened this week.  Was talking to a sub just really general chat... She plainly told me that I was not her type.  I responded with class and wished her the best... She was totally flabbergasted at my response... to her answer I gave this response... ' If I were to let such a trivial matter as your rejection cause me to get upset, how 'in control as a Dom' would I really be?  Answer... 'NOT AT ALL!!!'... We parted ways with good will to each other and she and I both moved on... Case closed... Ladies:  If a Dom gets upset at your rejection of him, you must ask yourself the question... 'is he really a mature Dom in the first place?'... just my thoughts and my own way of thinking... not meaning to deride everyone out here... but the logic does apply in my way of thinking...

9/9/2012 11:49:20 AM: Maybe I am out of touch with reality, but guess what, it is my reality I am talking about.  To me this is how it should go pretty much to a 'T'... Message a potential woman She reads my profile and says 'Yes, this man is someone I want to talk to' The woman replies with the proper response.... I reply to her message and we are off to the races in communications After a bit of email messages... maybe a few days worth... then it should move to some chat client like Yahoo or MSN or GoogleTalk After a few chats there if the communications is good, then we move to cell phone and or webcam... (not for cyber sex either... I hate that stuff) Then we meet... Ok now this whole situation should not take more than say... 2 weeks in my opinion.  Some would say that my reasoning is off kilter because it is so fast... but if you think about it... People meet with total strangers to get their taxes done, get their hair done, get their nails done, and those are in a public place and if you meet in a public place I do not see any difference in what i am saying, thus my logic of meeting in about 2 weeks holds water in my mind.  Now the sub has every right to disagree and refuse to meet me... but if you follow my logic (at least in my mind) it is sound.  Any questions please ask.  VPD  

9/8/2012 4:53:54 PM: Some lost causes are STILL worth fighting for!!!!!

9/8/2012 4:29:42 PM: Some people will think what I am about to say will make me appear weak.  But here is the truth... Even us Dom's make mistakes... I know I made a huge one (possibly the biggest of my entire life) and it cost me.  This occurred a while back but it did occur.  Now even to look back on this mistake causes me intense internal and emotional pain.  I cannot undo it or even correct it as the consequences are a life time.  All I can do is apologize, which I did, and learn from it, and move on.  Which I have done.  I will not speak for all Dom's, but as for me... YES I do make mistakes!!!