I am new to this site but not to the life style.I have been on this site for 2 weeks now before filling this out in order to check the site out. What i have discovered is that the "doms" (and that is using the term loosely) on here think that loving a sub/slave is not appropriate.WHAT THE FUCK? A sub and slave needs to be loved and taken care of. Not going to ramble on about that just wanted to say something. As far as me, I am into the control aspect of the lifestyle more than the pain. Do not get me wrong pain is very important also.