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ReadytoLove87
| Gay Male, 34, NorthTonawanda, New York
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Hello everyone!
So, full disclosure: I am extremely inexperienced in the ways of love, sex, relationships, etc. For most of my life, I was going through a lot of health issues that held me back from really putting myself out there. Typically, my response to realizing I had a crush on someone was "OH NO THEY'RE TOO GOOD FOR ME I GUESS I'M NEVER SPEAKING TO THEM AGAIN". I've spent the last year or so finally tackling a lot of those issues and getting healthier, both physically and mentally. I'm finally at a place in my life where I love myself, and am therefore ready to love another person.
I've always considered myself a Dom, but I don't have the mean, selfish streak that usually accompanies the role. Instead, I am here because I'm looking to be something of a caring mentor figure. I want a relationship more like a Daddy/son, Master/pet, whatever. I want to love someone unconditionally and nurture them, while also being in control and helping to mold and guide my boy.
I'm a bigger dude (though I've been losing a lot of weight lately!), and I've always had a thing for younger, slimmer, smoother guys. I like feeling in control and dominant, and want a boy who is submissive and comfortable with letting me take charge. If you're a boy who wants/needs someone in their life who will take care of you and make you feel secure and loved, or if you don't have the greatest self-esteem and need someone who will give you purpose and encourage self-expression and growth, I am probably perfect for you.
It probably goes without saying at this point, but I'm looking for a lot more than just sex or nude photos. Sex is important, don't get me wrong, but I primarily want a genuine CONNECTION. I want the relationship, the intimacy, the closeness. I've had very little experience and am a ball of anxiety, so I might be awkward about making moves and getting sexual at first, so my boy would have to be okay with that. I have a lot of personal growth of my own to do, so maybe we can go down that road together and help each other out.
Some more about myself: I'm still very much a kid at heart. I collect comic books, I play video games, I LOVE Power Rangers, I play Dungeons & Dragons every week, I write and have a million different story and character ideas floating around in my head at all times, I have a close group of friends that I have known forever and see multiple times a week (we are basically our own sitcom)... I'm very much a people person, and I work hard to make people feel comfortable in their own skin and encourage everyone around me to embrace who they really are and love themselves. Individuality and self-expression are the most important things in the world to me.
I'm really not sure what else to say, so... Shoot me a message if you're interested? I look forward to hearing from you! Hopefully my perfect boy is out there reading this!
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11/27/2022 10:27:56 PM: I feel like the majority of people on this site are clinging to an unachievable fantasy.
There. I said it.
Don't get me wrong... Kink, total power exchange, all of that stuff is GREAT, and I wouldn't be here if I didn't want that in my relationship. But so many people here seem to blow those things up into EXTREMES.
We are all here ultimately seeking some form of relationship. Even if you want your relationship to entirely revolve around sex and kink and that is all you care about, it's still a relationship. Especially if you're seeking to be a live-in slave, how do you expect to fill the void when you're NOT in the middle of sex stuff?
The emotional connection is SO IMPORTANT. Yes, it's important to me that my boy be cute and his looks match what I want, but I would get bored of him SO quickly if he had the personality of a potato. I know some of you want to be totally o b j e c t ified and locked away when you're not in use, which DOES sound hot and appealing, but I also feel that would get SO boring, lonely, and miserable after like... a week, if not a day. The kink and power exchange should definitely be present, but to me there is no satisfaction in owning someone without a soul. We are social creatures, and you should be giving more than just your body to me. The TOTAL o b j e c t ification stuff can be a fun activity we do sometimes and turn on and off as I please, but I just don't see the reality in centering a whole lifestyle around it. (Though the total power exchange element WOULD always be present. You are still my human after all!)
If you plan to approach me, PLEASE be ready to talk about more than just sexual stuff. Be your authentic self, let your personality shine through, give me a sense of who you are and what you're all about! I promise it will make me want to own you all the more. My favorite people are the ones with lots of personality.
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