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flowerchild1965
| Hetero Female, 48, Fort Wayne, Indiana
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2/15/2014 8:25:04 AM: so, I thought I found the right one. And it may be a bit later in life it will turn into something more, but he's not ready for the kind of relationship that I need.
11/14/2013 9:43:05 AM: Found an amazing man to be able to call my Dominant.
11/14/2013 9:42:57 AM: Found an amazing man to be able to call my Dominant.
12/7/2012 1:49:37 PM: Evening A/all,
I have been so busy with life and some changes. First, I have accepted a challenge of sorts to run a sprint triathlon for my 50th birthday. That is just 2.5 years off and for a woman who hasn't done sports since high school, it is amazing what will be entailed. I have the goal of weight loss and muscle tone for the first year, then focus on the individual events, swimming first!!!
Otherwise, the search continues. Many Doms here are looking for an occasional play partner, or don't want to actually spend time to develop the trust that is required for this lifestyle, or are married and just want a bit of spice on the side. I guess I am wanting more.
Now, of course, there are some out there that I have talked to, or met and just didn't feel that vibe of interest. It is not a mark against them by any means, just not 'there' and that attraction is needed both ways. I am sure there have been some great Doms who have looked at my profile and not felt the attraction as well. So, do I expect to find the right guy any moment? No. I am a realist, but if I don't look, then I can't find. So, I stay with the site and hope for right circumstances to put the T/two of U/us together.
flower
7/1/2012 8:18:36 AM: Wow, it has been awhile since I posted thoughts here.... life happens. I have enjoyed many emails from people and exchanging ideas. I have yet to find the right person for me, and may never. While there are those that sound like we could match, I do not fit their physical or age requirements. And that is fine. We all have our preferences, and those need to be respected and even cherished as unique.
I did get into a few discussions, both online and at the local munch, about lifestyle vs kinkster. And I am not sure that a kinkster is a 'poser' just because they don't agree with everything that is lived by another. I guess I really take people more at a universal level. We are what we are, all unique and here to experience life as we find pleasurable as well as fulfilling an inner need.
I would say that I definitely prefer to submit. At first, I can be assertive enough to initiate acts, but after awhile, that becomes dissatisfying, and I begin to loose interest. That is why any relationship I have ever had in the vanilla world fizzles out. After that initial 'showing' what I want, and how I want it (to a man who is not of the lifestyle that is)..... I really want to turn over the reins and let it go.
Now, I have lifestyle friends who are very very into the slave Master relationship. Where the slave can not touch the master without his order or permission. I love to touch and snuggle and am a orally tactile person. I would not do well in such a dynamic. But being told 'suck my dick' or 'bend over the sofa' sends a thrill down my spine....
Some say that is not the 'true' lifestyle, just 'kink.' And maybe that is so, but I am not looking for 50/50, at least 60/40 (or better yet 70/30) in the day to day power dynamic of the couple. So, I feel that is more than just liking 'kinky' sex.
What are your opinions on the subject? I would love to hear them.
flower
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