Hello, London!

First, thank you for stopping by my profile. I know that most women spend so much time playing defense on this site that you hardly have time to investigate options at your own leisure. So I appreciate that youve taken a minute to stop here.

I am a 40-year-old man who is safe, sane, responsible, well-educated, and stable (financially and socially). I have traveled the world (and have the pictures to show it), stay current, and can uphold my end of aconversation (and not just about sex and kink). I also know my way around a kitchen and enjoy good food and good wine. By all outward appearances, I am a perfectly normal, perfectly respectable person.

But I also have a deep and abiding interest in dominance. This is mainly about control and submission. I am not naturally a sadist and dont derive muchenjoyment from senseless pain or physical abuse. What thrills me is the idea of a woman submitting to my control andsurrendering tome the responsibility for her satisfaction and mine. To me, a submissive is not someone who lacks self-worth or dignity. Rather, she is someone searching for the right space to trade her daily cares and responsibilities for the safety of a firm embrace and the comfort of knowing her body is truly desirable and desired, that it gives such pure pleasure and fills the senses. There is, I think, freedom in that letting go. I want to explore that and, if you and I connect, I want to explore you physically and emotionally.

However, Im not looking for 247, total power exchange. Id hope you can hold your own and be your own person when the ball gag is off -- that there can be communication between us about what works and what doesnt, about your needs and mine. And, of course, it should be natural and easy to transition out into the real world, where you would be a confident, accomplished person.

For me, dominance and submission are psychological. Dominance isnt about forcing a woman to do something against her will, it is about creating the right conditions so that she feels permitted -- perhaps compelled -- to do the shameful things that she has secretly wanted to do all along! Submission is a gift, and should be treated as such. It is not inherently inferior to dominance and, truth be told, the great secret ofcollarspace is that submissive womenhave all the real power on this site. They only give it up when they feel comfortable.

I wont make you miscapitalize pronouns, and I wont make you call me Master. I tend to think those rules and rituals are a crutch for the unimaginative and are a cheap way to assert instant dominance rather than earning it.

So, if all of this sounds appealing, now for the bad news. I dont actually live in the U.K. I live in the eastern United States. But I do travel to London several times a year. If, perhaps you are not looking for a single, all consuming relationship and if we can each offer the other a chance to experiment and grow in a new direction on regular but intermittent occasions, then that seems like an opportunity worth exploring. Anyway, I hope you will consider the offer and let me know if you see some potential . . .

Again, thanks for reading, and if youre interested to know more, please let me know!

PS I am completely discreet and respectful of privacy. In fact, I will probably insist on it for my own personal and professional reasons.