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buzbuz
| Pan Male, 49, NW Cumbria, United Kingdom
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Recently relocated, still to really find my feet in the area.
Looking for that elusive "the one" but would also like to make friends in the area platonic or maybe play-tonic. Need to get out and find the local munches,
Service oriented submissive seeks confident self assured dominant.
Its difficult to know what to put here that wont come across as trite or contrived, and will stand me out as the genuine person I am, but here goes.
Ever since I landed on a copy of The Story of O in my early to mid teens Ive been attracted to Ds, BDSM, call it what you will. However even at that early age I knew that book had it upside down for me and that I was submissive rather than dominant, but back in those pre internet days it was difficult to know where to look to explore things and though I tried to raise the issue with girlfriends of the time, I probably didnt articulate it very well or really know enough about myself to anyway.
Fast forward a number of years and things look different, Ive spent 10 or so years exploring, and in the process learned a lot about myself, what my needs are (not that Im needy, but we all have needs) and just where I sit in the grand scheme of things. Ive attended munches, events and private parties at times and had relationships with Dominants some lasting much longer than others
What I am looking for is a Ds relationship with a real connection, be that a long term outwardly vanilla one, or regular meets with someone of a compatible outlook. Im not going to list a load of kinks because they are almost irrelevant, with the right person anything can be great and even my hearts desire could be rubbish with the wrong person, and anyway Id want to do what pleases you, I get great satisfaction from just that. My seeking fields are broad because it not necessarily about sex for me, not that Im adverse to it or in particular the conscious denial of it, its the power exchange and service I seek. (I almost didnt put service because it and serve have been so cheapened and sullied by fantasists and wannabees whos idea of Ds springs is so poluted by porn and the internet as to be farcical)
I wont go on and on, but if I have piqued your interest even just a tiny bit and you want to know more, then by all means ask. Ill be open and honest as theres no point in being otherwise, but if there is something Id rather not discuss imeadiately Ill say so - oh and I wont hound you to the point of needing blocking just because you sent me a message once.
A few final things - though the people who most need to read these likely wont read this far.
I will not use honoriffics with someone I havent so much as spoken to let alone met - to me such titles have a meaning and to use them too freely dilutes that meaning when I do wish to use them.
Submission is given not taken (really its by mutual agreement), I recently had someone tell me they were considering taking me as their submissive - that didnt go down too well given I hadnt so much as asked.
I am not a worthless sub - who would want something that is worthless - calling me boyboi or bitch, slut etc will just fly over my head, and speaks to me about the person saying it. With the right person, its a different matter - see honorifics above.
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1/24/2013 12:23:47 PM: To all of you genuine people out there don't give up this place can work.
I first registered some 23 months ago and have met a number of people as a result of my time here, all good people who I had varying amounts of fun with and most I still chat too occasionally.
Yeah sure I've also had my fair share of time wasters and thankfully only one crazy but on balance I'd say the proportions weren't too bad and it's not too difficult to avoid the more obvious time wasters anyway.
But more recently I was contacted by Miss Red Dragon (account now closed) and we skyped, met in public etc etc and are now sickeningly happy together (well I am anyway), I really couldn't have asked to meet anyone better matched to what I was looking for in my profile - we just fit.
So my message again - don't give up! Keep your eye on the target and keep trying, there are decent people here.
My old profile (seems daft just to delete it)
I'm sure one off play suits some but I seek a deeper, more lasting connection than that, though of course every relationship has to start somewhere. Ideally an outwardly conventional 'nilla relationship, but built on D/s footings. Whilst I have ticked a few interests etc I do not hold these in high regard. For me submission, service and the D/s dynamic is my prime desire.
I have photos available and am more than happy to talk on the phone or meet in a vanilla setting to 'prove I am genuine', it is so difficult to get the right impression of someone online.
I have ticked the straight box but recently I have come to realise that perhaps I am not as straight as my past history might indicate, probably more so than the usual for these sites 'bi-curious' but not enough for me to truly describe myself as bi.
I've been attracted to the D/s scene as long as I can remember having stumbled across a copy of the Story of O by Pauline Reage (and another less well known book who's title and author I cannot recall) in my early to mid teens. The Story of O is of course a BDSM classic and is M/f oriented. The other book I read back then was F/m and that really struck home. Fast forward a few years and apart from a few minor dalliances (like any vanilla couple might on occasion) I never really found a partner who shared my kink. Single again I joined here and a few other places and have had a couple of enjoyable experiences, but those never seemed to work longer term. Then met someone on another site, and though I didn't really previously get the online thing, its really worked for me/us for a while.
I'm educated, articulate and polite to all. Respect should be mutual and needs to be earned by both parties so just as many Dominants don't like being called Mistress or Master by strangers, I don't take to well to those that don't know me assuming those same positions. We're all people first and foremost.
Outside of kink I have other interests including voluntary work and some sport, doing not watching, watching just isn't my thing at all, and I do ok at the level I compete at, but mainly its for fun.
I like to read and am revisiting some child hood classics at the moment.
Love films of most sorts and can appreciate almost anything on its merits. Trying to list a top ten would take me all day to decide and I would still want to edit it tomorrow as something else comes to mind.
Musically I'm pretty eclectic but have always leaned towards the harder edge of rock and metal, but love lots more too, not really one for dance music though.
I love to cook and can too! I know shocking isn't it a man that both likes to and can.
Respect flows both ways and needs to be earned by all parties. I can not unconditionally submit to a stranger, it is both potentially dangerous (others may get off on it I suppose) and unfulfilling IMHO. Such acts need to be in conjunction with a meeting of minds on even the very lowest level, for them to have any meaning. Would any self respecting dominant want a door mat who will roll over for anyone (and everyone)?
11/25/2012 5:04:54 AM: Why do so many 'Straight Male Dominants' list
Actively Seeking:
Submissive Men
He doth protest too much or just a lazy profile? Along the lines of those who reside in the UK I guess.
10/14/2012 10:49:05 AM: Fifty Shades of Grey - A husbands viewThe missus bought a Paperback...down Shepton, Saturday,I had a look inside her bag;
....T'was 'fifty shades of grey'.Well I just left her to it,And at ten I went to bed.An hour later she appeared;The sight filled me with dread…..In her left she held a rope;And in her right a whip!She threw them down upon the floor,And then began to strip.Well fifty years or so ago;I might have had a peek;But Mabel hasn't weathered well;She's eighty four next week!!Watching Mabel bump and grind;Could not have been much grimmer.And things then went from bad to worse;She toppled off her Zimmer!She struggled back upon her feet;A couple minutes later;She put her teeth back in and said.....I must dominate !!Now if you knew our Mabel,You'd see just why I spluttered,I'd spent two months in tractionFor the last complaint I'd uttered.She stood there nude and nakedBent forward just a bitI went to hold her, sensual likeand stood on her left tit!Mabel screamed, her teeth shot out;My god what had I done!?She moaned and groaned then shouted out:'Step on the other one'!!Well readers, I can't tell no more;About what occurred that day.Suffice to say my jet black hair,Turned fifty shades of Grey.
8/12/2012 3:35:42 AM: Well it seems that despite previous indications to contrary there are some sane, realistic and serious people on here. Makes a very pleasant change to chat to one certainly better than the nut jobs, fantasists and time wasters I have on the whole seemedu to have atracted here in the past.
Who knows where chatting might lead but i do hope that at the very least I've made au new friend.
1/23/2012 5:09:22 AM: Seems there are some real people here after all :-)
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