Due to the difficulties updating profiles here, I want to share that I was born in 1975, making me 46 as of this writing.

Ive been exploring BDSM online since I was 18. And in person since I was 28. In 2015, I relocated from the Chicagoland area to the Lehigh Valley area. In Chicago I was an occasional participant at munches, sloshes, play events and kinky conventions. I wasnt around a lot, but I got out once in a while. Im eager to make friends here on the east coast and pick up where I left off.



What am I looking for? Well, first let me describe my limitations. Im a divorced dad with shared custody of two sons (born in the early 2010's). Because of that, I am firmly rooted to my location in eastern PA until roughly 2031. I also need to maintain a vanilla relationship exterior at home and outside of home when my sons are present. I keep my toys locked up now. But I have some interesting spaces - indoors and outdoors - on my 6 acre property.



So, within those constraints, I seek a feminine, submissive partner. Someone to help create a home and family. Someone to follow my lead, to communicate her needs, wants, and desires, but who then will trust me to act in a way that leads us toward our goals. In the bedroom, I prefer a mix of love and lust, playfulness and intensity, vanilla and kink. I look forward to having access to all three of her orifices. I look forward to framing her body with shibari rope ties, corsets, body jewelry, lingerie. I hope to experiment with a variety of toys and implements. I am not a sadist, and I dont enjoy inflicting severe pain. sp anking, hair pulling, nipple clamps, a leather belt, those are my style.



On a relationship note, I enjoy a variety of hobbies - camping, hiking, canoeing, auto racing (I own two competition vehicles). I enjoy exploring new places - whether an hour away or half way across the world. Though my sons have kept me closer to the eastern time zone the past few years.



With regards to gender, over theyears Ive determined that Im attracted to a feminine being - in mind and body. Im not so concerned with what genitalia nature gave you orwhat chromosomeslurk in your cells. If you can please me like a woman and treat me like a man, Im open minded. That said, a dude in lingerie doesnt arouse my senses.