There are multiple aspects to my desire to control- my pleasure your pain
You are service oriented, wanting to cede control in a safe and consensual manner and yet enjoy that exchange of power, knowing that you are simply a thing - cherished and respected for your submission- but still something that can and will be used by me
Restraint, torment and use will all occur- within preagreed and respected limits that coupled with due care and attention to your well being