Fruitless searches are almost less frustrating than a search which ends with someone crumbling at the moment of decision. But, our choices are either to continue searching, or turn away from what we need and be forever unfulfilled. Therefore...

If you respond to this post, please be mentally and emotionally ready to take the plunge! If, for example, I enjoy chocolate, I intend to have chocolate. I do not just look at it, talk about it, or wish I had some. Yes, still searching... If you are deeply and truly masochistic, you "get" that it is about more than brief, passing gratification; it is about the mental and emotional aspects as well... perhaps primarily. The physical stimulation and satisfaction is really just the cherry on top of a very complicated and delicious sundae.

Perhaps there is something deep within you which you know you need but have been afraid to fulfill; perhaps you have a serious, regular need with which you are very familiar, but have not been able to satisfy in some time.

Whatever the case, it is silly to put off what you can pursue now.

Here is what is in it for you:

No matter how twisted, perverse, bizarre, or unusual your needs are, I will help you fulfill them, with the following conditions.

1. You do not end up incapacitated, in the emergency room.
2. No children can be involved in any way.
3. Ditto animals.
4. You have to be willing to fully understand and apply "Safe, Sane, Consensual" and "Safe Word". I am willing to bend a little bit on the "Sane" part, as that is very subjective.
5. Once we are clear on limits and parameters, you do not make the rules; I do.
6. We will both be extremely discreet. It is wonderful to live our darkest desires, but we also have to live and work in the real world.

Here is what you should know about me:

I am told I am quite handsome. As that is a matter of personal taste, I will let you decide for yourself.
I am a sensual, severe, intense sadist.
I am a true Alpha Male; it is not a role I take on, it is who I am.
I do not smoke.
I am 5'11" and weigh 160 lbs.
I have never been married and have no children.

All right; so what now?

You have to take the first scary step and reply to this post. If you choose to do so, you should do all of the following:

1. Put "I GET it... I really do!" in your response. This helps me avoid wasting time on spam, bots, and other baloney; I will only read replies with the appropriate subject line.
2. You must include a photo. I am not interested in "adult" photos. I do not need to see you naked, nor see your private parts. A simple photo which you could show your grandma is sufficient.
3. Tell me the important things I should know about you, and I do not just mean in the masochistic realm. Your brain, your thoughts, your emotions, are of paramount importance to me. I must know that you have substance and intelligence, or this does not have any appeal for me.
4. Briefly explain your known limits.
5. Tell me the things you KNOW you need or desire, in terms of your fulfillment. There is no point in me wasting time guessing or quizzing you. Tell me. You do not have to be lurid nor titillating; we are both familiar enough with that's going on that a simple mention or allusion is sufficient. See my comments regarding your photo if you need clarification on the general idea.

What happens then?

I will respond with my photo, and answer any and all questions which you may have. Even if I do not believe we are a good match, I will be honest and reply to you and tell you so.

We will NOT play online. We will NOT have interminable e-mail or IM conversations. This is about the REAL THING in REAL LIFE.

We WILL determine whether we should be going down the same path together. We WILL speak by phone to determine whether we would like to meet for coffee or something similar, in order to gauge whether we should jump into the scary realm together.

I believe that is a pretty fair start, and that I have been clear. I hope to hear from you. :)