Updated Jan/2025

This is going to be long. Feel free to read all or jump to the section you're most interested in. Important disclaimer at the bottom!

***General

Hello everyone,

My name is AJ.  I've been away from the community for quite a while due to several reasons!
I don't want to derail this already, but it's important to start by saying (especially that I'm trying to connect with like minded people) that I'm NOT a Trumper and do not want to interact or associate with anyone who is. The things I like about being a part of the local BDSM community include things like acceptance, open mindedness, and tolerance to name a few. I want to ONLY interact with grown-us who are intelligent, thoughtful, self aware people who are grounded in reality and have done at least some work on themselves!

Perspectives change! As we get older or go through experiences. I've gone through a lot of serious stuff over the past couple of years and it changed what I find important. I now prioritize the pursuit of happiness above all.

***Personal (who I am)

I'm a loving, caring, nurturing, decisive, logical, detailed oriented, highly analytical person. I don't believe in God and therefore I believe in personal responsibility and taking care of each other.
I love everything related to cars and motorcycles. My absolute favorite thing to do is traveling. I love off-roading, overlanding and camping. I would also love to travel abroad more often.
I am a foodie and I love cooking but I'm putting a lot of this on hold as I try to get back to my previous shape. I added current pictures and I'm leaving my old pics as a way to show what I'm trying to get back to. I like reading, especially non-fiction but admittedly haven't read as much as I like. I'm working on this now and very interested in reading more philosophy books!
I'm also into men's grooming. Things like shaving, colognes etc. I like to be neat and smell good. Also, my sense of smell plays a big role in who I find attractive or not!

***BDSM (everything starts with consent)

I'm a dominant, however, there are many ways of expressing that. I love taking control and making decisions in and out of the bedroom. However, I want to take care of my submissive in every way. I want to make sure they're happy, feel loved and cared for, and enjoy every aspect of the relationship. It's important to me that they enjoy sex and orgasm well and often! I don't have a sadistic streak but I'm NOT a sadist! I like bruises after play or spankings mostly because they say you belong to me. I do not enjoy giving pain just for the sake of it therefore a masochist wouldn't be the right fit for me. However, I truly am a pervert 😁
I enjoy exploring and will try most things. I know I'm dirty and have a very dirty mind and absolutely love all of it! There is nothing I love more than a woman's butt and everything to do with it. I REALLY enjoy the sexual "use" of my submissive. I thoroughly enjoy acts of service and physical touch!

***** Disclaimer ******

I only have one testicle due to cancer! I've been battling cancer for over a year and a half and it's still going. Hopefully,  I'll be done with it soon. The hard part is definitely over