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Hetero Female, 42, Tucson, Arizona 

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 Tucson

 Arizona

 5' 6"

 275 lbs

 42

 Hetero

 Caucasian

 07/23/11

  To save us both some time: I am not here looking for quick hook ups, discreet encounters, online or offline play. I want 

a real relationship. Whether that is friendship, Mistress/slave, husband and wife, I am open to; but, it is never going to be sleazy. 

 

 

  I prefer something a little more organic. As in, one of us runs into the other one's profile, we email, maybe we chat, maybe we talk on the phone. If that works well, maybe we meet. We see who responds to whom in what way, and, if it's good, we go with it and see where we get to. Just so long as it is safe, sane, and, consensual - and, sane is open to interpretation.

  Limitations are for people with fear, or, who really just can't do something. That's what my limits are about, to be sure. Things I want to avoid, at least for now, and, things that would make me a person I would hate to be, and, things that I am physically, mentally, and/or emotionally incapable of.

  I've met dominant men that I wanted to be submissive toward, part time; some full time. I've met dominant men who felt the same way about me. And, I've met dominant men where it was all "Clash of the Titans", sometimes in a very fun way and sometimes in a very bad way. They do not scare me,  or, offend me, or, turn me off, by their dominance. In fact, dominant men, the ones who really are that full of confidence, are very relaxing and sweet to be around, mostly. Would I choose to live with one? I don't know. Point him out, we'll get to know each other, and, see.

  I've met submissive men who I wanted to be dominant toward, part time, some full time. I've met submissive men who felt the same way about me. And, I've met submissive men where it was all "Clash of the TItans", sometimes in a very fun way and sometimes in very bad way. They do not scare me, or, offend me, or, turn me off, by their submission. In fact, submissive men, the ones who truly want to give and to serve, are very relaxing and sweet to be around, mostly. Would I choose to live with one?  I don't know. Point him out, we'll get to know each other, and, see.

  For me, what is important is that I like this person, they like me; everyone's limits are respected; everyone gets to be themselves; and, it is a positive relationship. Kindness, empathy, respect, not just for me or just for him, but, for everyone, is important. Tolerance and the fundamentals of good citizenship are important. That he knows his own mind, has his own moral compass, and, enjoys the same in his lover, is important. 

  The rest..  well ... I can be a dominant woman and be with a dominant man. To be submissive toward him is related to his strength, not my weakness. As the song says "Are you strong enough to be my man." If you are that strong, then, why not?

 And, if he is submissive? Well, he still has to be strong enough to handle living with me, doesn't he?

  Uhm .. and, of course, weird enough. 

  Yes, weird is important. Other things are, also, important, because, they enhance the likelihood of our liking each other. But, those are things to discover as we get to know each other as people. If we don't like each other as people, there is no point in trying for husband and wife, Mistress and slave, or, anything else.

 

Goodbye, again.

7/23/2011 9:47:25 AM: FORMER PROFILE: I have a friend, a vanilla friend, who is willing to come live with me, pay my bills, do whatever I need by way of housework, cook for me (and, he is a chef), help me to make this place a better home, all so that I can be more comfortable and happy, and, so that he can help me create and sell my writing and artwork, because, he believes in my talent, and, because, he believes in me, as a person. He is willing to do all this, and, devote himself to me, without demand, beyond that I use him and care for him, with no more than the hope of time in my company, association with my art, sharing lives together, and, the possibility of a kiss on the cheek or a touch of the hand, the smallest thought of affection, from me for him or to be allowed to show the same to me. We do not share the same political or religious beliefs; we do not want the same sort of sex life. He does not want to change me to suit his needs. He just wants to enjoy me for what I am, and, to be a part of helping me to be more Now, if I can find a vanilla man who is willing to do and be all that, why is there no slave who will do as much?   

7/23/2011 9:21:11 AM: Things I do not look for in slaves: Lots of 'I' statements on profiles Long lists of fetishes that they live for Cock shots Long detailed invitations as to what they will allow me to do to (for) them 'Of course a slave must' statements  

7/22/2011 8:23:59 PM: Shall I screech? Shall I bellow? Call to me the craven, cowardly fellow? Will he whimper? Will he moan? Crawl away to corner to gnaw his bone? Is that how you see me? Thinks it's all I can muster? Am I domineering little B? Full of nothing but bluster? I shall sit. I shall wait. You will come, because, serving is your fate. In strength, you serve. In intelligence lead. Tied to me in your head. Is that how you see me? Is it of what you dream? Serving true strength, instead of fluff and cream?   That's a quote from someone. Who?

7/22/2011 1:28:27 PM: Just so you know, there is a big gap in between things, in at least one place. I don't know why, as I did not put it there, and, I haven't the time to worry about it. Just keep scrolling, is my advice. I told a man that I look for dominant traits in slaves and explained what those traits were. He saw them as being traits his wife has. Yet, instead of assuming I'd see his wife as someone with dominant traits, he assumed I was insulting her and saying she had none of those good characteristics, since he sees her as submissive. Weird! If I say black people tend to have full lips, does that mean I'm black, because, my lips are full? Or, does it mean that everyone else has thin lips? Am I now claiming to have thin lips? If I say that some flowers are blue, does it mean some of the stripes on the flag stand accused of being flowers and I am dishonoring the symbol of the United States of America?  Or, could it be possible that I mean that dominant traits are dominant traits, a good lot of black people have full lips, and, that some flowers are blue, and, that I mean nothing more than that - good or bad?  The fact is that dominant traits are (as quoted from sites on psychology): ‘speak as they find’   ‘don’t suffer fools gladly’ confident decision makers   time conscious find it hard to relax  using the time ‘wisely’ high degree of energy I shall stop here to say that, yes, despite what I say about my energy levels, it does apply to me, as the lack of energy, compared to some is related to physical unwellness; but, compared to other people, in the same relative amount of pain and discomfort, I am wildly energetic. Most of them can't even get out of bed! like getting things done  good at ideas good at problem solving Enjoy going into troubled organizations to turn them around Entrepreneurial   natural risk takers quickly get bored with the detail  are starters rather than finishers Which is why those who do not wish to own slaves often make good slaves. They need someone else to care about the details and to help them keep focus, whereas the submissive type cares far more about the detail, but,has excessive trouble starting and often has trouble knowing if they have finished. want to move on to a new challenge unlikely to enjoy detailed pastimes pushing themselves onwards and upwards can take a high degree of stress, more in fact than other types prone to burn out, because, they have difficulty stopping and relaxing Their speech will be direct.  enjoy single competitive sports rather than team games They will not take time for social chitchat but will want to get right to the point.  They will make flat assertions like ‘That’s rubbish.’  They will also use a lot of ‘I’ statements and be ready to give you the benefit of their wisdom and provide advice on what you should do.  Put them  in a group and you will quickly see them take control and lead that group. There are many different schools of thought extending from ancient times to the present that use four main groupings or categories of personalities. This is often called a 'four-quadrant model', and is used in many different psychological and employment contexts. A rough mapping of each major known school of thought is shown in the table below: Table of Equivalents for the 4 Personality Types Merrill-Reid Driver Expressive Amiable Analytical D.E.S.A. Dominant Expressive Solid Analytical Hippocrates Greek Terms (370 BC) Choleric Sanguine Phlegmatic Melancholy Western Astrology Fire Air Water Earth 'What's My Style?' (WMS) Direct Spirited Considerate Systematic The P's Powerful Popular Peaceful Perfect The S's Self-propelled Spirited Solid Systematic The A's Administrative Active Amiable Analytical LEAD Test Leader Expressor Dependable Analyst ARRAY (Jonathan Knaupp) Production Connection Status Quo Harmony Biblical Characters Paul Peter Abraham Moses Geier Dominance Influencing Competence Steadiness DiSC(r) Dominance Influencing of Others Steadiness Cautiousness/ Compliance McCarthy/4MAT System Common Sense Dynamic Innovative Analytic Merrill / Wilson Driver Expressive Amiable Analytic Plato (340 BC) Guardian Artisan Philosopher Scientist Kretschner (1920) Melancholic Hypomanic Anesthetic Hyperasthetic Sprangler (1930) Religious Aesthetic Theoretic Economic From (1947) Hoarding Exploiting Receptive Marketing Psycho-Geometrics (1978) Triangle Squiggle Circle Square/Rectangle Type A or B Type B Motivated Type B Messy Type A Casual Type A Compulsive PSI Controller Promoter Supporter Analyst Brokenleg Reclaiming Youth at Risk Mastery Achiever Power Belonging Attached Significance Generosity Altruistic Virtue Independence Autonomous Competence Enneagram Adventurer Achiever Helper Romantic Peacemaker Observer Asserter Perfectionist Animals Bear Monkey Dolphin Owl True Colors(r) (1978) Green Orange Blue Gold Children's Literature Rabbit Tigger Pooh Eeyore Charlie Brown Characters Lucy Snoopy Charlie Brown Linus Jane Austen Novel Characters Emma Woodhouse Lydia Bennet Elizabeth Bennet Marianne Dashwood Comics Jason Snoopy Cathy Ziggy Who Moved My Cheese? (by Spencer Johnson, M.D.) Sniff Scurry Haw Hem The Celestine Prophecy (by James Redfield) Intimidator Poor Me Aloof Interrogator And, what they neglect to mention:   BDSM                   Dominant         Switch              Submissive             Slave From left to right, these are described as:  1) Driver: Objective-focused Know what they want and how to get there! Communicates quickly, gets to the point Sometimes tactless and brusque Can be an 'ends justify the means' type of person Hardworking, high energy ?Does not shy away from conflict 2) Expressive: Natural salesmen or story-tellers Warm and enthusiastic Good motivators, communicators Can be competitive Can tend to exaggerate, leave out facts and details Sometimes would rather talk about things than do them! 3) Amiable: Kind-hearted people who avoid conflict Can blend into any situation well Can appear wishy-washy Has difficulty with firm decisions Often loves art, music and poetry Highly sensitive Can be quiet and soft-spoken 4) Analytical: Highly detail oriented people Can have a difficult time making decisions without ALL the facts Make great accounts and engineers Tend to be highly critical people Can tend to be pessimistic in nature Very perceptive That was mainly for your edification, and, possibly, your education. The point is that there are, psychologically speaking, dominant and submissive traits to the human makeup, and, it has been recognized, over and over again, over thousands of years, that there are 4 basic 'types' of people, made up of those traits.  You can call someone 'submissive' until the cows come home, they can submit to you (for you) by conscious choice or natural inclination, as much as you both please - but, in the end, they are the type they are, because, they posses the traits that they possess and no amount of retitling them will change that.  So, if I say I look for dominant traits, and, your submissive or slave happens to have them, be aware that I am talking about human psychology, not your own titling system, and, instead of assuming that I am insulting them and denying the traits that they do have, assume, please and thank you, that I am acknowledging their true nature, not their job description!   

7/22/2011 12:27:57 PM: Hmmm .. sometimes, you meet someone, and, they just annoy the beans out of you. And, yet, you find something well worth admiring in things they do type, in other situations. Which is the case for me, right now, in that there are three women on the forum, who, in general, i find snarky, rude, overly-opinionated .. but, all the same, some of what they say makes great sense, from time to time.    Just read the profile of one of them, wherein she expresses a great deal of what I , too, feel is important, and, tell others I am seeking. Weird, how very different we are in some ways, and, yet, how much we think alike in those ways.

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