I recently came to recognize that I am a switch. I believe I am actually more submissive than I am Dom. It was a transition of several years but I am sure of it. I wonder if I can change my screen name above. 

I am educated and intelligent and fully able to converse with an intelligent woman, yet down to earth and simple. No fluff or pomp here.  

I'm seriously seeking to be your submissive, for friendship, love, play, short term or  long term. I am unable and unwilling to hurt anyone, I would hope for the same in return. I am wiser to the pains of vanilla women.  

I am agreeable. Do you need to guess who's in charge? I assure you, you will be happy with me if you know how to communicate what you want. I take great pleasure in pleasing you. If I am to guess or assume what you want, then you can only be dissatisfied as no human can be perfect without the correct training so please know what you want and know how to tell me.   

I am private in every sexual way. I do not discuss my proclivities, inclinations or desires with anyone. Whether vanilla, or otherwise, the bedroom is to be respected and not disrespected by spreading it around like a cheap smut novel. I don't think bragging about anything is a good way to behave. 

I am neither fat nor ugly. An average man with an average build with some muscle tone. (Not built, just muscular like) I am seriously looking for a woman that is ready to begin a new relationship. I live in NJ, unattached. I am hoping for a long term, dedicated and loyal relationship. 

If you read this far, please do not ask me for a picture. Here's what we will do. We will chat on here a few times back and forth. Then we will exchange email addresses. Eventually phone numbers and then we will meet someplace public. The speed of progression through those things is your choice. This does 2 things. #1, meeting removes the need to send a pic. #2, sending pic online removes the possibility that you are a man, crazy person, or otherwise pic collectors who put up a phony profile. I have actually seen my picture posted to a name on a different site that was not my account but they were using my picture. 

Thank you for your understanding and even if you are not interested in long term, maybe I can buy you coffee or lunch and just show you a simple and respectful coffee time in public. Thanks you again.