2/14/2011 2:01:03 PM:   WHAT is a Daddy DOM?   A Daddy & “Daddy’s lil girl”does not refer to the ages, real or pretend, of the perticipants. Nor does it imply “closet” desires. A Daddy Dom does not replace ones father, How ever he is a Daddy. This relationship is not about age play specifically ( beyond the occasional school girl fantasies) and this relationship is not based on any need to have sex with children.     He does have the ability to make you feel like a little girl however, a very cherished and sometimes needy little girl. It is a feeling like no other, it is the safest place a little girl has ever been, and it allows you the freedom to be all that you are with out fear of reprisals.  Daddy Dom is a feeling , an environment that two people have created. A daddy dom is so named because of the qualities he possesses and the service he provides.   So what makes a Daddy Dom? What Qualities does a Daddy Dom have?   A Daddy Dom wants to be the center of your universe . He wants to be able to mold to shape you, guide you, to be your mentor; driving you to be the best you can be in all aspects of life. He also will want to mold you to the image he thinks you should become. He believes in you more than you believe in yourself. To achieve these goal; he relies on a combination of love, respect, and discipline. Yes at times a lil girls needs punished to be kept in line.   He may love to cause her great pain in a scene, but he hates to be the one to hurt her emotionally. It hurts him to have to punish her, but he knows it sometimes necessary. This takes great strength on his part. It takes great strength to control her, and to shape her to be her to his needs and desires. It takes strength to be her confidant, her shoulder, her anchor. It takes strength to let her out into the world when all he wants to do is hold her safe in his arms. And it takes strength to do what is necessary when she needs to be disciplined.   A Daddy Dom knows the value of discipline, though at times his soft heart gets the best of him. He knows that in order for his little girl to be the best she can possibly be he must stand firm. He uses his experience in life and his knowledge of her to provide proper direction and punishment when the need arises. He knows this hurts her, and that tears at his heart, but he also knows it is for her own good.     A Daddy Dom provides something else that is very important to his submissive, acceptance and the feeling of never being abandoned. She is safe in his arms because he knows everything about her, and still loves her. When she knows that this man knows her dirty little secrets and doesn’t matter. To him she is beautiful.   What separates a Daddy Dom from any other Dom.    In most cases very little. Hopefully they all provide love, strength, protection, discipline, and acceptance. I have heard Daddy Doms described as a kinder, gentler, Dom. I like the definition though I know it wont apply to all. I guess when it really comes down to it I can’t explain it. There is something infinitely magical about a Daddy Dom. Perhaps it is something only a little girl can understand.   He believes more in you than you believe in yourself. What he wants in return is to be able to bask in his image of you, the image he has created. How does he achieve his goals? Through love, respect, discipline. His love for his little girl goes without saying. He accepts every part of her and works to emphasize the good while improving the bad. He loves her as much for who she is as for who she will become with his guidance.   It is the love that allows him to train her. He could not invest so much of himself in someone he did not love completely. This love would not be possible without respect. A Daddy Dom needs to feel great pride in his possession. He needs to know she can hold her own in the outside world and still submit to him. He shoulders the greatest respect for the gift she has given him and takes great pains to increase it’s value.   It is extremely important to him to know she can be with any man and she chooses to be with him. It is important that if he chooses to share her it is his way of being proud of her .     He knows that this makes discipline a priority in their lives, more than in some other D/s relationships. In order for the little girl to really trust she must know he means what he says. He must constantly deepen her respect for him. If he does not enforce discipline, this respect becomes a tenuous thing. If he submissive finds that she can manipulate him out of punishing her, she begins to lose respect and the ability to empower becomes impeded. He needs to empower her as much as he wants to possess her and it becomes increasingly difficult to be possessed by someone you do not respect. The discipline is also important when it come to her protection, both from those outside the relationship and those within. He is the one who makes the decisions about how she will relate to the world in general and his discipline ensures that she follows these rules. I think most Doms have a bit of the Daddy in them, taking on the role of male authority figure in their sub missive’s life and using their power to enrich that life. Daddy/little girl verbalizes the feeling, and adds a dimension of warmth, caring, and ritual that it’s participates crave.