4/16/2024 10:48:06 AM: It's hurts to get your hopes up with someone. There was a young lady that responded to us. We had some correspondence.  I mean while I get that not everyone is as open as we are,but you would think after that much correspondence a person would better understand that we want to care for a person first and a dynamic second. A personal connection on some basic level beyond kink. In between the service, sex, and whatever scenarios we get into there's a real life going on. We like stimulating conversations and to feel a part of the person we are with. This connection must be established prior to the need for dynamic. That's how we roll around here. It really kinda,scares me that these young people would just give so much of themselves so quickly without getting to know someone first. Maybe thats how some 'Dominants' want a person an empty vessel. This is your life your playing with if you're even remotely serious you need to understand this. I don't care about your sexual willingness as much. I mean that's a part of it but there's more to any relationship thats a person's willingness to be used any way. I've had that and when that lady and I could only connect on one level, it got boring. We don't want you just appeal to us one some basic level. To us you'll always be a human being first, a friend/family member second, and lastly a slave/ sub. Thanks DS

4/14/2024 5:33:10 PM: Sometimes it just baffles me. I mean have any of these ladies ever been vetted before? It almost seems as of either they've never done this before, or Noone gave enough of a fuck about them as a human being to allow them the ability to be themselves within a dynamic and not be defined by a dynamic. There's a difference. It still applies rules and with each person I choose how strict I will be according to their needs not my own. I can assume complete control of a situation when necessary but above all else this is a friendship,  and relationship involving strict code and open kink. I'm not here to not allow you to have a life of your own. I'm not going to restrict your life l. If you want a cage I'll build one. If you want me t I do your thinking and bid you my will so be it, but still I'm not interested in having just some decoration around the house without a personality. We are characters ourselves I mean really we love crazy people with great hearts that can handle the way we live. 

4/14/2024 3:43:30 AM: Well again someone responds in vague one line messages acting as if that minor response is really interaction.  Ask me anything isn't really showing interest in you wanting us to get to know you. While we realize not everyone is as open book as we are, but having to pull even the simplest of information out of you isn't very interesting to my lady. Please if you do respond to us try to show some interest in the process. Thanks.DS

4/13/2024 6:24:13 AM:   Vetting is the most important process to us. This takes time. Weve both had too much shit happen in our lives to just jump into something so important. This isnt pussy for rent. This is our lives here. Were committed to this process. This is exactly how serenity and i met. Our process took many many months and times we reflect on how we should have taken longer. Here we are 4 years later. We own a home together. Its not perfect but we are very happy and secure in our relationship. We want to share that with another. God forbid all we ask is that we take the time to get to know eachother prior.Dont you want to know were capable of providing you with the care you deserve for your service. Before a dynamic is struck shouldnt we connect as human beings. No amount of contract is going to make you serve us. We prefer through our committed care and compassion towards your well being we deserve and earn your respect, trust, and love. Its a process. I served a cruel mistress. I know how much it sucks.i dont want that for my home nor my life. Just because you choose to serve doesn't mean your not allowed to have a personality. At least not here. We love a crazy wierd people with fun personalities. I mean weve all been through some shit so we try to have fun and not define ourselves by trauma. A healing home. Thats what we offer. You think im shitting talk to my lady. Its not always easy around us as we both have our own issues, but in the end you will see for yourself, if you choose,we mean every bit of whatever we say. This is a very no bullshit household.We want to create a safe environment for us all to thrive and find comfort and joy and happiness in. It simple really. Its called life.If youve never been allowed to be yourself and have no real experience to relate to us with then express that too. Its ok we want YOU. Not a mirror of ourselves or what you think we want to hear. This isnt a game. We only ask you be real and not play games so we can learn and feel comfortable. Before a dynamic is even thought about, is it too much to ask to get to know the real person we're asking to spend our lives with?